How do I move on?

jonesdouglas · January 2012

Today I lost our 1st baby at 8 weeks.

I am heartbroken and I dont know what to say, think, or do.

I blame myself. Im upset. I feel no hope.

Thanks for letting me get that out.

-Brooke

Elle jM · January 2012

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my baby at 2 weeks ago at 11 weeks, and I can tell you it does get slowely get better. You have every right to be upset, it's a terrible loss, but please, please, please don't blame yourself. That also gets a little easier with time.

Please know we all understand what you are going through, and are here to support you!

KacyChicago · January 2012

Brooke, I just wanted to let you know that I was thinking about you. We lost our first a week ago today, and it has been the longest seven days of my life, I must admit. I will say it gets a little easier every day ... But that's not saying there won't be bad days. (Like the one I'm having today.)

But know that others are experiencing the same thing. But you can not blame yourself, as that does you no good. These things happen, and unfortunately, it happens a lot. But please feel hope. While there may not be hope for this little one, there is hope for the future. So many here will tell you the same thing.

You will get through this. We all will.

JessicaRobb · January 2012

I lost my first too...

All I can say is I am sorry. Don't blame yourself.

twinkie757 · January 2012

I lost my first when I was 10 weeks along, it had passed away at 8 weeks. I was lucky enough to have a few days to curl up in a ball and just cry. Give yourself the time you need to be a complete wreck -don't worry about getting back to normal too soon. It takes time to be able to get through the day without tears -it's been almost 3 weeks for me & I still have some really rough days.

zombiemommy · January 2012

Lost our first at 9 weeks and 5 days on Tuesday. This board has made the last 2-3 days so much more palatable. Hope we can be a lifeline in this difficult time. *hugs*

holly_g13 · January 2012

I'm so sorry for your loss and that you have to go through this emotional rollercoaster. My m/c was with my first pregnancy as well. and I told EVERYONE I was pregnant. I m/c at 10w 5d but baby stopped growing at 5-6w. I was heartbroken as well as everyone else on this board. I know its hard to believe, but IT DOES get better (or easier, I should say). But you will still have some hard days. I had my first day without tears 12 days after my m/c. I thought, oh how wonderful (but kind of felt guilty too). Its now been 3 weeks and today has been a really hard day for me. I cried a few different times today and just feel depressed. But I know that will pass as well.
This board is wonderful. Its nice to know you're not alone (as sad as that is), but feel free to vent, cry, express your feelings and all that on this board. The women on here are WONDERFUL and very supportive.
Try to hang in there sweetie. You are in all of our thoughts and prayers

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