Anyone else feel stupid

mamabrof · January 2012

when trying to act "sexy"? Seriously, when I make an effort to put on lingerie or talk dirty, I always feel like a moron. It's definitely not second nature for me. My H wants me to do it more, but it just feels forced when I try. Any tips?

EVA116 · January 2012

The other night I put on what I wore on our wedding night and did my hair and all that jazz....I ran down stairs feeling all sexy and he was sitting on the toliet taking a poop....ugh, I tried...and then he said...oooh you fill that out better in the chest area now.

So I went and waited for him to finish but it was hard to think sexy after that.

I try to be sexy but when I say things I just sound stupid.

I am no help.

rimjob · January 2012

I end up injured everytime I try to be sexy. I tried to give H a lapdance one night. I fell off the couch hit my head on the coffee table and cut my knee pretty bad. I dressed all sexy one time with heels, thigh highes, and the whole shebang. As I walked into the kitchen to greet him I slipped and fell into the doorjam which resulted in a huge snag and some bleeding. I could go on for hours....

EVA116 · January 2012

How about, "Hey baby, is that a keg in your pants, cause I'd like to tap that azz"

lilbit923 · January 2012

I'm the one that initiates the 'conversation' when we have sex. DH isn't a big talker and I've told him I need "feedback" so I know what I'm doing is/isn't working for him. It takes a lot of coaxing for him to talk to me.

I buy the lingerie and I've worn it for him occassionally because I don't want him to think I'm becoming boring after having babies. But I've found that just a t-shirt and panties does more for him than me wearing something that feels like it's crushing my ribcage and cutting off circulation.

thatgrrrrl · January 2012

just have fun. Don't over think it. If you giggle, go with it and don't try to hold it back. That ends up making you fart.

jandy09 · January 2012

I also feel a bit ridiculous when I try. When we went to Jamaica though, I felt sexier. All inhibitions were gone. Could've been the gorgeous surroundings, alcohol, or exotic foods. We plan on going back next year. That time definitely revamped our relationship and we need a booster after baby.

EVA116 · January 2012

Jandy09:

I also feel a bit ridiculous when I try. When we went to Jamaica though, I felt sexier. All inhibitions were gone. Could've been the gorgeous surroundings, alcohol, or exotic foods. We plan on going back next year. That time definitely revamped our relationship and we need a booster after baby.

We went to Jamaica on our honeymoon and we LOVED it. I had sooo much fun and it was the first time I saw the ocean.

WestCoastMommy · January 2012

mamabrof:
when trying to act "sexy"? Seriously, when I make an effort to put on lingerie or talk dirty, I always feel like a moron. It's definitely not second nature for me. My H wants me to do it more, but it just feels forced when I try. Any tips?

WestCoastMommy · January 2012

Ooops. I meant to say that that's me exactly OP! I just feel ridiculous!

beckslea · January 2012

Drink wine

rae_dylanzmom · January 2012

I'm not one to throw out advice in this department, but the question I had reading your posts was... what makes you feel sexy? Maybe it's something simple, like taking a shower at the end of the day (washing off spit up and having clean hair... what a novelty!), or maybe it's wearing a flattering nursing tank (I actually have one that DH and I both love!).

IMO, it's not really about your DHs.... focus on feeling sexy yourself.

OctGirl80 · January 2012

I feel the exact same way. H always wants me to "talk" more. I feel so stupid even trying it. It just feels so fake.

daisygirl2010 · January 2012

beckslea:
Drink wine

LOL - this! A couple glasses in and I stop feeling so stupid. (although I'm sure I still sound pretty stupid!)

skio · January 2012

I absolutely can not talk dirty, no matter how drunk I am. I feel so ridiculous that it ruins the mood.

Putting on sexy underoos makes me feel sexier, so I can at least do that. If I even tried to do a serious sexy dance, DH just might die of laughter.

Our way of being sexy is being silly - our humor is what gets us going, I guess. Like the other night I ran from the bedroom to the bathroom nekkid and yelled, "We're going streaking!" DH played along and said, "Who's we?" Then joined me in the shower. 'Twas fun.

Kissimi21 · January 2012

There shouldn't be a "trying to be sexy". If you're trying, then it feels forced which takes all the fun out of it. I used to work for a burlesque troupe and the first thing we'd tell the people who auditioned was, "Don't try to be sexy. It just ends up looking ackward or sleazy."

Sexy isn't 6" heels and a corset, it's your attitude, your confidence and it's YOU. If being flirty is your thing, flirt. If being silly does it for you, be silly. If you feel confident enough to do a strip tease for your husband, believe me he isn't thinking about how you almost fell on your asss, he's just checking it out.

Hyfagal · January 2012

Oh yes, there is a whole blooper reel from my Bpic shoot because I don't have a sexy bone in my body.

LynsiBHM · January 2012

skio:

I absolutely can not talk dirty, no matter how drunk I am. I feel so ridiculous that it ruins the mood.

Putting on sexy underoos makes me feel sexier, so I can at least do that. If I even tried to do a serious sexy dance, DH just might die of laughter.

Our way of being sexy is being silly - our humor is what gets us going, I guess. Like the other night I ran from the bedroom to the bathroom nekkid and yelled, "We're going streaking!" DH played along and said, "Who's we?" Then joined me in the shower. 'Twas fun.

this is SO me and H! "serious sexy" would just feel weird to me.

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