Where to stay first couple nights!?!

Tesha77 · January 2012

Hi everyone!

So I'm starting to get stressed about my situation...I don't know where my husband and I should sleep the first couple nights my husband and I take baby home from the hospital. I am 33 weeks and living in south fl right now, and my in-laws and hospital are near us here. We are moving to Orlando area next wknd for my husbands business, so we will be 4 hrs away from my hospital. Even though our home will be all moved and set up, ready for baby, I will be staying at my in-laws house until we have the baby so that I am right near the hospital. My husband will be going back and forth until he is born.

So my dilemma is that I really want to be able to go home to Orlando the first day we take baby home from hospital. I will have my parents coming into town for the birth and they are going to stay in whatever city we are in, but I really want my mom to sleep over the first cpl nights for help. My mother in law keeps saying things that suggests she thinks we will still be staying at her house for a cople nights with baby and I feel bad telling her that I want to try to go home if everything goes well and we can take the 4 hr trip. If we stay at her house, I know it will be her helping us with the baby, and I love her to peices but I really want that time to be with my own mother.

Do you gals think I am crazy to think I can take the 4 hr trip with my husband and baby after giving birth? I asked my doctor and he said it was fine as long as we stop a few times so I am not sitting for that long and to obviously care for our little man.

What would you guys do? And how would you break it to your mother in law who you love and ont want to hurt her feelings....

kmhunt11 · January 2012

I don't think you're going to want to sit in a car for 4 hours after delivering vaginally. I couldn't sit for a week. Why aren't you using a hospital near where you will be living? I understand if you're attached to your doctor, but I'm sure there are good, compassionate docs in your new area, too, right? (I was told last week I had to switch doctors and freaked out a little, but found someone great, and ended up switching hospitals too.)

Tesha77 · January 2012

I have to use my current doctor and hospital because my health insurance is only for that County or I would switch...

FinallyMrsBMW · January 2012

I think if I were in your situation, I would look at switching doctors to be closer to home and in your own environment for the last weeks of your pregnancy. I know I was pretty anxious about the baby getting here last time and the last place I would want to be would be at someone else's house. You would still have plenty of time to find a doctor and hospital that you like that is closer to your home. I, too, would want my mom to be involved after giving birth and not my MIL.

I think it would also be uncomfortable or annoying to have to drive 4 hours straight from the hospital to my home. My DH was a nervous wreck driving us home from the hospital for the first time and it was only 5 miles. I couldn't imagine going too far from home.

Tesha77 · January 2012

I really wish i could switch, but because of my health insurance plan, I have to keep my doctor and hospital in Broward county...

countrygrl5533 · January 2012

I think you could do it if you want to....but it isn't going to be just a 4 hour drive. You are going to need more frequent stops. Not going to be fun with a newborn and a sore and tired mama. But, that isn't going to change in a couple days IMO. Not going to be a good time no matter when you end up doing it.

I understand wanting to be in your own environment. That would be very important to me too. But I would be prepared to stay a night or two at the in-laws just in case.

I know you said your insurance is dictating where you can deliver. Is there any way you can switch this late or is that even more of a hassle than a 4 hour drive?

Tesha77 · January 2012

Yes, I'm sure it will not be an easy drive but I feel the same way that it will not be much easier two days later. I really want those first cpl night to be spent at home, for many reasons... Not just my mom staying there, but also because i want my dog to meet the baby alone at our house and not when he's distracted by mother in laws two other dogs. I want their initial meet to be non-stressful. Also, I feel that there will be too many ppl around at my mother in-laws. It's her and her husband, their daughter and her boyfriend, and most likely my husbands grandparents will be in town also staying there; they have a vey large house, but all I keep thinking is its way too many ppl and too many germs for the first cpl days! And I of course just want the comfort of my own home while I am learning how to be a mother. There are so many private moments those first cpl days, learning how to great feed, bleeding and in pain, and simply bonding with baby and husband.

As far as switching my health plan, I can't because of my work being in that county; they won't know I'm moving.... I am not going back to work after maternity leave and we are taking up a new plan but not until mine is over with.

Tesha77 · January 2012

*breastfeed

4-Ever-Young · January 2012

I don't think it's a big deal to drive the 4 hours. I wasn't uncomfortable sitting after delivering DD. The whole time I was in the hospital after delivering I was basically sitting or laying in bed, so being in a car doesn't seem to be a big difference. Now if you tear badly or have a c-section, that might be a different story. I don't have experience with either. You will have to stop at some point to breastfeed. That shouldn't be a big deal. It's going to be difficult breastfeeding the first few weeks whether at home or in a car.

I would want to be home too. Might as well just do it. You and the baby will survive and probably be much happier resting in your own environment.

kiarstin · January 2012

I would want to be home, I wouldn't be worried about sitting in a car b/c lets face it either way you will be uncomfortable and at home you would just be sitting anyway. But I prefer the comfort of my own home.

Tesha77 · January 2012

Thank you so much ladies! I know that is how I felt anyway but it makes me feel better that you all agree!

ktekne · January 2012

I would go home but you may re-evaulate your feelings depending on the type of delivery you end up having. Also where is your LO going to the pediatrician? If it's like your delivery and you have to go to one where you are now then you might want to think about that also. DD had jaundice and we ended up at the pediatrician's office 3 days in a row after she was born to check her bilirubin levels. Just something else to think about.

Tesha77 · January 2012

Yes, my plan is to go home but to be prepared to stay if I absolutely have to. I will just have to have LO essentials at her house to begin with and pick them up on the way home. The baby will have a pediatrician near my mother in law and one near us in Orlando as well, in case he he needs to go more often then the standard infant checkups. He will have a different health insurance than my husband and I, so we are able to do have both in different counties. Thank you so much for the advice; your right about not knowing how often he wil have to go see the pediatrician.

So I guess, my plan is to go home but to be prepared to stay if I have to

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