Keeping names a secret?

PrincessMegan716 · January 2012

Is anyone keeping the names they like a secret?

I love names and I'm the first to ask my pregnant friends what names they are thinking but I never ask so I can rip apart they name they choose. I just ask out of curiousity and genuine interest. But I notice that a lot of people feel they can say whatever they want to you about the names you are thinking about. This totally bothers me. I don't want anyone's opinion unless I specifically ask for it and I probably won't ask for it. I want to share my names but if I get a stupid comment back and it gets stuck in my head, runing my perfect name, I'll be POed.

mrslisawright · January 2012

We didn't and I don't know that anyone's poo poo'ing would have impacted our decision. That said, we WERE going to name LO Ernest, after my late father. Once I told my mom, she said that it would make her too sad. That was that...

Good luck!

amber323 · January 2012

DH wants to keep our names a secret, at the beginning of the pregnancy we shared the names we liked with our families and only negative feedback for them which made us think, I like the feedback because it helps me to see things the way other people see them but DH didn't like it. I'm not sure whether we are going to tell, I'd like to just to hear everyone calling the baby that name and testing it out for me, just don't take people's comments too harshly and name your baby whatever you feel is the most perfect name

LaurenCase89 · January 2012

We're not finding out the sex of the baby so we have 4 or 5 names we're discussing for each sex. I never tell the people we're talking to my favorites I just mention a few names if people ask. I feel the same way you do, I do not want anyone's negative opinion about the possible name of our child. And everyone does seem to think that we want to know their thought on names, birth plans, exercise, everything! That's our plan for not telling anyone the exact names. Just give them lots, lol.

Babybear70 · January 2012

I think we are going to keep our names a secret. Not that it would matter what anyone else thinks of the name that we choose, but I just don't want to hear what people have to say about any of the names that we choose. We aren't finding out the sex so that is a surprise for us and everyone else, so why not do the same with the names! Plus I think we will narrow our list to 2 girls and 2 boys names and then decide when the baby gets here.

mrs+harlow · January 2012

I like keeping it a secret because for me it's a surprise and I don't want anyone trying to jack my name picks...I've just told very immediate family.

Pin a side ote not everyone will give you two cents on your name. When my brother told me the name they picked for their child I was horrified...but I was sure not to show it on my face and didn't say anything rude.

toniannV · January 2012

We are keeping the names a secret and we both feel so strongly about it! I don't want people's opinions and while I know our close family wouldn't tell us if we didn't like the name, there are a select few people that would give us their unwanted opinion. We have a couple of friends that are already giving us a hard time about not telling, (which is pissing me off) but whatever- we really don't want anyone to know.

Another reason for us is that, my friend had a girl name picked out during her whole pregnancy and her mother in law (& a few other family members) kept referring to her stomach by that name, so by the time the baby came- she was just sick of it, so they ended up changing it anyway.

Also, we want to have a few different names ready so that when we see the baby we can decide the name.

EmilyP103 · January 2012

During our decision process, we kept a lot of our ideas secret so that people wouldn't give us unwanted "advice" or opinions. Once we made our choice, we announced it. I didn't want to keep it a secret for a few reasons...

1. I wanted to be able to call Carson by his name!
2. If someone actually shared their opinion on our name was it was finalized, it better be nice! If not, I don't care, it's our baby, not their baby!

KarmB · January 2012

we're not telling anyone until we find out the sex.

BarbourWales04 · January 2012

We're supposed to find out the sex next week, and we have names picked out. We sort of had to tell the names, since FI has three siblings and about seventy zillion cousins, and we didn't want to be namejackers or to name our baby something someone else already had. Fortunately, both the middle names we've chosen are family names, and the first names have special meaning to us.

I can't wait to see if our LO is Alex or Amy!

EsposaDeJorge · January 2012

I will only confess to those admirably curious!!

