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This is why they are apprehensive

freeatlast2014freeatlast2014 member
in January 2011 Moms

Background: My Poppy (my father-figure growing up) passed away when I was 6 months pg. He told my Nanny he would never get to meet my son...he was diagnosed with cancer when I was 3 months, and then when I was 6 months along he was gone. Man was never sick a day in his life.

A few weeks ago I told DH that I'm afraid to get pg because then someone will die. I know it's irrational but it was a thought I had - never shared with anyone else.

When I told my Mom and my Nanny that I was pg - the first thing out of my Nanny's mouth was that this means she will die just like Poppy did. And now I find out my mother also told my brother that she fears this as well.

Tell me your God's honest feeling - do you think that someone has to pass away to make room for a new life on Earth? 

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  • CaniacMomCaniacMom member

    I honestly do not believe that.  I have two siblings-  my grandmother passed away in May from pancreatic cancer & I was born in July in 1971.  But there were no deaths in the family the years my two younger brothers were born. 

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    imageCaniacMom:

    I honestly do not believe that.  I have two siblings-  my grandmother passed away in May from pancreatic cancer & I was born in July in 1971.  But there were no deaths in the family the years my two younger brothers were born. 

    This just reminded me - my great-grandfather died the same month/year I was born (my Poppy's dad). 
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  • broccolitreebroccolitree

    This is my baldfaced honest first opinion:

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    And hell, your grandma might die in the next 9 months, but if she does it is in no way shape or form you or your baby's fault.  People just die sometimes, as harsh a reality as that may be.

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  • freeatlast2014freeatlast2014 member
    Broc-thanks for making me laugh. I needed that.
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  • MarSamWhitneyMarSamWhitney member

    I agree with Broc.

    and FTR- more people in my family died when I was not pregnant, than when I was.

    I dont believe that has any merrit for one second.  I dont mean to disrespect your family, but they should not add to your worry like that.



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  • mommajen8mommajen8 member
    Yet again Broc is so on point. No I do not think this at all. I'm sorry that your gram and mom feel this way.
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  • SweetHurricaneSweetHurricane member

    It makes me really sad that that's the first thing they said. Even if you're thinking it, shush up and be happy for the person.

    My SD passed while I was PG, but it was his time. He had been battling liver problems (including a rejected transplant) for several years.

    I hope your family will grow to be more supportive/happy for you as the news sinks in.

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  • ffejsGirlffejsGirl
    imageSweetHurricane:

    It makes me really sad that that's the first thing they said. Even if you're thinking it, shush up and be happy for the person.

    My SD passed while I was PG, but it was his time. He had been battling liver problems (including a rejected transplant) for several years.

    I hope your family will grow to be more supportive/happy for you as the news sinks in.

     This. I can't believe your family would feel the need to add to your stress and anxiety by making you feel responsible for anyone's death. F*cking Ridiculous! 

    I absolutely do not believe someone must die for someone to be born/live. 

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  • RouensDreamRouensDream member
    imageffejsGirl:
    imageSweetHurricane:

    It makes me really sad that that's the first thing they said. Even if you're thinking it, shush up and be happy for the person.

    My SD passed while I was PG, but it was his time. He had been battling liver problems (including a rejected transplant) for several years.

    I hope your family will grow to be more supportive/happy for you as the news sinks in.

     This. I can't believe your family would feel the need to add to your stress and anxiety by making you feel responsible for anyone's death. F*cking Ridiculous! 

    I absolutely do not believe someone must die for someone to be born/live. 

    Agreed. Seriously, don't let them get into your head like that. ((Hugs))

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