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NBR: This is normal, right?

KDM2006KDM2006
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Yesterday DH's dog of 12+? years died.  He ran him over accidentally.  He was getting old and liked getting a little to close to vehicles, like most dogs do, I guess.  Anyway, he didn't move out of the way soon enough.  I feel horrible that it happened and want more than anything to make DH happy and not feel so horrible about the whole ordeal, but he already wants a new puppy.  Is that normal?  Should I give into him so soon?  Should I let him take a break from having a dog before we get another one?  I just don't know if it's the thing you do when you loose a dog or not.  Any help would be appreciated!  Thanks.
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  • JayandJackJayandJack member

    For me that was normal. I always had animals around...usually 3+ at a time between dogs and cats. I would wait though before getting a new one. He needs some time to morn and recover from the loss of the dog. He's probably still in shock which doesn't help too.

    I'm really sorry for the loss of your dog. 

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  • AbinormalAbinormal member

    Our childhood dog died in June of 2005 (she was 14). By July of 2005 my mother had a new puppy. She didn't go out looking for the puppy, but she happened to be out and saw someone giving away Beagle puppies. She'd always wanted a Beagle, had been missing out dog intensly and so she brought home her new puppy, Lucy.

    Having the new puppy to focus on seemed to help with the grief she was feeling over losing our previous dog.

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  • Jess.OJess.O

    I'm so sorry.  It's so sad to lose a pet and I'm sure your DH feels horrible about it (even though it was an accident.) 

    We've always had dogs or cats or both around so I totally understand him wanting another one.  However, I'd probably wait at least a little while before getting another one.  When our last cat died, I think we waited a couple of weeks.  Our dog needed a playmate but we needed a little time to mourn the cat.  DH wasn't quite ready but when we found our current one, he agreed to it and it wasn't an issue.  I think sometimes it's easy to want to immediately get another one because they're so cute and it helps take your mind off being sad.  I'm rambling and I don't know if I'm any help.  Anyway, I'm sorry for your loss.  

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  • mlf625mlf625

    Poor DH.  He has to feel so, so awful.  My dad accidently ran over our dog last fall and still feels really bad about it.

    I think however he is feeling right now, it's normal.  DH was the same way after Griffin died - he was online the next day looking at dog breeders.  I wanted more time, but in the end, decided a pup wouldn't be the worst thing.  We had to wait about 6 weeks until he was old enough to leave his mama, but just knowing we had a "baby" on the way gave us something to be excited about.

    Just make sure he doesn't run out and buy some crappily-bred pet store dog in his haste to have a new buddy. 

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  • KristieR2007KristieR2007
    On 1/5, someone ran over our dog in the street right in front of our house, DH saw the whole thing, had to carry him out of the street and stay with him for his last few minutes, and then bury him, and this was HIS dog, they were always joined at the hip. He started looking at puppies online the next day, on 1/7 we were at the new animal shelter and he got adopted by a 3 year old Lab/Mastiff. He is great with our other two dogs, and kids. We're still sad over Shortstop and go talk to him at his grave, but it really did help when we got Big Papi.
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  • NoeliaVNoeliaV member
    Your poor DH. So sad and he must feel so so awful.

    I don't think there is a "normal" in grief, you know? That said, if something suddenly happened to our dog, I'd want some time between dogs. And, *that* said, he may have already had in the back of his mind that he wanted a new puppy in the near future since your pup was 12+ years.

    I'd probably let him get a new dog if he feels ready.
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  • KDM2006KDM2006

    imageNoeliaV:
    Your poor DH. So sad and he must feel so so awful.

    I don't think there is a "normal" in grief, you know? That said, if something suddenly happened to our dog, I'd want some time between dogs. And, *that* said, he may have already had in the back of his mind that he wanted a new puppy in the near future since your pup was 12+ years.

    I'd probably let him get a new dog if he feels ready.

     Thanks for all your replies.  I think you are right about him already wanting a new puppy.  I know he was also hoping the dog that died would have bred our female dog by now, but I don't think there is much chance she is pregnant.  He wants a pretty specific dog, so I hope that and us staying so busy will buy us some time.

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