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Should I ask first?

lew0509lew0509 member
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DH and I are seriously considering 2u2, but there's a catch. DH is set to deploy overseas, so we would try to get PG before he leaves and he most likely won't be home for the birth. Hopefully he'll be home less than a month after. I would need my mom and/or MIL to come stay with me to help. My mom stayed with me after DS, and MIL did the same for SIL. My MIL doesn't work and mom works from home. Do I need to include them in our planning and ask if they would be willing to help? Or is this an implied mom thing?
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Re: Should I ask first?

  • kcisthebombdotcomkcisthebombdotcom member

    No, I would not ask. I would TTC and if it works, cross that bridge when you get there.

    GL!

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  • Raffes484Raffes484
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    No, I would not ask. I would TTC and if it works, cross that bridge when you get there.

    GL!

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  • Raffes484Raffes484
    imageKC_13:

    No, I would not ask. I would TTC and if it works, cross that bridge when you get there.

    GL!

    This. You don't know if you're going to get pregnant when you plan to, so it may be a moot point. Good luck!

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  • lew0509lew0509 member
    Thanks ladies, I wanted to be considerate and not just tie them into our plans without asking.
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  • 12bailey1812bailey18 member
    I would run it by mom. My DH is military and I often plan ahead with my mom helping out and future plans so she wouldn't think anything of it. I guess it just depends on your relationship with your mom.

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  • howleyshellhowleyshell member

    imagelew0509:
    Do I need to include them in our planning and ask if they would be willing to help? Or is this an implied mom thing?

    You know that the word "assume" makes an "@ss" out of "u" and "me", right?

    I would never assume that anyone would walk away from their personal life to come stay with me.

    Of course it's likely that they would want to but I wouldn't consider it an implied Mom kinda thing.

    I agree with PP though - get knocked up first and then worry about it.  If you tell them you're TTC you're like to get a lot of opinions that you may not want to hear. 

    One bridge at a time.... 

    Our IF journey: 1 m/c, 1 IVF with only 3 eggs retrieved yielding Dylan and a lost twin, 1 shocker unmedicated BFP resulting in Jace, 3 more unmedicated pregnancies ending in more losses.
    Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
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  • WhitePicketFenceWhitePicketFence member
    Uh, no. You can ask for their help once you are pregnant again.
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