ArmyWifeandMommy8610 · January 2012

I kept the two we had picked out a secret until we knew what we were having mainly because there are a lot of the females in my group of friends and family that are pregnant and one of my cousins had already stolen the first name we picked out if Colten had been a girl. That kind of ruined the whole he lets share what we think deal for me.

melrrr · January 2012

We kept them secret last time and will again this time (assuming we ever come up with any!). It was fun to announce the sex and name at birth!

mkflower3000 · January 2012

I want to but I'm a horrible liar, especially when people get pushy (for instance, one time I tried the 'we're just throwing around ideas' excuse, and the dental hygienist went 'well, come on, tell me!', so I caved), but I WANT to keep it a secret. Like you, I don't feel like listening to people's opinions + our name is kind of unique in the US - it's common in other English speaking countries and actually an old fashioned name at that, but for some reason super rare here - so I feel like I have to explain it every. single. time.

kincaid44 · January 2012

We are prepared to get crap from people if we end up having a girl and tell them we are naming her Beatrice. Initially, we were going to name her Olive, which we both still love, but were really worried about what everyone would say (which is stupid, I know). We then came across Beatrice and fell in love with that one, but we are pretty sure there will still be some who give us a hard time. As for announcing names, we put up little teasers on facebook: "Baby P" for boy and "Baby B" for girl. Not sure what we will do when we actually find out what the sex of the baby is. Probably just stick to telling family and close friends because I don't want anyone ruining our names for us. I have found that people have been really rude to me about everything pregnancy related. It's very frustrating.

KrisAshLindsey · January 2012

We are keeping our names secret. My MIL and SIL were trying to help with the name in the beginning and every name DH or I liked they would come up with awful nicknames for it or make fun of it and ruined the names for us so we decided we were keeping it between us until baby gets here.

hurricanelydiaa · January 2012

Originally we were going to do this, but we really haven't thought of ANY names yet. If we keep going at this rate, we will be in the delivery room making a decision and it will be a non-issue!

mrs.gee · January 2012

We don't share our names with anyone, no exceptions.

FollyOne · January 2012

We are Team Green and will be keeping our names a secret as well. We are open to suggestions from everyone and people have already emailed us some names they have heard and liked.

Sawyerplus1 · January 2012

We plan to keep LOs name options (we're team Green) a secret. Part of me thinks it's just fun to announce everything once LO is born, but I also think that people, whether they intend to or not, will ALWAYS reveal how they feel about a name. They're reactions may be genuine happiness, or perhaps they pause before responding, or maybe they cringe and say it's not their style. I don't think people (for the most part) intend to be malicious, but before it's attached to a 'real' baby people tend to share their opinions more freely.

That said, we told people our top name choices with both DS and DD and then ended up changing our minds very late in the game (after DS was born, in fact), so I don't think anyone would believe us if we told them anyway...

pbringhurst7 · January 2012

We're keeping it a secret. We told our families in the beginning and all we got were comments or weird looks and sometimes even a laugh... it made us feel kinda discouraged. We don't have to care...but we do.

elainej · January 2012

We kept the name a secret last time, and are this time, too. We just don't want to hear anyone else's opinion.

Maizey317 · January 2012

We are totally keeping any name ideas a secret! For 2 reasons.

1: We have had a few negative comments about just a few name possibilites..they werent even our top favorite names. Who needs that BS?

2: We figure since we found out we are having a boy already, it would be fun to at least keep his name a secret from everyone untill he arrives. It will be a surprise to everyone.

Irishgypsy88 · January 2012

We have had a boy name for quite awhile, but are not sharing it until he's born. I don't want to deal with opinions (DH's brother found that out the hard way when he sent out an email asking what everyone thought!). Even with those family members who won't say anything negative, we're still not telling because if we told one, we'd have to tell everyone.

It leaves at least one surprise for the birth, since everyone knows we're having a boy!

nogitron · January 2012

I'm on the fence about it!

On one hand, DH and I want to love the name we love and not have to listen to complaints and suggestions for the next 6 months.

