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Very Thankful for this board...

BAKERMOMHDSBAKERMOMHDS member
in TTC after 35

I tried to confide in my Dad and he says : "Probably better, you're 38, if you have a baby, the child will most likely have downs syndrome"

So..I try speaking with my sister and she says : "God has a plan, and babys are not in your plan right now".

So.. then I try my bestie..and before I say ANYTHING she says : "Guess what?!?! We're pregnant".

All of this after spending a weekend in the hospital from a large ovarian cyst rupture from the medication...

 REALLY UNIVERSE?!?!?!?!?!?

*vent over*

Me = 39 DH = 50 TTC (since 01/2009 after a short break, I stopped counting *cycles* in 2010)
DX 2010 : Unknown Infertility , AMA
HSG 2005 = Normal / HSG 2010 = Normal
SA 2005 = Normal / SA 2010 /2012 = Slightly low count : motility, morphology GREAT!
Chromosomal analysis, MTHFR, ANA's, Lupus, Protein C, Protein S, APCR = Normal 2011

M/C : 2005 (7wk), 2010 (6wk), 2011 (7wk)

8 IUI's 2010-2011 all BFN

IVF/ICSI antagonist 01/2012 #1 = BFN

IVF/ICSI antagonist long 06/2012 #2 = BFN

IVF/ICSI/CGH MDLF New Clinic/New RE 11/2012 #3 = One beautiful boy blasty frozen PGS normal

IVF/ICSI/CGH MDLF 02/2013 #4 = One more beautiful boy blasty frozen PGS normal

FET 6/20 : One 5AA PGS normal transferred Beta 1 6/28 = 53.9 / Beta 2 7/1 = 220 / Beta 3 7/3 = 550!

1 U/S  6w3d - Heartbeat 119 /  2 U/S - 7w5d- Heartbeat 169 / 3 U/S (OB) 8w5d - Heartbeat still great!

Baby G welcomed into the world 3/7/2014

SAIF / PAIF always welcome ****

 

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  • brooklynesquebrooklynesque member

    I'm sorry.  I'd have steam coming out of my ears if my dad or sibling said those things to me. (And the timing of your bff's announcement was unfortunate . . . .)

    The idea that only totally natural conceptions are "God's plan" seems as absurd to me as saying that only people whose lives have not been saved at one point or another by medical intervention are part of God's plan.  People say the stupidest things.

    Hope tomorrow is a better day.  ;-)

    ETA:  And you can tell your dad that the Downs rate for 38-yr-old women is still well under 1%.

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  • mtlaurelmtlaurel
    I'm sorry you had to listen to such stupid comments, but glad you have found a good place to be - here!
    TTC #1 since June 2010
    Me: 36, DH: 42
    Dx: DOR and MFI

    DH: low count + very low motility; hormones all normal; Sperm DNA Frag. test = poor to fair; male karyotyping normal
    Me: FSH 13.4 + AMH 0.26 + hypothyroidism; Scratch the hypothyrodism (?); Blood clotting and immune panel all negative; endometrial biopsy normal

    IVF #1 (MDLF - Jul/Aug 2011): BFN (9R, 5M, 3F with ICSI, 3dt of 1 10-cell grade 2, no frosties)
    IVF #2 (EP-antagonist - Sep/Oct 2011): BFN (6R, 4M, 3F w/ ICSI, 3dt of 1 6-cell, 1 7-cell, grade 4s, no frosties)
    DE IVF #1 (shared cycle - June 2012): c/p (6R, 6F w/ICSI, 3dt 1 8-cell grade A- and 1 7-cell grade A-; no frosties)
    DE IVF #2 (shared cycle with new donor - Nov/Dec/ 2012): - BFP!!!!! 12/14/12. U/S on 12/27 shows twins!!!!!

    SAIFW/PAIFW
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  • AddictedToLipBalmAddictedToLipBalm member

    Sometimes those closest to us, under the curtain of being helpful, can really klutz it up and say mean / dumb things. Don't dwell on any of that! I am a huge believer in positivity's strength to help overcome obstacles. 

    Pregnancy Ticker

    BabyFruit Ticker

    Beat stage 4 Hodgkins Lymphoma May 2011, YEAH!!!

    BFP 3/30/12, with fingers and toes all crossed.

    AMA (37) + GD = HR, grr.

    EDD 12.12.12

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  • owlprofowlprof member
    Wow...so sorry you had to deal with the insensitive/flat-out rude como.
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  • Country Girl in the CityCountry Girl in the City
    I am so sorry that you had to hear all that.  Remember that we are here for you when you need us?  Are you feeling better?  Ovarian cyst ruptures are very painful!
    BFP on IVF #2 6/29/2012. Beta #1 7/3 = 522; Beta #2 = 1180; Beta #3 = 6491 image BabyFruit Ticker
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  • BAKERMOMHDSBAKERMOMHDS member

    I thought I was starting to feel better... but my right side still has pain :(.  This one grew to Tennis ball size, and ruptured in the abdominal cavity..which has caused infection, swelling, fluid build up!!!! UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    I'm snowed in today..hope to get back to the DR tomorrow....

    Thanks for asking :)

    Me = 39 DH = 50 TTC (since 01/2009 after a short break, I stopped counting *cycles* in 2010)
    DX 2010 : Unknown Infertility , AMA
    HSG 2005 = Normal / HSG 2010 = Normal
    SA 2005 = Normal / SA 2010 /2012 = Slightly low count : motility, morphology GREAT!
    Chromosomal analysis, MTHFR, ANA's, Lupus, Protein C, Protein S, APCR = Normal 2011

    M/C : 2005 (7wk), 2010 (6wk), 2011 (7wk)

    8 IUI's 2010-2011 all BFN

    IVF/ICSI antagonist 01/2012 #1 = BFN

    IVF/ICSI antagonist long 06/2012 #2 = BFN

    IVF/ICSI/CGH MDLF New Clinic/New RE 11/2012 #3 = One beautiful boy blasty frozen PGS normal

    IVF/ICSI/CGH MDLF 02/2013 #4 = One more beautiful boy blasty frozen PGS normal

    FET 6/20 : One 5AA PGS normal transferred Beta 1 6/28 = 53.9 / Beta 2 7/1 = 220 / Beta 3 7/3 = 550!

    1 U/S  6w3d - Heartbeat 119 /  2 U/S - 7w5d- Heartbeat 169 / 3 U/S (OB) 8w5d - Heartbeat still great!

    Baby G welcomed into the world 3/7/2014

    SAIF / PAIF always welcome ****

     

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  • Mrs.McIrishMrs.McIrish member
    That is a really bad string of responses. I am so sorry you had to listen to it.  I hope you recover quickly from the ruptured cysts. I had bad cyst pain last March following a clomid cycle so I can only imagine how painful it was for you (since mine weren't that big and resolved on their own).

    TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
    DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
    5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
    OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
    DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
    DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
    CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
    DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

    DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
    First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!

    K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days

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  • Bubs711Bubs711
    I'm sorry you didn't get the support you needed IRL, but I'm glad you can get what you need here!
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