XP from Feb board: Hospital Tour same time as Championship Game

Claudine2010 · January 2012

So my DH in his own words is frustrated that our scheduled hospital tour is at the same time the championship game between the Patriots (His favorite team) and the Ravens.... Jan 22nd

No one is to blame why our tour is scheduled for this day and time other than the fact we together waited until the last min to register for one. His first reaction was to reschedule it for another date, however the next availble date is practically 1 week from my due date and im sorry but thats just cutting it too close for me, so no rescheduling for me

Were FTP and both agreed this is something we want to do and know it will be very informative....so with that said Im a little annoyed that he is soo mad, we all have to make sacrifices and this may be one of them. I told him that he has the choice to not go and ill just go with my parents...even though deep down inside im thinking if he doesnt go his priorities are messed up and I KNOW for a fact that I will be mad if he doesnt, AND i dont want him badgering me for information when I get back, information he would know himself he would just go with me...

Anyway what are your thoughts?? should I be mad if he doesnt go? should I just let him stay and watch the game? Is he being selfish?

LilyPotter218 · January 2012

If that happened to me, I would be the one skipping

Our tour was pretty useless. If I had known what I know now, I would not have done one. I have been to L&D and know where to check in. That is really all that was needed.

I told my H he didn't have to go with me at all, that I'd take his sister with me. As long as one of us knew where to go that was fine by me. Let him stay home and take someone else. I just don't think its a big deal at all.

salt78 · January 2012

LilyPotter218:
If that happened to me, I would be the one skipping

Haha seriously. I'm not missing that game for anything, so I can understand why your husband would want to watch it.

Aleja0918 · January 2012

LilyPotter218:
If that happened to me, I would be the one skipping

Me too. I'm way too much of a sports buff.

Taryn M · January 2012

I wouldn't be mad. As a matter of fact, we aren't even taking a tour this time around. I toured the hospital with DD1 (it was different than the one we are delivering this baby at) and it was pretty pointless. As long as you're familiar with where to check in you should be all set.

Charlyne · January 2012

Hockey (specifically the Red Wings) is the only sport I care about so football is pretty boring to me. Even then I would miss the playoffs to do my tour. I would definitely be mad if my DH decided to skip a hospital tour to watch a game. Are they at the exact same time of day? Even so, it's unlikely the tour will last as long as the game, he'll get to see some of it.

My tour was pretty concise and I liked being able to see the rooms and talk to one of the nurses as we went through and to ask questions. Depending on how talkative you/the nurse is and how much stuff she goes through I would say it's not going to be more than 45 mins, if that.

Sascha3 · January 2012

My tour consisted of telling us what entrance to come in after midnight, how to get to L&D, wich I already knew, and we got to see the L&D room and the room where I would spend the night. There were a couple questions I liked hearing, such as the number of visitors and what they provide there. But honestly...it wasn't necessary or that informative. I wasn't doing anything else. If I had something else to do, like work or something like a championship game if I liked sports, I wouldn't have gone.

Claudine2010 · January 2012

Charlyne:

Are they at the exact same time of day?

The tour is at 4pm and the game starts at 3pm.... the nurse said it would be from 4 to 5:30 but im guessing that time is not precise just a window of time the tour could take

JURAH · January 2012

Haha. Our 8 hr birthing class / tour is on Sunday, meaning we'll be missing 3 qtrs of the Giants game at least. We're not even real giant's fans, but it's really exciting for our adoptive city and we are football fans. Hoping others in the class feel similarly and maybe we'll get an early reprieve. If however this was the semi-finals of the Fa cup with our soccer team I would be claiming some type of emergency at say around 6 o'clock to get out of the last 2 hrs. So I get where your hubby is coming from.

girley75 · January 2012

Wow!! That is a HUGE game... Is there any way you can take an online virtual tour? My hospital (Kaiser) offers this. I was in a similar situation last Saturday during our baby shower. He thought the 49ers were playing at 4:30pm and it turns out they were playing at 1:30pm (our shower was scheduled from 1-5). Yes, I was a bit upset that everyone would be watching the game during our shower at first but I got over it. Plus, I had my own shower w/ just the girls Sunday. I think relationship's take compromise. How important is it to him to watch the game? How important is it to you to take the tour? If you gave in and let him stay perhaps next time something is really important to you, he will give in!

Auburngirl32 · January 2012

I went to mine last night. by myself DH stayed home. Honestly the only thing the guys who were dragged along learned was where to park and where the cafeteria is everything else was specifically for the moms to be. I told my DH that im glad i didnt drag him along. Let your DH enjoy the game. Once the LO gets here it wont be much "me" time for either of you for a while.

BOTB2011 · January 2012

Our tour lasted 45 minutes and that was only because another couple asked a million questions. It shouldn't be too bad.

I think DH can miss part of a game. Yes I would be mad if he didn't go and he is being selfish. It's just sports - and yes I AM a football fan. However I realize my child, and preparing for said child, needs to come first.

Hopefully this isn't an indicator of things to come when the baby is actually here!

Aurora_Borealis · January 2012

If my L&D tour was the same time as the 49ers/Giants game this Sunday I would absolutely choose the game over the hospital tour. So, no, I don't think YH is being selfish.

FWIW, my L&D tour was not terribly earth-shattering or informative. It consisted of 1) here is the 24hr entrance to the hospital in case you come in after 8pm, 2) here is where you check-in at L&D, 3) here is one of the L&D rooms and 4) please proceed to the 1st floor and preregister today so you don't have to deal with it when you are in labor. MH was not able to attend this tour due to his work schedule and it was truly not a big deal that he missed it.

Lisa9926 · January 2012

Can't he just record the beginning of the game and catch up when you get home? Those tours take a hour max, so it's not that big of a deal. I'd leave him behind if he was being a baby about it and enjoy the experience myself.

erbear · January 2012

I'm with your husband. Hospital tours are not that important. He needs to know where to drop you off and where to find you again after he parks the car...that's pretty much it.

BabyC2012 · January 2012

My DH is a diehard Ravens fan, so I can definitely understand the perspective that you and your husband are coming into this situation with. I am really glad that I took the hospital tour because as a FTM it gave me visuals to match with how I am thinking about labor and delivery unfolding. It eased a lot of my anxiety to see the spaces and places we will occupy. However, I don't think it did much for DH. He and the other dad's mostly commented on the TV's in the various rooms and the location of the cafeteria. You and DH could do a practice run to the hospital to ensure that he knows where to park and you can show him the lobby/waiting room for the labor/delivery on a different day if you decide to attend the tour with your parents.

libindiby · January 2012

Lisa9926:
Can't he just record the beginning of the game and catch up when you get home? Those tours take a hour max, so it's not that big of a deal. I'd leave him behind if he was being a baby about it and enjoy the experience myself.

totally this.

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