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2nd Trimester
Why is this okay???? (small vent)
I don't understand why, when as soon as people find out you're pregnant, they feel that they can say WHATEVER they want to you. A friend of mine is due in 3 weeks and was told today "I can't believe how giant you are" by a coworker. She's not giant, she looks fabulous and is only 5'2" tall.
I'm due in May and was told by another coworker last week that "my hips are getting wide" and then yesterday another coworker said "I can't believe you're already showing." I'm 21 weeks, what the h*ll do you want?
What is up with the rude comments?
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Re: Why is this okay???? (small vent)
I totally don't get this. It's crazy!
I had someone tell me the other day to turn around so they could see whether I was having a girl or a boy (ie. whether or not my azz was getting fat).
Seriously?? I'm having twins.I don't have to turn around. I'll just tell you...yes, my azz is getting fat.
DD1- 12/26/05 DD2- 4/12/12
Rude. My dad always makes weight comments when I'm pregnant. He thinks he's "helping." he can be an idiot, needless to say.
Silly Bump. Won't let me delete the double post.
No i dont think its okay... People are very rude and definately dont think before they speak.
When I was expecting my first, I was 37weeks gone and my friends SO (who hadnt seen me in maybe 2months) saw me and his eyes nearly popped out of his head and he said ''OMG, you look as though you are going to explode''!!!!! I was very insulted and embarrassed because he said it in front of like 12other people. I wanted to cry...
Chin up, im sure you look great!!
I'm sorry but I have to disagree. I'm not an overly sensitive person and I love people making comments about my bump, but when people tell me I'm widening out in the back or must be having a boy/girl (whichever it is) because my butt is getting "huge" I take offense to that. It's rude. Period.
A few years ago my employer had a baby and I remember people telling her how cute she looked as she got bigger. She despised it. In private she would complain to me how much she hated her body and how annoying it was that people thought it was ok to comment on how "huge" she was. Then one of our team became pregnant a year later and I had to referee a moment on the production floor when one lady told her how big she was and she came unglued at her.
Having never been enchanted by pregnancy personally I was struck by how free people were with comments. When I found out I was expecting I made my feelings known early to try to head it off at the pass. No one tells me how big I am or asks to touch my bump...
...except ironically my employer
I also must disagree with you. For one thing, I did get called fat. Just plain fat. For another thing I feel great about myself until I get around other people. At this point I am constantly bracing myself for the rude comments.
I don't get when it became ok to insult other people, pregnant or not and regardless of how "harmless" the comment was meant to be, it is almost always harmful even if the pregnant woman they just compared to Shamu has enough class not to rip them a new one.
I don't need Suzy Smith to tell me how huge I am... I own mirrors and am well aware of the fact that I can't see my feet unless I sit down. I don't need people to validate my pregnancy for me. If you can't come up with anything to say to me other than a comment about my size, feel free to say nothing at all.
DD1- 12/26/05 DD2- 4/12/12
People are already asking me if it's twins just like they asked me when I was pregnant the 2 times before. grrr
I think her reply should be, "And I can't believe what a jackass you are!" Seriously, I think people just lose all sorts of brain cells when around beautiful pregnant women!
Most people see a pregnant women, forget she deserves respect in general, and also that she deserves respect for her personal space..