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Babies: 3 - 6 Months
vaohara
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Ferber-enter please
vaohara
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Well it's day 1 of sleep training and I'm at the 3rd interval and LO is still crying. How long did your LOs cry on the first night? I am only doing it bc LO has his sleep associations really messed up. Wakes a ton overnight and falls asleep while nursing and wakes up when I put him down. it can take up to an hour before he goes down asleep just to wake in another our for the cycle to be repeated. I don't mind the waking but the not being able to put him down needs addressing. So how long for your LOs? Ty!
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Re: Ferber-enter please
So glad to hear this because I'm on night one of Ferber and my DD has been crying for almost 1 hour (after crying only 19 minutes to orginally fall asleep). Every doubt possible is going through my mind right now. This is so hard!!!! I'm glad it worked for you ladies. I pray it works for us.
Also- did you ladies feel like it made things worse when you went in to comfort your baby? I feel like everything I go in, she starts to cry harder when I leave. But I don't not want to check on her...
This crying is getting to me...
TOTALLY not being judgy, but are ya'll doing CIO all night? I have successfully done bedtime CIO but DS still has 1 feeding. When he wakes up I go in after about 5 minutes. Did y'all do it with bedtime and also overnight all at once?
keep in mind 4 months is still super young and more than likely they still need to eat overnight. just b/c some babies on this board can go 12hrs does not mean all of them can! so, go in and feed them and put them back down drowsy but awake.
also, some babies are also nowhere near ready for sleep training this young. the first time we tried w/ my son was 6 months and he cried an un-Godly 2hrs so i scraped it. we tried a few months later and it took 30 min. just something to keep in mind. i know we all want our sleep but you have to do what is best for them, not you.
We did Ferber for bedtime. First night was 38 min, second night 17 and third night 7. We have had two 20 minute nights since then and now DD is sick so things are a bit messed up.
We haven't really tackled night wakings, unless she wakes within an hour of just eating and then we let her fuss/cry back to sleep. She is still needing to eat twice and has been fairly inconsistent in what time that is so our rule is just to give her 10 min and if still upset, I go feed her (most times she eat like a champ) and sometimes she comfort sucks so I put her down drowsy. Eventually we need to work this all out but for right now it is manageable to at least be only up 2 times and have the back to sleep still be easier than it was.
I know she still needs to eat at least once as about a month ago she was going 6- hours until the first feeding (at about 2a-4a) but somehow that stopped happening and she started eating 3 hours after going down and then was awake every hour after that.
After letting her cry last night, I went in and fed her b.c it was already close to the time she would have eaten had she woken up after 6-7 hours of sleeping. I think tonight I'm going to feed her if she gets up 3 hours after going down for the night and then use the Ferber method to make sure she gets back to sleep. Then I'll feed her the second time and do the same. Like PP, I don't mind feeding 2x a night if that's what she needs but I can't sustain getting up every hour after to comfort her, rock her, etc.
sorry to be blunt but then you shouldn't have had a baby if you need so much sleep. this is what being a parent is....lots of interrupted sleep at this age. it's not about you, it's about the baby and you are putting your job above his needs. hire a night nurse if you can't handle it!