WWYD re: wedding?

flymansWife · January 2012

DH is in a wedding (a roommate from college) in Charleston in March. DS will be 10-months old.

Originally, I thought we'd all go. Last week I had decided I was sending DH alone but then he went to the bachelor party this weekend and came home trying to convince me to :-) I keep thinking it'll be a waste if i go b/c I'll miss most of the wedding reception even if i let DS stay up a bit later than normal. (Oh and DH insists we buy DS a seat for his safety so depending upon ticket costs that may end up being a deciding factor but one groomsmen booked his yesterday at $79/each way so may not be an issue). But the timing of the wedding coincides with spring break which means that even if i miss a bunch of the wedding reception, we'd still get to do a bunch of stuff as a family during the days and its been a long time since i've had a vacation.

So go, don't go? (Leaving DS here is not an option... just not ready to go out of state and leave him overnight yet!) :-)

michelleaxo · January 2012

Go! It will be fun, even if you have to ditch out a little earlier than you would like to in the evenings. There's not much of a downside especially since you get to spend extra time with family.

2H2L · January 2012

I agree with PP, especially if you can get a good deal on airfare. Go and have fun!

august8080 · January 2012

I would go, and ask whoever is local (the bride and groom, friends??) to give you recs for babysitters so you can put DS to bed at the hotel and go back and enjoy the reception.

Also, keep in mind, when you're booking your hotel, that you might want to get a suite so that you and DH can actually have a light on, watch TV, etc in your room after DS goes to bed or when he's napping. My DS is a light sleeper and so if we don't do that, we'd be sitting in a silent, dark room after 7:30 every night

michelleaxo · January 2012

august8080:

Also, keep in mind, when you're booking your hotel, that you might want to get a suite so that you and DH can actually have a light on, watch TV, etc in your room after DS goes to bed or when he's napping. My DS is a light sleeper and so if we don't do that, we'd be sitting in a silent, dark room after 7:30 every night

Yes, do that for sure!

kiarox2002 · January 2012

I would totally go! Sounds like fun.

mlf625 · January 2012

august8080:
I would go, and ask whoever is local (the bride and groom, friends??) to give you recs for babysitters so you can put DS to bed at the hotel and go back and enjoy the reception.
Also, keep in mind, when you're booking your hotel, that you might want to get a suite so that you and DH can actually have a light on, watch TV, etc in your room after DS goes to bed or when he's napping. My DS is a light sleeper and so if we don't do that, we'd be sitting in a silent, dark room after 7:30 every night

That, exactly. We booked a 2 room suite and a sitter when we went to a wedding last summer and it was perfect.

If the bride and groom don't have any recs, maybe you could find a nanny service in the area?

AmethystBride · January 2012

I would absolutely go!

:-)

bobcatsteph · January 2012

Go! I love Charleston (I went to high school there) and you'll have fun sightseeing, going to the beach, etc.

Wow, $79 each way to Charleston is awesome!

mrs.wildman · January 2012

I'd totally go. If you could find a sitter, awesome. Otherwise, just be open minded to DS being up way later than usual and try to make the most of it! I was dreading my sister's wedding only cause DD was going to be there and it was in California and didn't start until waaaaaay past DD's bedtime in TX. She stayed up through the ceremony like a champ and CRASHED right after. I took our stroller and reclined it all the way and she slept through the entire party and didn't stir once.

el_twirpo · January 2012

i think you should go. baby's first vacation, right?!?

it'll be fun.

Mrs.Purdue · January 2012

mrs.wildman:
I'd totally go. If you could find a sitter, awesome. Otherwise, just be open minded to DS being up way later than usual and try to make the most of it! I was dreading my sister's wedding only cause DD was going to be there and it was in California and didn't start until waaaaaay past DD's bedtime in TX. She stayed up through the ceremony like a champ and CRASHED right after. I took our stroller and reclined it all the way and she slept through the entire party and didn't stir once.

ditto all of this. we took DD to a wedding in minnesota in November and she had her night time bottle a little late and then I just changed her into her jammies and reclined the stroller all the way and she slept in that throughout most of the reception. I did end up taking her home about an hour before the party ended, but it was kind of because I was exhausted and knew I'd be getting up with her pretty soon and used her as my excuse to go home - she would have probably slept that last hour too if I had wanted to stay

flymansWife · January 2012

ok y'all are making me feel better Smile

now to figure out the ticket/seat situation. looks like we can use miles and actually fly out of college station instead of AUS/HOU... but only have enough miles for two tickets. talk to me about flying with a lap child. both flights are on a small plane so odds of scoring an extra empty seat are slim. DH is concerned about safety but i'm having a hard time dishing out $400 when he could ride with us in our laps.

