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TTC After a Loss
crystal8503
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So, I thought I was okay but....PG mentioned - not mine.
crystal8503
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A friend found out she was pregnant around the same time I was and we were both very excited. She found out yesterday that she was only 7 weeks along instead of the 10 weeks she thought. I found out at 7 weeks 2 days that I had a missed miscarry. Her 7 week appointment showed what DH and I should have seen instead of having our hearts broken. I'm happy for her but did she have to send me a picture text of her sonogram knowing I miscarried? I got over it. I didn't look at it when I saw the picture load and just closed my phone. However, this morning I get to wake up to two pictures on her facebook account.
I'm happy for her but it's hard. She's due 10 days after our baby was supposed to arrive and being around her, talking to her, seeing pictures, etc is just going to be a constant reminder of what we won't have in August. To top things off, I still haven't actually miscarried and will have to take Cytotec tonight. I'm having a hard time coming to terms with the finality of the whole pregnancy because even though our baby isn't growing, he's still there and now I'm going to boot him out.
I'm sorry to vent. I know I haven't been around long enough to vent as much as I have but this feels like such a safe place.
BFP #1 - 12/12/11 - Missed M/C 1/9/12
BFP #2 - 4/5/2012 - Son Born 12/12/12
BFP #3 - 2/2/2014 - EDD 10/16/2014
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Re: So, I thought I was okay but....PG mentioned - not mine.
(((HUGE GIANT HUGS))) T&P are with you! I'm so sorry!
We're having dinner with my hubby's brother and FI who are due right after we were. Darn my loving, thoughtful, sweet DH for thinking this would be a good time! I know it's not near as painful as what you're dealing with, but I wanted to share, do you know you're not alone.
Don't apologize for venting. That is what we are here for. I am so sorry for your loss. I know what you mean about the constant reminders of what might have been and how tough that is. My EDD was exactly 4 months after my sister's EDD. Add that to the fact that my EDD was the day before DHs bday and I miscarried over thanksgiving weekend, and those are significant facts that won't just slip my mind. Every year at thanksgiving, I will remember my loss, every time DH has a birthday, I will remember. I hope in time the pain lessens, but I don't know for sure that it will. Greive however you need to, there is no right or wrong way to do it.
Big ((HUGS)) to you.
((HUGS))
The pic? Not cool.
I'm sorry that you're hurting. Hang in there.
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TTC #2 BFP 12/6/11 chemical pregnancy natural mc 12/18/11
TTC #3 BFP 3/19/12. 4/9: HR of 134! **Bake Turkey, Bake!**
**All ALs Welcome**
I am so, so sorry that you have to go through this.
**BIG HUGS**
The whole picture thing was definitely insensitive of her. You will be in my thoughts and prayers as you go through this dificult time.
An don't be sorry to vent! We are all here to help and comfort each other! I'm so sorry for your loss, but I am so glad to have you as a part of this community!
Crystal I have been thinking of you a lot! That was just cruel of her to do- people do so much without thinking!!
It is SUCH a mindfluck to be walking around knowing your baby is not alive, yet your body hasnt taken the hint yet. I hate this for you. It just sucks, there is no way around it. You are in my prayers, and keep us posted on how you are doing. Biggest big squishy hugs to you!