So DH wanted me to call and tell his mother. So I did.... Thinking no big deal of it. Uh no.. Right after I confess "I'm pregnant".. her reply is "Noooo.. I mean, yay but noooo..." .. I almost hung up on her. I tried really hard to be nice.. but that was just ICE QUEEN RUDE....
The proper response even if you don't agree... is... *SMILE*.. *NOD*... "Congratulations".......
I just couldn't believe that. So rude. Really hurt my feelings. She can kiss my arse ya know? She will be LUCKY to get any continued updates..
Ok, I'm done.. just needed to vent! Thanks..
Re: My MIL's response to "I'm pregnant!"
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Do you think it was just disbelief? Like, maybe she's so happy she just couldn't believe it?
(In my head, when I read her response - it sounds like Joey from friends.)
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This, her responses sounds odd. What type of relationship due you guys have?
This is how my MIL reacted...we told her in person and by her face and body language she was obviously excited but she said, "no you're not."
I agree, I think we missed the back story...
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For all who requested a bit of a back story...
My MIL and us have a very strange relationship to start with. My husband has always been the "black sheep" thats not done anything correctly according to his family. MY family loves him to bits!! His mother is the most negative person I know. Shes just naturally that way and its frustrating. And since she knows we're not as "financially sound" as we should be at the moment.. she was a b!tch about it. This woman is not happy unless she is unhappy. She even lived with us at one point, which ended so badly that DH didnt speak to her for a year and a half. We just recently started speaking again. CLEARLY that was a mistake.
Her tone was not "disbelief".. it was "dread"...
If I know one thing, its this woman.. and shes got her dreadful hateful evil moments...
To everyone else.. Thanks.. I am not letting her get to me anymore. I just don't think we'll be updating her like we normally would.
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LOL!
Douchecanoe gets me every time.
p.s. Agreed. Douchecanoe, regardless of your relationship, situation, etc. ...Unless, of course, you are homeless, an addict, or some such something or other.
LOL Not homeless, not addicts... just a normal couple working hard to stay afloat... lol
I think the woman sounds like a real treat to deal with....oy! that being said, let me play devil's advocate here for a second.
You said that your MIL is nutty to begin with, and is also very negative, and that during your marriage you guys have gone through various ups and downs. That being said, are you honestly surprised by what she said? I'm not saying it's right, or that it didn't hurt, but if your relationship has always been so strained, I would have expected the negativity.
The bottom line here? SCREW HER! Be happy for your family. You'll have plenty of people in your life that will be genuinely excited and happy for you and once that baby gets here, she'll be sorry she was such a jerk to you guys because of all the things she'll be missing out on.
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Honestly the only reason it shocked me was because this is her grandchild ya know? You'd think negativity would take a farking break once in a while. LOL
Thanks though. MY family is THRILLED beyond words.