Mrs.Purdue · January 2012

what scenario can your DH come up with that will have the baby survive a plane crash in a car seat but not in your lap?

we've flown 5 roundtrips with E and have always had her as a lap child. If the plane crashes, I really don't think a car seat is going to save her, IMHO. Unless maybe 2 planes ran into each other on the tarmac, but then I've never really heard of people getting killed in those scenarios that would have been saved in a car seat, you know?

In a car, sure - there are minor vs major accidents. In a plane, I think it's a major accident no matter what, and a carseat isn't going to make a difference.

I'm sure there will be dissenters to my opinion, but the chances are SO slim that something might happen, it's a calculated risk and we'll probably always fly with a lap child (until she's unruly in our laps and I'm begging for her to have her own space!)

flymansWife · January 2012

Mrs.Purdue:
what scenario can your DH come up with that will have the baby survive a plane crash in a car seat but not in your lap?

his concern is actually turbulence. we have a friend who flies RJs and recently had a passenger (not strapped in) who's head went through the overhead. people can and do get seriously injured from turbulence. he's concerned that if there is bad turbulence then we won't hold onto him well enough. i'm actually wondering if i can wear my ergo and still strap myself into my seat if there happens to be turbulence...

bobcatsteph · January 2012

flymansWife:
Mrs.Purdue:
what scenario can your DH come up with that will have the baby survive a plane crash in a car seat but not in your lap?
his concern is actually turbulence. we have a friend who flies RJs and recently had a passenger (not strapped in) who's head went through the overhead. people can and do get seriously injured from turbulence. he's concerned that if there is bad turbulence then we won't hold onto him well enough. i'm actually wondering if i can wear my ergo and still strap myself into my seat if there happens to be turbulence...

I've seen some kind of device that turns your lap into a car seat with straps and stuff..maybe someone else knows more about it.

Mrs.Purdue · January 2012

I've flown a million times and I guess have never had turbulence bad enough for me to question my ability to hang on to her. obviously if it's bad enough, i'm sitting down, strapped in, and holding on to her for dear life.

i'm sure there are cases (like you mentioned) though. I know when we fly, we really never even really stand up with her (have only had to diaper change on a plane once - all the other times, we stay seated and don't even pass her back and forth much).

if you haven't flown with him before though, then I can understand the 'what-ifs'.

and yes, you could wear him while strapped in. they might ask you to take him out for take off and landing (sometimes they asked me, sometimes not), but during the flight, I was always able to wear her if I wanted.

AustinAggie01 · January 2012

I agree with Mrs. Purdue on all accounts. Plus, at that age DS would sleep in my arms for most of a flight. Then, there's the nursing for take-off and landing for the sake of their little ears, so it was easiest for both of us. The last time I flew, DS was 18 months and he was still content to hang out on my lap. Save the money and go have a great time!

flymansWife · January 2012

Mrs.Purdue:
and yes, you could wear him while strapped in. they might ask you to take him out for take off and landing (sometimes they asked me, sometimes not), but during the flight, I was always able to wear her if I wanted.

if i can wear him... i bet i can convince DH. wish me luck :-)

august8080 · January 2012

I have worn DS in the Ergo for portions of flights--only because I got up and walked/bounced him to sleep in it and then just sat down once he was asleep. Totally possible. I would NOT pay for a ticket unless I had to (older than 2). Hopefully you can convince DH!

Emer · January 2012

1st of all, ditto everyone on you should go. If you need recs for a sitter, let me know!

For the flight, we always paid for the extra seat. It's a safety issue for us and we've had enough turbulence on flights that I was *very* thankful for my worry-wart personality and buying them their own seat(s). Admittedly, I am a nervous flyer and it helped me relax to have them buckled in and contained. I think the added space is a benefit, too. Both of my kids slept during flights at that age and they were perfectly comfortable in their carseats.

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