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Am I being too sensitive?

keelmickeelmic
in April 2012 Moms

My DH and I were just sitting on the sofa talking and he says "I talked to one of my buddies about that annual golf trip those guys take and it turns out they will be playing in Mississippi this year." When I asked him when it was, he said it was a Wednesday-Saturday trip 2 weeks before my due date. He would be over 5 hours away and this guy is not a close friend (they only talk 1-2 x a year).

I can't even believe he is considering it! He thinks that it's fine because his another friend did the same thing two weeks before his wife's induce date. Does he honestly think that ALL babies come on their due dates?

Would you be okay with this or am I overreacting?

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Re: Am I being too sensitive?

  • schmoodschmood member
    I would be hesitant to let DH go.  Could he wait until a little closer to the time to make the decision?  By that point you'd be going to the OB every week and they could maybe gauge where you are at - if you would have the likelihood of going into labor that weekend...  I know they can't totally predict, but if you are not at all dialted and/or effaced I would maybe consider it?
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  • cheri lynnecheri lynne
    I would be a little nervous.  My DH is planning on us going 5 hours away 3 wks before my due date so he can run in the Tough Mudder. We'll see....
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  • Annie234567Annie234567 member

    Two weeks is too close to the due date, IMO.  One month out I would probably be okay with, as long as I wasn't having any complications or problems getting around.  My DH travels for work every month, and his last trip before Baby comes is scheduled for 5 weeks before she is due, partly because he is afraid she'll come early and partly because he doesn't want to leave me alone 8+ months pregnant with no one else around to help me if I need it.  Have you told your DH about your concerns?  I think it's completely reasonable to do this.  He'll probably end up agreeing with you.

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  • sometimesalwayschaoticsometimesalwayschaotic member

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    I would be hesitant to let DH go.  Could he wait until a little closer to the time to make the decision?  By that point you'd be going to the OB every week and they could maybe gauge where you are at - if you would have the likelihood of going into labor that weekend...  I know they can't totally predict, but if you are not at all dialted and/or effaced I would maybe consider it?

    I would not be happy with that.  I figure anytime after I am term (37 weeks) is out of the question.  After 37 weeks you could go at anytime.  I definitely don't agree with waiting until you go to your OB.  You could have no progress and go into labor that night.  Getting checked weekly doesn't really tell you anything.

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  • Kdrake8Kdrake8 member

    I don't think you're being too sensitive at all... Is this your first child?

    I just ask bc it's our first, and I just found out that DH was trying to surprise me with a Babymoon about a 5-6 hour drive away...... Which is sweet, but he wanted to do it three weeks before my due date. 

    He never thought at all that this would be a problem. Maybe your DH was thinking the same?  I had to end up just telling DH to stop making the plans, bc not only will I probably not physically feel up to all that at 37 weeks, but I also don't want to be so far from our hospital and doctors.

    Sometimes I feel like you REALLY just have to spell it out for them.  

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  • beth6287beth6287 member
    No you are not overreacting. My boyfriend and I already decided that he would not go more than an hour and a half max from me starting in April (I'm due April 24th) I would just mention to him that you are uncomfortable with it. He might not even realize that it could be an issue.
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  • Ruby412Ruby412 member

    You are absolutely not being too sensitive. And I would ask him politely to not go.

    My dad missed the birth of my sister (who was premature) due to a work trip. And it's been a huge regret for him all his/her life.


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  • jeffsjaymejeffsjayme
    I think I'd be okay with it, as long as you could re-evaluate really close to the trip.  Going 2 weeks before your due date is pretty rare.
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  • DiamondDaniDiamondDani member
    Nope, I'd ask DH to skip it this year. 
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  • JFH2010JFH2010 member
    I don't think you should be angry at him for suggesting it, but I agree that it's pushing it close. I would feel hesitant, but at the same time, it's just a few days and 5 hours isn't THAT far. So I would feel conflicted, but there's nothing wrong with asking him to skip ot.
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