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April 2012 Moms
I walked out of dinner with in-laws last night - vent
And I'm still pissed today 
. Without going into too much detail we live very close to DH's family and his mom is a meddling PITA with severe boundary issues. We pay her to watch DD 2 days a week and for the last 3 years we have had issues because she rearranges MY stuff when I'm not home and it drives me mad. Ex., rearranging our cupboards, throwing out things in our freezer, messing with my mail, rearranging how DD's clothes are sorted in her dresser, it goes on and on and on. We've had several big fights and basically the lady has a compulsion and is super selfish and I'm hoping we will be done with her "help" come April. DH tries to mediate but she's BSC...
Last night they came over to babysit DD while we went to Bradley class. I asked them to come to our house because DH's brother, who lives at home, has been "super sick". So sick he couldn't come to DD's bday party the day prior. We invited them to stay for dinner since we had a ton of leftovers from the party. I thought it was a nice gesture. Here's where the fun begins.
1. They brought the freeloading BIL without asking us! Why if he is so sick would they want him around DD and her pregnant mother??? DD just happened to wake up sick today.
2. We got home from class and she had moved some very important forms I was in the middle of working on for DD's schools because "they would be in the way when we eat". UMMM we were all going to eat together, we always "serve" them, and obviously I would move them before we ate.
3. I made a comment about how rude it was and got a huge eye roll and huffy puffy dismissive response.
4. She gave DD a lamp as a gift. DD is 3, the lighting in her room is sufficient. I just don't get it. It's a wierd controlling thing and now what I am supposed to do with this ugly stupid lamp?? She never gives receipts. I think I'm just going to shove it in a closet for a year and then throw it away when DH forgets about it.
Anyways I went into my room twice to calm down and couldn't so I just bailed and went to a friends house for a few hours while they ate my food and I calmed down.
There is no real point to this post, just a vent since I'm still worked up.
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Re: I walked out of dinner with in-laws last night - vent
I am constantly astounded at how my DH comes from my crazy MIL... she doesn't move my stuff but she's nuts.
Sorry you have to deal with her. Put the lamp somewhere where you'll never see it, it'll make you feel better.
This exactly! My MIL and SILs are insane! It's mind blowing to think that my down to earth husband is in any way related!
This is where I would probably start to push back...
my MIL once made a comment about how DH's ex used to keep the house clean.. I replied.. yeah, I guess you can do that when you dont work and freeload off your man...
my suggestion.. next time you invite her over to watch DD.. put the lamp in the garbage.. make sure it is sticking out where she will notice it... Im sure that will light a fire under her arse...
Like in the pile behind the Goodwill on the weekends! That's where I put the "treasures" my MIL brings me (they live next door & I'm pretty sure she is Marie from Everybody Loves Raymond) That is where the BEAUTIFUL old lady who lives in a shoe night light with 1970s mushrooms on is going to go!
It is not that black and white with DH. I'm on the waiting list at her pre-school for tues/thurs but have been since Sept. We just need to get through April and then take time during my leave to sort out someone new.