NTTCR- want to take it back

ForTheLoveOf Pink · January 2012

Morning all: I want your advice or opinions. I feel so horrible and helpless. Here goes: basically a labour dispute at the DH's work and we were talking about it on FB and I said something not nice about the boss (or so he assumes, it was relating to something else, however). Some "person" that the DH had on his "friend"list printed out his page and gave it to the boss. Yes seriously....nice person hey? This was back in Sept I think. Yesterday I had to go to his work to get the car and was standing there waiting for him to assist his customer and the manager came out and told me he just got a call from the boss and "you have to leave" before he calls 911.???? I'm just getting the keys I say and the manager says No it needs to be now!!!!!

I just feel so horrible. Maybe it is just another thing that I can't control. Should it bother me that the little man doesn't like me? I'm in fear of anyday being served court papers that he is going to charge me or something. My Dh tells me not to worry. It is just eating me alive. Im really feeling very depressed and helpless.

I thank everyone for allowing me to let this out in this place. I know all of you are so supportive and maybe i can get some "rationallity" on this issue.

MelleTX · January 2012

Not knowing what you said, this does seem like a bit of an overreaction. Would he have taken what you said as a threat? I think you are lucky your DH still has a job. If the conversation was at all perceived as threatening, he could have been fired on the spot.

Everyone needs to be really careful what you say on Facebook. No matter what you think, it's NOT private. And most personal conversations are not appropriate for Facebook.

I think your best option is to let it go. You can write a note of apology to the boss, but only if it is sincere and not a half-ass defensive apology.

But truthfully, your DH needs to look for a new job. If the boss would call 911 on you, then he is probably just looking for a reason to fire your DH.

ForTheLoveOf Pink · January 2012

No threats...basically about him being an a$$.

Country Girl in the City · January 2012

MelleTX:

Not knowing what you said, this does seem like a bit of an overreaction. Would he have taken what you said as a threat? I think you are lucky your DH still has a job. If the conversation was at all perceived as threatening, he could have been fired on the spot.

Everyone needs to be really careful what you say on Facebook. No matter what you think, it's NOT private. And most personal conversations are not appropriate for Facebook.

I think your best option is to let it go. You can write a note of apology to the boss, but only if it is sincere and not a half-ass defensive apology.

But truthfully, your DH needs to look for a new job. If the boss would call 911 on you, then he is probably just looking for a reason to fire your DH.

I have a big talk with interns every year about twitter and facebook. I have also been lectured by my DH about what can and can't be said about his job in public. My initial reaction was to say that you need to make an apology to the boss. However, you refer to him as little man in your post so it sounds like you really don't respect the man and should just stay as far away from him as possible so you don't do any further damage to his career. I don't know exactly what he does but I have watched more than one wife ruin their husbands careers with a poorly worded comment. It is not fair but it happens.

mslady919 · January 2012

OK, I have 2 things to say. First thing I think as long as it was not a threat he completely overreacted. You are entitled to your opinion of him and as long as you were no standing in the business shouting it to the top of your lungs, what can he say.

The other thing is I HATE that people take facebook/twitter so serious. It is my own personal space and the fact that a 3rd party felt the need to print it and present it to him was just simply childish. I understand your desire to take it back because it wasn't worth all the hassle you are dealing with now. But don't beat yourself up about. If you feel that it may interfere with DH job then you may want to offer and apology.

Mrs.McIrish · January 2012

mslady919:

OK, I have 2 things to say. First thing I think as long as it was not a threat he completely overreacted. You are entitled to your opinion of him and as long as you were no standing in the business shouting it to the top of your lungs, what can he say.

The other thing is I HATE that people take facebook/twitter so serious. It is my own personal space and the fact that a 3rd party felt the need to print it and present it to him was just simply childish. I understand your desire to take it back because it wasn't worth all the hassle you are dealing with now. But don't beat yourself up about. If you feel that it may interfere with DH job then you may want to offer and apology.

Sorry but I disagree completely. It is not a personal space at all. It is being viewed by everyone you "friend" and it is public space. There is no right to privacy in what you post.

Original poster: you can't unring a bell and I would just leave it alone. You can't fix it. Stay away from DH's job so you don't make it worse.

Country Girl in the City · January 2012

Mrs.McIrish:
mslady919:

OK, I have 2 things to say. First thing I think as long as it was not a threat he completely overreacted. You are entitled to your opinion of him and as long as you were no standing in the business shouting it to the top of your lungs, what can he say.

The other thing is I HATE that people take facebook/twitter so serious. It is my own personal space and the fact that a 3rd party felt the need to print it and present it to him was just simply childish. I understand your desire to take it back because it wasn't worth all the hassle you are dealing with now. But don't beat yourself up about. If you feel that it may interfere with DH job then you may want to offer and apology.

Sorry but I disagree completely. It is not a personal space at all. It is being viewed by everyone you "friend" and it is public space. There is no right to privacy in what you post.

Original poster: you can't unring a bell and I would just leave it alone. You can't fix it. Stay away from DH's job so you don't make it worse.

True. The Library of Congress keeps a record of all tweets.

ForTheLoveOf Pink · January 2012

thanks to everyone for their opinions on the issue. It is what I was looking for. I know I can't "un-ring" the bell.......LOL but I still wish I could. I feel like an idiot because I know better! The words are out there and I don't mean to minimze but no names or places were mentioned but I guess that is why the man has not made a legall issue of this. Zipping my mouth now!!!!!

AddictedToLipBalm · January 2012

ForTheLoveOf Pink:
No threats...basically about him being an a$$.

Don't sweat it. If it were possible for people to take legal action whenever someone called them an a$$, I'd be in big trouble, haha!

I knew there was a good reason why stay off of Facebook.

MelleTX · January 2012

AddictedToLipBalm:
ForTheLoveOf Pink:
No threats...basically about him being an a$$.

Don't sweat it. If it were possible for people to take legal action whenever someone called them an a$$, I'd be in big trouble, haha!
I knew there was a good reason why stay off of Facebook.

Legal action, no. But he can terminate your DH is you live in a right to work state.

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