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lbarker2006lbarker2006
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My husband & I plan to adopt, most likely internationally.  We are not set on a specific country, but do understand the wait after approval can be long.  The agency we are most interested in has not specifically stated its policy on having biological children while waiting to adopt. 

Do any of you know if it is a standard policy - if you have a biological child while you are waiting, you are taken off until that child is one year old?  Or are some agencies/countries okay with you having a biological child while waiting?

We've been married six years & are now reaching the time where we feel is right begin a family.  We have not TTC, so we do not know if there will be any struggles.  

With most international adoptions timelines being multiple years, we discussed starting with an agency and possibly TTC.  I appreciate any feedback.

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  • lafayettegirllafayettegirl member

    Not completely sure, but I would encourage you to ask the agency you are looking at using. It is a completely normal question that they answer all the time.

    Each agency is probably a little different on how they handle that question.

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  • CaptainSeriousCaptainSerious member

    Fred's right on.  Peru requires at least a year gap between any addition or major disturbance in the family and the adoption.  So any birth, adoption, death, divorce, marriage, etc. would mean that you couldn't adopt a child for up to a year after.

    My agency has it's own policy that's similar, but this really does differ from agency to agency and country to country.

    In our case, after we were home with M for 6 months, we were able to start the homestudy for J, because they figured that we wouldn't be placed until at least another 6 months had passed.  (Their requirement is that no child be placed in your home for at least a year.)

    So, in short, you need to check with your agency and program rules.

    By the way, I generally recommend that you narrow down which countries you are interested in before selecting an agency.  This is because even great agencies don't always have the best programs in some of their countries.  It might work out that a smaller/less known agency that's been doing adoptions from their for a long time might have developed better relationships and/or know the process better than a great agency that's just starting out in that country or who focuses most their energy on their other, larger programs.  Of course, it's always a great idea to use an agency that has at least one other program to which you might wish to switch if something happens to slow or shut-down adoptions from your chosen program.

    Good luck!

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  • angandvanceangandvance
    Like all of the other ladies said, it varies from agency to agency and country to country. I read a blog of a women who adopted from Ethiopia and miraculously got pregnant during the adoption process. Her kids are only like 4-5 months a part. This was only a couple of years ago, but even that might be a special case. I highly suggest you speak to your agency about it and narrow down your country to see what they say about it, too. :-)
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  • MrsNeal2010MrsNeal2010
    from what i understand, you can not pursue biological children while applying 
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  • noonecarewhoiamnoonecarewhoiam

    This is correct. Korea requires a difference of 1 year in age between children, and placement of children must be 1 year apart.

    If addition, I have heard of people losing referrals if they get pregnant after they have been matched but before travel. I don't know what would happen if the child was home but the adoption not finalized.

    I have heard that the US agency is fined by their Korean agency partner if they allow a child to come home in the case of a pregnancy.

    WIth China, the process is so long they do permit pregnancy while waiting to be matched.

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  • lbarker2006lbarker2006
    Thank you for all of your feedback.  We have asked the agency we intend to use the policy on a few specific countries.  Thanks again.
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