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TTC After a Loss
bananers
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I need to let out some sads for a minute before it gets to me.
bananers
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I was just included on an email thread from a good friend announcing her pregnancy to our circle of friends. Thankfully, she told me personally about a week ago, so I wasn't completely blindsided by it, but I still can't help but feel a pang of sadness reading the rest of our friends' reactions to it. It's hard not to throw a little tantrum inside since we never got far enough to make this sort of a happy announcement to our friends. And now I am fearing the inevitable... someone is bound to crack a (well-intentioned) joke about how I'm next, or that I better hurry up, etc. Only a few people know what we've been through.
Breathe...
I'm having a good day otherwise and am really trying not to let this get to me. I know these types of posts are a dime a dozen here, but here I am. There are very few places I can whine about this IRL.
Here's some cheese to go with my whine.
BFP #1 10/6/11 | EDD 6/15/12 | MMC 11/7/11 @ 8w3d | D&C 11/14/11
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
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Re: I need to let out some sads for a minute before it gets to me.
TTC since 11/09; 5/11: lap (endometriosis-cleared), HSG (high pressure in tubes- cleared) and Hystoscopy (endocervical polyp - removed)
8/5/11: BFP; 11/14/11: no heartbeat on US; 11/16/11: delivered my angel baby, 19w1d; 12/15/11: D&C
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BFP#1 April 12, 2011, EDD December 24, 2011, strong heart beat at 7w3d, d&c at 10w6d
BFP#2 Oct 24, 2011, natural miscarriage, EDD unknown
After RPL testing my losses and subsequent infertility are considered unexplained.
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BFP#3 Dec 21, 2012. Beta #1 @14dpo = 134, progesterone 67.8. Beta #2 @ 17dpo = 664! Team green, EDD 9/1/13, healthy baby boy born 9/12/13!
Congratulations to the fabulous KGS2003! Her sweet boys are here! Grow boys grow!!!
I know exactly how you feel!! I had the miscarriage and it felt like my world came to a hault and then 4 weeks later my huband's BF announced that him and his wife are expecting! Talk about being blindsided! I was happy for them! However I was angry, hurt, sad and upset at the fact that it took us so long to finally get pregnant and it was gone, when it only took them 2 months!!
It does hurt and you don't want to be the next topic of conversation about when are you going to start trying and stuff, I've already been through that. People at work think I'm crazy because they were asking about it (there are multiple pregnant woman at work) and I lost it!! I wasn't ready to explain to them what happen, but I had to finally come out and tell them!
I'm still working through everything, but I've come to a conclusion that there will always be those days and certain things that trigger emotions!
Keep you're head held high and know that it all happens for a reason!! Enjoy that wine & cheese!!!
No matter how many times you get or see a post like that it stings. As for the comments i totally understand. yesterday two people asked me when we were going to have a baby and that we better "get on it" since our 3 year wedding anniversary is next week. I know they have no way of knowing what we've been through but people need to think about their "innocent" comments.
I hope your night improves. Big (((hugs)))
On another note that wine and cheese looks delish!
No matter how many times you get or see a post like that it stings. As for the comments i totally understand. yesterday two people asked me when we were going to have a baby and that we better "get on it" since our 3 year wedding anniversary is next week. I know they have no way of knowing what we've been through but people need to think about their "innocent" comments.
I hope your night improves. Big (((hugs)))
On another note that wine and cheese looks delish!
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I am so sorry girl. THIS part that I quoted is the worst!!! I hate when people say that and wish they could consider the other possibilities such as m/c or IF.
At my work, the ladies all ways get KU in groups. Right now there are 3 (I was the 4th =( but only my BFF at work knew). Anyway, I am getting so much $hit from everyone how "I'm next" and "when am I gonna get KU" and "am I KTFU" - I want to scream.
I actually told an older lady (not old but well into her 50s) that she was next when she told me I was next (to get pg). I was obviously laughing and joking but I wanted to kinda turn it around on her. That would be my advise - any time anyone asks you when you're gonna TTC - ask them that - if they are way older than you, if they are way younger, single, or even male! See how quickly they get awkward and the convo stops right there
Hope you feel better!!