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NBR: Facebook/myspace and friends question

missamy713missamy713
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I went to a small high school.  I graduated with 22 or so other students.  Everyone "knew" everyone, but not everyone liked everyone.  I think it's so weird when girls, I guess women now, that were truly awful to me in junior high and high school want to "friend" me on myspace or facebook.  It's weird to me to receive a friend request that says "Hey Amy! Remember me?  I can't believe I found you! How are you?!"  and then remember that I cried b/c of the things this girl did to me. 

So my question is this, do you "friend" people on myspace or facebook that you're not friends with, or never were friends with?  I'm really using the term friends loosely, as well.  I consider people I talked to occassionally as "worthy" of friend status on myspace or facebook, but I wouldn't be inviting all of those people over to my house for dinner. :)

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  • vanillacouragevanillacourage member
    If you think they suck then just ignore their invitation, unless you think it would make things awkward at a reunion or something.
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  • luckiestwifeluckiestwife
    I will friend just about anyone as long as I don't have bad memories/feelings associated with them.  So I have a bunch of "friends" that I went to high school with, but didn't know very well and was never ACTUALLY friends with IRL.  However, I have denied a couple friend requests from people that were horrible to me or that I have a really bad association with.  I figure these social networking sites are for fun, and if I get a bad feeling in my gut every time I see a person's name, I don't need to "friend" them, because that's no fun.
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  • amahreyamahrey
    nope.  i think "if i saw this person out in a bar, would i walk over to talk to them, or would i just politely make small talk until they went away if they came over to where i was sitting?"
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  • missamy713missamy713
    I'm not concerned about hurting their feelings or making thingss awkward.  I still live in the same area as most of these people -- I'm bound to see them.  I'm not shy about who I am unwilling to talk to IRL :)  I was just curious if anyone else "friends" people they never really liked.  I just don't care enough to friend them.  If they think I'm stuck up, then I guess that's what I am.  I own being stuck up. :)
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  • Jen0414Jen0414
    If it was someone who was mean I would probably ignore them. I have no reason to be in contact with people that were not friends.
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  • linzlue418linzlue418
    I don't become "friends" with people on myspace or facebook if we weren't ever real friends in real life. Its like they only want to add you so they can look popular or else they are just nosey about what you're up to now. I don't add those type of people.
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  • SuperCuteBenzSuperCuteBenz member
    They just had a huge article about situations like this on MSN.com yesterday. I also went to a small school. I think we had around 400 kids in kindergarten- 12th grade. It happens to me quite a bit as well.
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  • phanaticphanatic member
    nope.
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  • RedBrideNCRedBrideNC member
    I only friend people I care to keep in touch with. If  I was never friends with them I don't accept their request.
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  • bluestar0527bluestar0527

    I have the same thing happen all the time. Not necessarily people that were mean, but people I definitely did not talk to or even hardly knew. I usually tend to just ignore their requests in that case.

     If it's someone who wasn't a great friend, but an acquaintance, I normally accept their request.
     

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  • *Bre**Bre* member
    I used to accept almost anyone, but I just went through and purged a bunch. I went to a small high school as well 7-12 grade = 100ppl. Its hard but when I don't receive any comments or messages from them, or I see that they're getting married and I don't get an invite (from ppl I invited to my own wedding), then I say screw it.
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  • MichelenDave06MichelenDave06 member
    I "friend" people who were only acquaintances, but not people who I didn't like.  Just seeing them pisses me off.
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  • RNicoliRNicoli
    I think about this too alot.  I would just so I can talk to them and see if they've changed and are truly sincere.  We all can be sh*ts sometimes so I'd hope people move on. But I wouldn't be asking them out for drinks anytime soon. Add them if youre curious but ignore it if it will REALLY stir up alot of emotion seeing their face every morning.
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  • MommaBrownMommaBrown

    most of the people, yes. just because i am nosey and i want to see how they turned out. which is probably the same reason they want to 'friend' you. but some people do conveniently forget how awful they were - or they are looking for an opportunity to apologize.

    there are only two people that I would never 'friend'. both are from high school and (un)fortunately, one is dead - so i dont have to worry about her. the other tries to contact me once in a while and i ignore her. especially when she sends me comments like 'aw kelly your dd is soooo beautiful' blah blah blah. i feel like she is just kissing my @ss - which i hate.?

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