Afraid of the potty when nakey...now what?

Army~Wife · January 2012

I am really trying to syke myself up enough to just PT DD1. She is 25 months and shows so many signs of being ready. She asks to be changed when she's gone, she will sit on her potty when mommy goes potty, she will try to wipe herself during diaper changes, she knows how to pull her pants down (and take off her diaper). The only thing is that when she is nakey, she acts like she's afraid to sit on the potty. What do I do? I was hoping to use the 3-day method (from what what I've read of other bumpies posts) and just start her naked for the first 2+ days. Should I just let her be naked and try to convince her that it is ok to go in the potty or do I take that as a sign that she's not ready?

The other day she was naked because we were about to put her in the shower and she apparently needed to go. She just crossed her legs and cried. She had already gone a little bit and I think she held the rest until we got her in the shower. I tried to bring her to the potty and she hated that idea. I ended up just putting her in the shower. :-/

Thank you!

Will re-post on 24+ as well.

hopecounts · January 2012

I'd probably start with getting her to sit on it dressed, just so she gets used to it. Once she'll sit on it then move forward with the 3 day method.

remember PTing isn't suppossed to be negative, and bribery can be very effective. Wink

Army~Wife · January 2012

hopecounts:

I'd probably start with getting her to sit on it dressed, just so she gets used to it. Once she'll sit on it then move forward with the 3 day method.

remember PTing isn't suppossed to be negative, and bribery can be very effective.

Thanks for your response. She will sit on it with clothes on.....that's where I'm confussed.

I plan to use lots of bribery. I have already been thinking of candies, stickers, songs, books, etc.

I am just worried that if she's afraid to sit on it when naked, I am going to really freak her out if I don't give in to letting her have her diapers back. I would really like to just plant my foot and not budge once we start. Is that too much for a LO?

hopecounts · January 2012

Hmm, I'd recommend lots of modeling (her watching you, grandma any and all females who are willing) and maybe have her show her teddy/doll how to go and model it that way as well.

Also could you try to catch her mid BM and sit her on there to finish? I think it's one of those if you can break the barrier and get her to do it once you'd be fine.

I don't think I'd force it though, I'm all for PTing but if she freaks out it could be a major set back.

Employ lots of new stories and toys for potty time and let her see you get to enjoy them a few times, make a big deal out of it that this story is so good, how cool is this toy etc.

MrsSR · January 2012

If she's scared, don't force it on her.

She needs to be ready too.

Army~Wife · January 2012

hopecounts:

Hmm, I'd recommend lots of modeling (her watching you, grandma any and all females who are willing) and maybe have her show her teddy/doll how to go and model it that way as well.

Also could you try to catch her mid BM and sit her on there to finish? I think it's one of those if you can break the barrier and get her to do it once you'd be fine.

I don't think I'd force it though, I'm all for PTing but if she freaks out it could be a major set back.

Employ lots of new stories and toys for potty time and let her see you get to enjoy them a few times, make a big deal out of it that this story is so good, how cool is this toy etc.

The bolded is what I was afraid of. Dang it! I let her watch me every time as I don't even remember the last time I've gone alone. I didn't think of letting her bears be the model. I will definitely try that. Maybe I need to be more fun about it. lol

hopecounts · January 2012

Put a diaper on bear and have her help take it off then sit bear on the potty, rig it so bear pees in the potty and make a big deal about it.

Good luck!

Army~Wife · January 2012

hopecounts:

Put a diaper on bear and have her help take it off then sit bear on the potty, rig it so bear pees in the potty and make a big deal about it.

Good luck!

Love this! We'll be making Bear pee tonight! lol

NewFamily09 · January 2012

Holy cow, I could have written this post. Word.for.word. My son is 28 months and is showing all of the exact same signs of readiness. I too want to do the 3 day method only the method I read about was more like 7 days, but still the same idea of letting them go naked. My DS is also afraid to sit naked on the potty. He'll do it all day long with pants on, but not without. I'm wondering if it's because it's cold? But this morning, for the first time in MONTHS I got him to sit naked. I bribed him with a piece of candy. I know it's not ideal, but everyone tells me it works to reward them with an m&m or something small. If he continues to refuse sitting, my next plan is to put his little brother on the potty naked to show him that there is nothing scary about it and that "Baby brother isn't afraid. You shouldn't be either." Because honestly, my younger son is so laid back, he wouldn't mind sitting on the potty at all.

sweetpea2003 · January 2012

My DD showed a lot of those kinds of signs at around 2 also. We did a little bit of potty training and she had good days and bad days. For reasons too complicated to explain here I backed waaay off and put her back in diapers until just about three weeks ago (she is 2.5 now).

