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BlueEyes313
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"Gender-neutral" Child?!
BlueEyes313
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I thought this was interesting. Could you? Would you be able to keep the sex of your child a secret until they're 5
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Re: "Gender-neutral" Child?!
That's crazy!! Poor kid...if they wanted to do an experiment they should have done it on themselves not a child.
FWIW, My DS has many toys that are typically for girls and we bought him the trucks, tractors and trains because that is what he is drawn to. We don't discriminate one way or the other. If we are getting him a toy he can choose.
I understand the reasoning behind this, so that the child doesn't feel like it has to grow up in a specific gender role, but I don't think there is any reason to hide the gender.
If I have a son and we wants a pink tutu and barbies then fine he will get a pink tutu and barbies. And if I have a daughter and she wants to play with trucks and GI Joe then she will get trucks and a GI Joe. As long as you let your child have the freedom to choose the toys and clothes that they want, then it will accomplish the same thing, no reason in keeping it a secret though.
That's crazy. I will not do that to my child. I don't think hiding the sex was a good intention either.
I also do not think a young boy should be wearing a girl's swimsuit. That's where I draw the line. A pink shirt or pants are one thing, a swimsuit is another. If a girl wanted to wear a boy's swimsuit (just shorts, no top) would the parents be okay with that?
DS #1 Born: 11/29/12
LO #2 EDD: 10/20/14
This stuff makes me angry. You can absolutely not focus on gender without turning the kid into a science experiment. Gender is societal, but sex is not. He has a penis, he is a male, that doesn't need to be hidden. However if they want to be open with his choices and let him choose how he wants to dress and what he wants to play with that is fine, but clearly they are being biased by banning ultra masculine attire.
I loved dolls as a kid, but my parents never made me play with dolls. There is a pic of me playing with what looks like a dock of some sort that suctions to the bathrub wall, a GI Joe, I think a girly doll and a giant cow. Who the hell knows what I was playing but it was fun. I loved my girly pink room with a canopy bed but I also loved getting dirty and playing with my brother and his friends. Today I feel like a very well adjusted woman, I enjoy sterotypical girl things like getting my nails done and chick flicks, but I pride myself in being independent and able to do things that most "girly girls" cannot.
If anything, I would say these parents are more along the lines of pushing their boy to be a girl (Sasha sounds like a girl to me, allowing the sparkly pink swimsuit but not the shirt with skulls). I feel sorry for this kid.
My Pregnancy/Parenting BLOG TTC since 5/2011, BFP #1 12/3/11, M/C 12/7/11 @ 4wks 2d. Began seeing RE Sep 2012. October 2012 Metformin 1500 mg= ovulation on CD34 BFP#2 11/14/12 9DPO, EDD 7/26/13, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks, our angel born sleeping 3/24/13 @ 22wks 2d. BFP #3 7/4/13 8DPO EDD 3/22/14, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks. started insulin @16 wks. Our rainbow, born 3/19/14 @ 39wks 6d., we're so in love!
Why is that having a stick up her azz? There would come a point when that would become a modesty issue. Would you let your 8 year old girl run around at a public pool in just boys' swim trunks?
My Pregnancy/Parenting BLOG TTC since 5/2011, BFP #1 12/3/11, M/C 12/7/11 @ 4wks 2d. Began seeing RE Sep 2012. October 2012 Metformin 1500 mg= ovulation on CD34 BFP#2 11/14/12 9DPO, EDD 7/26/13, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks, our angel born sleeping 3/24/13 @ 22wks 2d. BFP #3 7/4/13 8DPO EDD 3/22/14, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks. started insulin @16 wks. Our rainbow, born 3/19/14 @ 39wks 6d., we're so in love!
That's exactly my point. A little girl should not be running around topless.
DS #1 Born: 11/29/12
LO #2 EDD: 10/20/14
This. The hypocrisy of this whole "experiment" is what irks me. The child is not allowed to wear ultra masculine clothes, yet is allowed to wear (what is obviously) ultra feminine clothes. The double standard makes this whole shenanigans far from "gender-neutral."
EDD 07/29/2017
sad & wrong for people to take their beautiful miracle, and turn them into a science experiment.