Kinda Awkward, but I Need Advice

gomezmama · January 2012

Ok, so with my first, I pumped. But since I borrowed the breast pump, I don't have it anymore to use for DS2. I looked at different pumps at the store but they are so expensive, and with this likely being our last child, I don't want to spend a fortune on something that won't really get a whole lot of use. So with pumping out of the question, my next idea is to breastfeed. Ive never even tried it before and Im really nervous. (here's the awkward part) I know that my boobies were made to feed my babies, but my DH thinks they were made for him. I've talked to him about it, but he's not very responsive. He just says to do whatever I want and it'll be fine, but I'm affraid that he will look at me (or them, rather) differently. Will my breasts still be as sexy to him as they were before? Its sad that boobies were intended to be used for one thing, but definitely over time became known for another. Can I breastfeed for awhile and then when I'm done they'll still be in the same shape as they were before? Do you think it'll turn DH away from them, like, not be attracted and turned on by them anymore? ...anyone been here before?

Katechavez · January 2012

I am a FTM, so I don't know about the retuning to normal part, but I do know that BF is really good for baby and that it will bond you guys in awesome ways. I think your DH will love you no matter what and that he will really love you for doing what is best for his child. Good Luck dear.

Jillibean85 · January 2012

Your boobs will be just fine and so will your DH.... So go for it!

gomezmama · January 2012

You're good at making people feel better! I hope it goes this way! I'm predicting that, like most things, I'm worrying about it too much. I think only he (DH) can tell me wether he's freaked out by it or not. And while I dont think he will look at me any differently, I'm still a little worried.

marissaw5 · January 2012

Mine went completely back to normal after DS. Plus.. this may sound weird and I hope it doesn't make DH some sort of freak- but he's actually kind of turned on by it. Ha ha! He thinks it's totally cool that my body can produce the food to keep our child alive and has mentioned multiple times that it's in no way weird or a turn off. (he also still thinks they were made for him, and makes jokes about sharing

I'm sure it helps that we both come from big families where ALL the women exclusively BF so it's something he's been around his whole life and continues to be around. Just do what's best for you and baby and I'm sure he will adjust to your new boobies!

yellowtulips80 · January 2012

you can rent a pump at most hospitals and your boobs will take time to go back to normal after you finish BF. Honestly, your boobs will be so sore that you will not want your DH anywhere near them.

namara5532 · January 2012

Boobs can be functional and still be sexy. MH admits he's going to enjoy the view quite a bit when my milk comes in. Perhaps if you're worried about him appreciating them, you can point out how much larger they're going to get while you BF.

From what I've heard, they will go back to normal after you wean. I don't have any personal experience in this matter though.

DBride2006 · January 2012

If you've been pregnant twice and pumped with your first, I can't imagine actually breastfeeding is going to "ruin" them any more. If they were fine after two pregnancies and pumping, I don't think baby #2 is going to do them in.

greengirl0909 · January 2012

Pregnancy causes changes to breast tissue, so regardless if you choose to breastfeed or not, DH might be able to notice changes.

I suggest checking out www.awaybabyessentials.com for cheaper pump prices. This group tries to offer pumps at cost so that more women can afford them.

Shmogan09 · January 2012

Jillibean85:
Your boobs will be just fine and so will your DH.... So go for it!

This.

mommadawn1012 · January 2012

yellowtulips80:
you can rent a pump at most hospitals and your boobs will take time to go back to normal after you finish BF. Honestly, your boobs will be so sore that you will not want your DH anywhere near them.

Some insurance companies will even pay for you to have one so then you don't have to rent one. Check with your company to see what options are there.

Lisa9926 · January 2012

Breastfeeding will not go anything to your chest that pumping would not have done the first time. Dont worry about your husband...he'll still love you and be attracted to you.

Melzig76 · January 2012

Jillibean85:
Your boobs will be just fine and so will your DH.... So go for it!

She's got it right!! There was no difference in mine pre-bf or post.

wolverine8 · January 2012

If you pumped before, then the changes should be similar to that regardless if you nurse or pump. I highly encourage you to nurse and you should check with your insurance company to see if they will cover a pump for you. A lot are starting to.

bootcampbride · January 2012

Here's the good news - BFing is way easier than pumping! I can't imagine having to pump and then still feed the baby - seems like twice the work. I hated pumping - made me feel like a milk factory and I would not do it with my DH around. BFing on the other hand felt natural (if a little uncomfortable at first) and I had zero issue doing it in front of my DH. My breasts returned to normal (literally no difference) and DH is still crazy abou them

Heather8888 · January 2012

I have breastfed three babies... my boobs aren't big by any means... but I dont know how these other ladies still have the exact same boobs after... mine have changed... but not horrible... They aren't as full (except when full of milk) so... saggier and my nipples are much larger now. Yours probably won't be any different after pumping though since you've already done that for one baby. Breastfeeding is awesome. I love the bonding... why dont you just try it and if its not going well rent a pump? BF'ing is much easier in my opinion than pumping... less steps. I'm planning on bf'ing this baby as well... my DH likes the fullness I have when nursing and doesn't seem to have issue's "sharing" - makes jokes about it. Hope it all works out for you!

Na6zaRilla · January 2012

Jillibean85:
Your boobs will be just fine and so will your DH.... So go for it!

kjg5445 · January 2012

we liked my breastfeeding boobs more than my normal ones. they were huge and awesome! and mine went back down to normal after i was done =(

FormerlyKrista555 · January 2012

I breast fed my daughter (no pumping-long story) for 14 1/2 months, and my husband can't keep his hands off of my boobs.

A boob man will always be a boob man.

Ya Never Know · January 2012

My DH is a little weirded out by the idea of breastfeeding, but he came home last night begging me to breastfeed after seeing a woman at the grocery store paying $76 for three tins of baby formula. LOL

I'm a FTM so I don't know what to expect from DH regarding the changes to my body, but I'm as big as a house right now, and he still manages to find me attractive, I wouldn't worry about the boobs. They'll be fine, and so will your DH.

Amberrrr · January 2012

It's what nature intended.

ebrooke · January 2012

Na6zaRilla:
Jillibean85:
Your boobs will be just fine and so will your DH.... So go for it!

Yep. And it's way "sexier" than pumping. Trust.

susan451 · January 2012

Breastfeeding is so much easier than pumping. If you're able to, go for it! I bf'ed my 2 children, but my boobs will never be the same. They pretty much shriveled up to nothing after and I was really embarassed by them. My DH is loving them right now since they've plumped up again by my 3rd pregnancy. As others have said, the same thing could happen from pumping, it just depends on your body so don't let it deter you.

PALGal · January 2012

Did any of you feel grossed out or weird having your baby's mouth where your husband's mouth usually is? This is what I am afraid of

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