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Need to vent re: DSS's mom

Tiffany5412Tiffany5412
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I've posted in the past about how we got custody of DSS after his mom dropped him off with us Mother's Day 2010 and never came back to get him.  Good for us - sad for him.  She saw him 2x that year and 4x last year.  Lives in Cedar Park.  She called us just now to say that she and her boyfriend broke up so she's moving to Lubbock on Monday saying she doesn't have anyone local to live with (umm...her mom and dad both live here and would let her live there in a heart beat as they have many times in the past). We asked her to see him this weekend and she said she can't because she's staying at a friend's house.  We asked her to please be the one to tell him (when she never came back for him over Mother's Day she didn't call him until September and never gave him an explanation).  She spoke to him and told him she might see him this weekend (liar) and simply played up how much fun it'll be for him to come visit her all the time so they can go to live football games.  She can't drive 20 minutes to meet us half way as it is so I have a strong feeling she'll not make any effort once she's gone to see him.  Maybe if her dad drives up there once a year for a family reunion he'll take DSS.  I'm just really sad for him and so angry at her for continuing to be so selfish in her decisions.  Part of me is thankful that she hasn't been seeing him regularly because this would be that much more difficult and part of me is thinking maybe it'll be less painful she doesn't see him when she's living so far away rather than only 45 mins away and not seeing him.  He continues to see a therapist every other week who is awesome.  I just hate what she has done to him over the years - leaving him in childcare over 12 hours a day, abandoning him for the first 2 months of his life.....UGH!  And here I am trying for 2 years to get pregnant.  I'm happy DSS has stability with us.  I'm just very sad for him.
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Re: Need to vent re: DSS's mom

  • fjarilfjaril

    That makes me so sad for him. He's so lucky to have such a great support system in place for him

    *hugs*

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  • SareBear30SareBear30

    That poor sweet child. I'm so glad he has you to step up. The only good thing about her being consistently terrible is it gives him less chance to get his hopes up and then get disappointed again. 

    That being said, whatabitch. 

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  • brideonjuly8brideonjuly8 member

    stories like this make me so angry. ugh.

    I'm so glad he's got you and your DH who are thoughtful, loving, and caring parents.  learn from her mistakes, right?

    ((hugs)) to you, and to him.

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  • userdeleteduserdeleted member

    That poor kid. How awful and sad. One day she's going to wake up and realize what she's missing, hopefully for her it won't be too late.

    I'm glad that he has you. You've always come across as a really wonderful and caring mother :) 

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  • AbrooksAbrooks
    I am so sad for him but he is so very lucky to have you guys so invested in him.  I know it's so hard to watch her hurt him like that but you're doing a great job being a stepmom to him!!
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  • bluestreetbluestreet

    Abandoned him the first couple of months?! I didn't know that. It's hard for me to grasp how a mom could be so cold about her child. I had a few dark nights of the soul when I became a mom, but I just don't get that level of crappiness. 

    He's so very lucky to have you.

    Good luck to your DSS as he adjusts yet again to her bullcrap.

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  • SaraLouiseBride08SaraLouiseBride08
    That poor kid. I can't believe a mother is so willing to act this way. He's very lucky he has you and his dad.
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  • rssnlvrrssnlvr
    I'm so sorry. What a nutjob. I'm sad for your SS, and a little glad that he doesn't have that witch of a woman as a bigger influence in his life.
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  • Xtina712Xtina712 member
    I'm so sorry she is still like that.  I know it's hard for SS but you and DH do such an amazing job with him.  I know it doesn't seem fair that an idiot like her can get pg so easily and someone loving like yourself has struggled.  Things will work out.  I 100% believe this will be your year.
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  • MnMShawMnMShaw member
    He is so lucky to have you and DH!  I'm sad he has her for a mother.
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