On the other hand, if we DID unknowingly pick a name that is glaringly mockable . . . I kinda want to have it pointed out while we still have time to come up with a new one. While kids are SUPER creative and I don't think there's a name that's totally safe from elementary school teasing nicknames, I don't want to make it to easy on them, either!

AprilAngie · January 2012

with so many ppl friends and family pregnant, I don't share any possible names with anyone. I like unique names for my kids and don't want other friends and family members to have a same name. I think the child should have a special name all to their personality.

justforbaby626 · January 2012

We share the brainstorming process but when it comes down to the final decision we will NOT be telling anyone. Everyone has an opinion and I don't want to hear a response like "you cant name her/him THAT" which I have heard already once or twice from my family. When we nail one down everyone will know when we introduce the baby.

TBsquared · January 2012

thats why we are keeping our name a secret. I dont want to hear everyones stupid opinions, I dont care if people like it, as long as we do thats all that matters

APendola · January 2012

We don't want to share the name until we are settled on one. Right now we are just bouncing around ideas. I think if you share them with people, they start to share their opinion and it can make things more difficult. It's hard enough for my husband and I to agree on a name. Why get others involved?

In the end, you have to pick the name that you love.

PregNerd · January 2012

We are keeping our names quiet (and are team green) - the easiest way to avoid all of the opinions and whatnot is not to give them any fodder. We are happy with the names we have chosen, and that is all that matters.

happyhoopla · January 2012

Honestly, if there's something negative about a name, I would rather have someone point it out to be now, than for my kid to be stuck with a sucky name.

nmurch · January 2012

PrincessMegan716:
Is anyone keeping the names they like a secret?

I love names and I'm the first to ask my pregnant friends what names they are thinking but I never ask so I can rip apart they name they choose. I just ask out of curiousity and genuine interest. But I notice that a lot of people feel they can say whatever they want to you about the names you are thinking about. This totally bothers me. I don't want anyone's opinion unless I specifically ask for it and I probably won't ask for it. I want to share my names but if I get a stupid comment back and it gets stuck in my head, runing my perfect name, I'll be POed.

I didn't have a problem telling people our names, then I told someone the boy named we LOVED and they said " that's the ugliest nameI ever heard, you can not name your baby that " ...I was so sad/mad that I decided I'm not going to tell anyone the names even our parents, when the LO comes as te birth certificate is signed THEN we will tel everyone!!

ameliaCB · January 2012

i LOVE the name you picked. some of my fave artists have had that name, and they are all from the UK. bravo, i thinks its wonderful you have found a name that is known but not over used.

congrats

athanasy · January 2012

We're probably not going to officially decide on name until we meet him or her, so there's not really a reason to announce it to everyone yet. The names we're considering are being kept mildly secretive. They're unique and I would hate for someone to get the chance to use it before I do.

antoinettebrant · January 2012

We are also keeping the names a secret! We don't know the sex of the baby and we have a girl & boy name picked out but our families are too opinionated! Also, once they meet the baby I think they will fall in love with the name no matter what!!

useurname · January 2012

For the most part we are keeping our LOs name a secret. For one reason we cannot seem to agree on a name, so in case the name changes no one knows but us. I would hate to tell the name and someone gives me a gift that is engraved and then I have to tell them....that is not her name!!

srwynn · January 2012

My husband and I are keeping the names a secret. We are also not finding out the sex of our child either

People can be pretty opinionated but it's just because they aren't getting the answers they want. It's hard for me to not talk about names with my family though

joeysmama0201 · January 2012

We kept ours a secret until Thanksgiving when we told our parents. We were scared at first because we found out after we chose his name that his first name is the middle name of an uncle that was creating problems. Everyone else just gets initials.

My BFF was having problems initially with her MIL thinking the name of her baby (Aidan) was a "devil name"....which it isn't. It just wasn't a "traditional" name which is what I think MIL's problem was.

Some people think they're allowed to say whatever they want, but keep in mind that it's your child and your name choice, not theirs and if they don't like it, tough.

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