Holy cow was it soooooo much easier this time. I put her straight into underwear and aside from a few accidents early on she has been completely accident free. No fights, no battles, no fears. Just happily using the potty. I haven't started the night training yet because she doesn't seem ready for it. And I'm not in a huge hurry. So she is in underwear during the day and a Pull Up at night.

A lot of people had told me that PTing is really just something you can't control. It will just happen. If your child is afraid I would back off. It is so early. Just keep the potties around, praise her when she shows initiative, and follow her lead.

I am fully expecting that my son will PT around age 3 like most boys. I have no plans to push him. If he seems interested and happy to try earlier - great. But if not, no biggie. I know he won't go to college in diapers .

Soap1 · January 2012

I did a version of the three day method, and I put DS1 in underwear and a shirt all day. He peed in about a million pairs of underwear but he got the idea. Can you just have her in big girl underwear and a shirt instead of naked?

Army~Wife · January 2012

NewFamily09:
Holy cow, I could have written this post. Word.for.word. My son is 28 months and is showing all of the exact same signs of readiness. I too want to do the 3 day method only the method I read about was more like 7 days, but still the same idea of letting them go naked. My DS is also afraid to sit naked on the potty. He'll do it all day long with pants on, but not without. I'm wondering if it's because it's cold? But this morning, for the first time in MONTHS I got him to sit naked. I bribed him with a piece of candy. I know it's not ideal, but everyone tells me it works to reward them with an m&m or something small. If he continues to refuse sitting, my next plan is to put his little brother on the potty naked to show him that there is nothing scary about it and that "Baby brother isn't afraid. You shouldn't be either." Because honestly, my younger son is so laid back, he wouldn't mind sitting on the potty at all.

OMG! Literally, right after my last reply I grabbed her little sister and put her on the potty. I had the little vag squirt bottle the hospital gave me after my CS hidden behind DD2's back to make it look like she was peeing. DD1 took to it and thought it was so neat. She sat on the potty naked for about 20 min after that. I could tell that she was trying to go but I think she was already running on empty. lol. I am going to keep trying using DD2 and Bear as an example. That worked great!

Army~Wife · January 2012

sweetpea2003:
My DD showed a lot of those kinds of signs at around 2 also. We did a little bit of potty training and she had good days and bad days. For reasons too complicated to explain here I backed waaay off and put her back in diapers until just about three weeks ago (she is 2.5 now).

Holy cow was it soooooo much easier this time. I put her straight into underwear and aside from a few accidents early on she has been completely accident free. No fights, no battles, no fears. Just happily using the potty. I haven't started the night training yet because she doesn't seem ready for it. And I'm not in a huge hurry. So she is in underwear during the day and a Pull Up at night.

A lot of people had told me that PTing is really just something you can't control. It will just happen. If your child is afraid I would back off. It is so early. Just keep the potties around, praise her when she shows initiative, and follow her lead.

I am fully expecting that my son will PT around age 3 like most boys. I have no plans to push him. If he seems interested and happy to try earlier - great. But if not, no biggie. I know he won't go to college in diapers .

My thought it that if she still shows to be afraid after tying a few other things that we will back off and try again later. I was recently laid off so this seemed like a great time to get it done (if she's really ready). I'm glad to hear how your DD is taking it after waiting. That lessens my fears in regards to fighting her on it. If she's fighting me then she's just not ready yet.

Army~Wife · January 2012

Soap1:
I did a version of the three day method, and I put DS1 in underwear and a shirt all day. He peed in about a million pairs of underwear but he got the idea. Can you just have her in big girl underwear and a shirt instead of naked?

This is also something that I want to try if naked doesn't work. Thanx!

Want a personalized experience?

Afraid of the potty when nakey...now what?

Re: Afraid of the potty when nakey...now what?

Choose Another Board

Search Boards