5 weeks Pregnant, husband deploying in 2 weeks
My husband and I were married on September 17, 2011. My husband is set to start his deployment at the end of January. It's been a wild few months. He had to leave for a months worth of AT in October and was supposed to deploy in December but it was pushed back. We found out yesterday that we are pregnant, about 5 weeks along!
I've never had such a rush and mix of emotions before. From extreme happiness, to sadness that he will miss it all, to fear of going through these next 9 months and more alone.
Because of our ages (I am 36) waiting to try to conceive until after his deployment is over wasn't a great option. I've actually been off birth control since last March and after some intensive research and lots of practice over the past few months we've finally been successful!
My head just aches with all the thoughts running through it, will I be able to do this alone, how will he feel being away and missing everything. What can I do to make him a part of every step...
Worried worried worried
Re: 5 weeks Pregnant, husband deploying in 2 weeks
We actually live relatively close to both parents. My mom is 1/2 hr away and his mom is 1 hr. His dad is actually deploying at the same time (same unit). I get along well with my mother in law so that shouldn't be a problem.
I'm only 5 weeks now and haven't been to first dr's appt but we feel like we should maybe tell just our parents before they deploy even though it's early. That way we can do it together...
We are already looking into webcams so that we can make sure we can communicate as much as possible.
Living close to your parents and IL's is good. Accept their help!
I had our second while H was deployed, and while it wasn't ideal, it wasn't horrible either. We thankfully had good Skype access on a daily basis, and if you are able to talk regularly via webcam it'll make both of you feel as if he's more involved with the pregnancy. I'd also recommend focusing on some of the positives of this timing. Missing your pregnancy means he won't miss much of your child's first year, which is far more important in the grand scheme of things.
That is an excellent point NSL, Thank You! I am always trying to see the positive and that is definately one of them!