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DH putting on the brakes...

JMayJMay member
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I had thought DH was not interested in adoption until he brought it up a few weeks ago (surprise!) and I decided to give him some time to adjust to the idea.  In the meantime, as some of you know, I've been researching.

We had an opportunity to talk about some of the things I learned over the weekend, and in the middle of the discussion, DH stopped me and said "I don't want to hear any more" and walked away.  It wasn't a pushy conversation at all, but I guess it was too much for him.

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Just wanted to let you all know if I don't post here as often as I planned - you're all in my T&P's, and I hope DH will get comfortable soon!

Jenna

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Re: DH putting on the brakes...

  • CristineCristine member
    I'm sorry. Maybe he just needs some time to process everything. I hope he comes around soon.

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  • Ambie0611Ambie0611

    Good Luck Hun!!! My DH wasn't comfortable at first with the thought of adoption because he was worried that he wouldn't love the kids as his own. Then we met our Godchildren - he loves the three of them so much after he realized that he was then 100% on board for adoption.

    Not sure if it is the same with your DH, but I agree to just let him process it in his own time. :D

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  • missred75missred75 member
    I'm sorry. It took DH a while to come around to adoption as well. I hope that he is able to talk with you about it soon! ::hugs::
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  • CaptainSeriousCaptainSerious member

    I'm sorry, but give him time.  I'm sure it's a lot for him to process right now, and the vastness of the adoption process is probably making him wonder if this is really the right path.

    If he doesn't bring it up on his own, I would wait a couple weeks and then ask him what he's thinking.  Let him know you don't know where you (as a couple) stand because of the way he broke off your last conversation.  Oh, and just a tip:  don't necessarily spring the conversation on him; tell him the above and ask him if he wants some time to compose his thoughts before you talk about it.

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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    Oh man, that's tough. DH just came out and told me I was overwhelming him one day. Hopefully your DH will get more comfortable with things as time goes on.

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