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January 2011 Moms
MarSamWhitney
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Music and TV exposure
MarSamWhitney
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Have you thought about what you will let LO see and listen to? What kind of parent you will be? The other weekend I was mortified when Nephew (8) was running around my house singing LMFAO "I'm sexy and I know it" A few years back he was singing Kesha, about waking up in the morning with a bottle of jack.
Same with when I met H, he always let SS play games at 5 and 6 years old like Grand Theft Auto, with all the drugs and hookers.
I like a wide variety of music, so when I hear songs lately I have been writing them down to put onto cds to listen to with W as she gets older. Roy Orbison, Huey Lewis, Ray Charles, etcc.
Do you think this is overkill? Too much sheltering? I'm talking young, like maybe ages 3-10 or something. I grew up in a very sheltered household, wasn't allowed to watch/ listen to a lot of things, until I was maybe a teenager. I can see a lot of my parents coming out in me as I think how I am going to raise W.
Lets DIscuss ;-)
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Re: Music and TV exposure
Up until my older DS was 11 or 12 I was pretty selective about what I let him watch. We screened/researched movies before we let him see them, steered him towards either Christian music or country (because that is what we liked) and some old rock music. I drove on a field trip when he was in 3rd grade and some kid had the Dukes of Hazard movie wanting met to put that on - I refused and told them to select something else. When he entered middle school he took a liking to pop but in the past year has put that behind - he listens to metal but most of it by Christian artists and knows that we do not allow downloads of music marked explicit. He & DH share in iTunes account so we monitor that. Since the birth of Joshua his TV habits have gone down the tubes and I admit is my fault because he watches up in the room over the garage and we are downstairs. He loves Family Guy, American Dad and most anything on TRU tv. I know he is almost 15yo but some of those shows just are not what I would want him to watch. It is hard to monitor and I sometimes struggle with the well the cow is already out of the barn mentality instead of standing up and saying no more. We do not have HBO or anything like that.
With Joshua I plan to follow the same early routine - we'll steer him towards music we find acceptable and montior the televsion/movie watching to what we think is appropriate and fits with our values. With Justin we watched a lot of sports movies that were uplifting or family oriented (The Greatest Game, Miracle, The Mighty Ducks Series, Facing the Giants, etc) and he loved the ones with the big familieis - Cheaper by the Dozen, Yours, Mine & Ours, etc. Around 12 or 13 we will loosen the reigns.
Ask Rosie about the pink camo toy shotgun my FIL bought DD. Obviously she cant play with it now, but he couldnt resist it. Coming from a family of mostly girls, no guns, no hunting...it was a bit crazy to be married into a family of avid hunters. Im so glad H doesnt do that anymore. Anyways, as stupid as it sounds, I dont like the idea of her running around with this play shotgun and I might accidently throw it out on trash day.
I'm probably weird. lol
Sounds like you and I have similar thinking. I can't wait for stuff like the Mighty Ducks and Air Bud.
As for Family Guy and shows like that, you are right...when do you loosen the reigns. I remember watching 90210 as a teenager, and that wasnt exactly steering me in a proper direction. But..what are you going to do, ya know?
Honestly, I'm far more worried about the subtle stuff. I find Miley Cyrus' prostitot face far more insidious than Grand Theft Auto, which is so over the top it's almost pastiche. It's not like GTA or Family Guy seriously promotes the brainless ideal set forth by most Disney cartoons, for example.
That isn't to say I'm going to shield her from Disney, either. We'll watch it together and discuss why a girl doesn't have to give up her identity as a mermaid to get the boy, and how falling in love with the one guy in the room (especially after he kidnaps you!) is not truly love. We'll also discuss how it's fun to be pretty and wear pretty clothes, but that it's way more fun to be yourself. We'll watch lots of Mulan, lol.
This is totally going to be my kid: https://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/62398963.aspx
In terms of music I have Pandora set up with like 20 very different genres (though I admittedly have an 80s pop ballads and pop ballads stations so I can sing along like a lunatic). She really likes reggae and hindi music, but her favorite song right now is the theme song for the Big Bang Theory. Stuff that has really heavy, constant bass can freak her out sometimes, whether it's rap or a Bach orchestral piece.
Maybe you should tell her Mermaids aren't real...won't that be easier?
Am I the only one who would have to look these words up?
Prostitot = I'm thinking this is a combo of prostitute and tot (toddler)
Pastiche = let me know when you figure this out.
I will try to keep JT from watching things that are violent - that is hard in my house. My DH does MMA and is into the UFC, watches Gangland, etc. so I really need to try to break his habit. I'm not big into music but my DH likes everything (some things there too are explicit raggae, rap) but I listen to what is on the radio only (don't download music or buy music). So inevitably he'll hear things he shouldn't at a young age...I will do my best to keep an open line of communication so that we can discuss what he sees and hears both in our home and in other homes. There will be only so much I can keep from him so I want to be realistic about that.
I don't know - it will be hard and I plan to try to evaluate it as I go. I hope I don't break JT!
lol I did not put that together..that is hilarious!
I agree with all of us. She's going to learn about it sooner or later. I'd rather her learn about things at home where we can discuss it than at school and have her hide it because those things are banned from our house.
Gotcha. For some reason Prostitot slipped right over my head. I had never heard that before.