Leaving Multiples Overnight

mrsmac08 · January 2012

When did you first leave your babies overnight with someone else (grandparents, aunt, etc)?

My friends with one baby have already done this and their babies are a few months younger than mine...I just can't imagine doing it anytime soon. So, I'm just curious what everyone else has done?

Haven1 · January 2012

We left them at my parents' house at 10 weeks for a wedding out of town. We've been leaving them with one of our parents at least once a month for slumber parties ever since. Maybe it was the 13 nights in the NICU, but leaving them the first time wasn't nearly as hard as I thought it would be. (It was heaven to sleep uninterrupted, actually.)

Honestly, leaving them around six months for NYE was much harder. They were just starting to understand their home and parents, and they knew they were someplace different without us. That one hurt. But now they love it. Both sets of grandparents have much cooler toys than we have and make it an extra fun night.

Start with having someone come to your house if you aren't comfortable leaving the kids in another location. It'll get easier, I promise. Overall, I'm a huge advocate of spending nights away from your kids. It's good for everyone.

cookiemonster03 · January 2012

If the weather holds up, we're leaving them with my SIL this Sat night. I am excited.

MagPie08 · January 2012

We left them with my folks for a wedding when they were 4 mos. We've done about four or so overnight trips since then and always have left them with family.

robinsokj · January 2012

We cruised for a week at 8 mo and it was glorious

keg · January 2012

Sadly, the only time I've been away from them overnight was for a business trip when they were about 16 months old and that was with DH, which I don't think counts. I would have done it in a heartbeat when they were sleeping relatively well if I had someone willing to stay with them! Unfortunately, we don't have family near by. :-(

dulcinea03 · January 2012

I'm almost embarassed to admit that they'll be 2 in 2 weeks, and we haven't yet. Actually, neither of us have been gone overnight yet. That being said, DH will be gone for a week in March, and I'm going to a wedding for a long weekend alone in May.

Now that they're sleeping well (knock on wood) we'd like to do at least a night away in the next couple of months, but we'll have to see if we can swing it financially.

cocojack10 · January 2012

The first time for one night of sleep, Dh and I left them with my inlaws at 8 mo, then again at 10 mo. We later left them with my mom and sisters for 3 nights at 11 mo.

We are actually planning another trip for next month (or following) for about 5 days, and they'll prob stay with my mom and sisters again.

mmbench · January 2012

When they were about 4 months we started having the grandparents stay at our place overnight and take an overnight shift one night per week so I could get some rest. That went on until they started STTN.

Then when the girls were 11 months we stayed overnight for our anniversary at a B&B while the ILs came to our house. But it was just the one night. I didn't leave them multiple nights until they were 4 or so.

ahale906 · January 2012

Wow!! I feel like an "odd ball" right now reading all these comments! My oldest is 5 and the only time I've left him was when I was in the hospital for 2 nights after having my twins. (he was 2.5 but my mom was at the house and my husband brought him to the hospital everyday for most of the day) My twins will be 3 in March and I've never once left them overnight anywhere!

With that being said I should mention we are military and family is over 6 hours away now. We are planning on leaving the boys home with my mom next month for one night so my husband and I can go to Hollywood for the day Big Smile I can NOT wait! hehe...

SouthSeasBride · January 2012

We left them overnight for a wedding at 3 months with my parents. At 7 months we left them for 4 nights to go to NYC for our anniversary. Since then we have had multiple vacations alone.

We leave them with my parents or DH's parents all.the.time! It's a wonderful break!

MNheidi · January 2012

Do it! We left the boys once when they were about 7 mos old for ONE night! We would do it more often but we don't have family in town. So when we do plan a getaway (Jamaica for 6 days in 2 weeks!!!), we have to fly people in etc.

If you have people who watch them pretty regularly and live close, do it. Your marriage is essential in parenting which means, even though it normally doesn't feel like it, it should come first. IMO, that means vacations alone.

macchiatto · January 2012

18m. I would've been fine doing it sooner with someone I trusted but we don't have family around and paying sitters overnight gets expensive! At 18m my sister visited us (family are all 600-1600 miles away) for two weeks and DH and I had a 2-night anniversary getaway during that stay. It was wonderful!! And she's a very experienced nanny besides being their loving aunt so I knew they were in very good hands.

But I've never been one of those moms who has a hard time leaving my babies as long as it's a sitter I trust. I know they'll be fine, I know I do better if I get breaks from time to time, and really, other than a few times in the nursery from about 9-15m, (I'd get called out of church to pick one up maybe once every month or two) they've never really cried that much after we leave. Like they might cry for a minute when we're leaving but by all reports they're fine within a minute of us leaving and have a great time.

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