I'm already feeling this way about PREGNANCY!

Re: I'm already feeling this way about PREGNANCY!

• brown0316

  January 2012

  What a wonderful article! Thank you so much for sharing

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• itkatydid

  January 2012

  hijoi:

  
  

  I had loved moments of every day since he came in to our lives.  But I most certainly did NOT love every single moment.  In fact, for the first 6 months or so, there were more moments that I hated than I loved.  (The newborn phase was horrendous for us.  I can't believe we're doing it again!)  But it is all worth it in the end.

  This is why I'm enjoying this pregnancy as much as I can. For us,  the idea of a newborn is almost better than the actual newborn.... holy *** that crap is hard. I can't believe I forgot it even long enough to get myself KU again. But, again I look at my son now and I want 10 of him so..... 

   OP- if you don't like pregnancy than you don't. Just like the newborn stage was by FAR our worst stage of having a child. Screw everyone else. Honestly, I hated many parts of it. I felt horribly guilty about it. Everyone talks about how WONDERFUL having a new baby is. In the end, I had an incredibly kind friend who admitted that the parts of having a newborn she hated as much as I did and I started to feel like maybe more than one person might feel this way.... You don't have to explain to them. Just don't brush your teeth after you barf once or twice and give them a big breathy conversation!  
  

  

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• jnicole1120

  January 2012

  I love my daughter more than anything!  Do I LOVE every single waking moment???  Heck no!  Also, I will admit...I do NOT enjoy being pregnant...at all.  With DD, I was sick all day, every day until 30 weeks.  This pregnancy, I'm sick, I'm exhausted, I'm mean...I hate feeling like I have a hangover 24/7.  I'm more than happy to be pregnant, knowing the end result.  I just think I'm realistic about parenting
  

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• OUKatie member

  January 2012

  I loved this article and a big thanks to all the moms here on their 2+ pregnancy. Your honesty about the joys and trials of pregnancy/parenting are very much appreciated.

  I really feel like we tend to overdramatize how great things are supposed to be and sort of set ourselves up for a major let-down and lots of self-doubt when, inevitebly, the reality is full of struggle. I'm sure it will be great but I'm trying to go into this whole parenting thing with my eyes open. There will be some great things but I'm sure there will be times when I just can't get my kid to stop crying and need to set him/her down and walk away for a bit, when my kid will throw his 8th tantrum of the day, when he or she just won't nap, or when I just don't feel like getting up in the middle of the night to deal with a diaper blowout but I have to because I'm his/her mom.

  I have some friends who refuse to acknowledge anything remotely difficult or less than enjoyable about parenting and some friends who are upfront about the crappy (literally and figuratively) parts. I like talking to the honest ones better...they don't complain but they don't sugarcoat it and it's never a competition with them.

  Not completely related but this is why I'm one of those that hates the sunshine and rainbows attitudes that the month boards can get sometimes. It's okay for everything to not be perfect. It's okay that some people are wrong. It's really not necessary to pretend that everything is all hunky-dory and that life doesn't move on while you're pregnant.

  

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• peeper72

  January 2012

  Well said in this article.

  Like the other moms about to do this again, I would agree that I love being a parent and my daughter is by far the greatest, most soul-expanding love I have ever known. Some moments are so overwhelming with emotion and goodness that I cry over what appears to be nothing. But it's not nothing - it's very beautiful and moving.

  However, there are times when I want to pull my hair out. There are days when I don't wait until DH gets home to open the bottle of wine (well, not anymore obviously). There are days when I tell him, "you're on, buddy" because I need a shower - alone. There are nights when I pray that she will just effing go to freaking sleep already so that I can too - I have to work tomorrow!

  But when I think about being a mom the frustrating, see-red moments aren't the ones that I'm dwelling on. Overall, it's good - very good. But not always. Thank God our society is moving toward a place where parents (dad's too) can admit that this parenting gig is tough - but we wouldn't trade it. Imagine if we were 50 years ago and there was no internet or public admission that parenting isn't always awesome? How lonely it must have been for those parents.

   

  

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