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Stress during pregnancy...

ashleydisse23ashleydisse23
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I know stress is common whether you're pregnant or not but I guess I am just feeling guilty about a huge fight Dh and I got into today.  I am wondering what exactly happens when you are stressed out to the baby? Should I be worried? I don't have spotting or any of that, I just don't want to feel like I scared my child for life... one website I was on said it would impact how the baby is when they are born? Thoughts?!

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  • AmberMH08AmberMH08
    when im stressed my BP rises and thats super bad... and I also stress myself into having kidney stones like wed nite when i had to take a trip to the ER for them fun fun... stress just beats ur body up from the inside but try to relax take a hot shower cry it out and then take a looong sleep it will all be ok :)
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  • JG362009JG362009
    I had the most stressful first pregnancy ever and my son is the sweetest most laid back kid ever.  I don't think you'll be doing any permanent damage and I don't know anyone that hasn't fought with her husband during pregnancy -- it's a super stressful time.
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  • DomesticDiva0429DomesticDiva0429 member
    I would say the occasional fight here and there is not a problem but..I completely believe that stress played a huge role in my PTL issues on top of what ever else caused it. So, if your just getting into it every now and then don't worry. It is bound to happen.
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  • EmbracethedayEmbracetheday
    Chronic stress is VERY dangerous in pregnancy.  If you really want to learn more about this topic, I suggest reading "The Female Brain".  However, I would warn you that it may scare you more than ease your mind.  I read this prior to any of my pregnancies and it scared the crap out of me.  Basically, it describes how high stress levels (not just one fight, but more regular stress) can alter neurological pathways in the child and in return affect their "personality".  
    Again, not trying to scare you, everyone fights with their DH during pregnancy (I know I did with my last child and he is perfect in my opinion), but if you do have a high stress job, or life situations, it can be dangerous for development.
     
    FWIW, I studied neurology, so its not the easiest thing to understand if you don't have the background, but it is a fascinating book, maybe not while you're pregnant, though!
     
     
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  • ipookie8ipookie8

    DH and I had a few blowouts (think: yelling match and scream crying) so far this pregnancy and after a day or so things were calm and back to normal.

    I am way more apt to take things overboard these days and DH's patience with my moodiness is thin-- but I suggest calmly discussing it the next day (or so) when you're both calm and ready. It helped me ease my mind, and it also gave me a chance to tell DH that stress on baby is NO GOOD and it has made him more conscious of how we affect the baby.

    It's also good to get in a better mode of communication before baby comes because fighting in front of baby outside of the womb is just as (if not more) destructive. 

    However, keep in mind-- we're all human. We're all bound to get on each others last nerve from time to time...

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