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PTing buy-in with other caretakers.
C did really well this weekend with PTing. By the end of the day Monday, he had worn undies all day (aside from nap) AND kept them clean and dry. I was stoked. He still needs A LOT of help: physically taking him every hour, helping him with his pants, getting on the potty, etc, but still.
Yesterday, he went to M&FILs and either they just don't remember how PTing works with toddlers, despite DH completely filling them in, or C just refused because they ended up putting him in pull ups all day and I doubt he used the potty at all. He did use it twice when he came home and had dry undies until bed, so that's good.
I am soo disappointed. I don't know where the break down was and I'm hoping that everyone is on board tomorrow. C is with DCP today. She is the one who initiated PTing almost a year ago, so I am hoping it goes better. We'll see.
Would it be absolutely ridiculous to take off work for PTing? We were on such a roll and I feel bad for him that he has this disjointed schedule with different routines.
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Re: PTing buy-in with other caretakers.
Taking time off to do something for your kid is never ridiculous (unless said thing is pagent-related...but I digress). If you think it will help, if he is that close, go for it.
How often does he go to M&FILs? It sounds like the DCP is on board and it's just the ILs that need a "refresher".
Would it be appropriate for DH to give them a potty training cheat sheet that explains the potty training method you are doing?
- C needs to be in underwear all day except nap time
- Set a timer and take him to the potty every 30 minutes
- When he goes potty, do XYZ
On a side note, DH's main concern with the underwear thing is that she would pee on the furniture (which she did a few times). So, when we had her sitting on the couch, we laid down a black trash bag with a towel over it and made her sit on the towel. We also sometimes put those waterproof diaper covers over her underwear...however, she didn't like the "feel" of that very much. So, if ILs are concerned about the pee issue, maybe you could offer those options.
I guess I'll have to see how he does today. If it's just as much a debacle as it was yesterday, it might not be the in laws fault entirely and either a) he really isn't ready or b) I need to take even more time and be even more consistent for a few more days. I'm not really sure what went wrong yesterday, but I have a feeling they just didn't realize how much help/coercion/bribery he still needs. DH claims he explained it all, but writing it down is probably a good idea.
And this kind of feeds in to my real estate post on The Nest. In laws are generally really helpful with C but sometimes there are these break downs and we can't figure out why they just don't do X when we've explicitly told them exactly what to do.
I'd give your IL's a break - I'm sure they tried, but potty-training is so tricky and specific - if they're anything like my (very helpful and very well intentioned) parents, they tried but there is no way they did it exactly how your DH told them to do it.
Potty training takes a while. You can get a lot done in one weekend and be 90% there, and then have days when it completely falls apart. Hang in there.
I agree with this. It is really hard and it does take a lot of dedication. Half of the time that we were potty training DD, DH wanted to put pull-ups on her during the day when we were around the house. Also, about the work thing, I'm not sure if taking off work would help unless you are going to take off a week or more. For us, we got the initial potty training rolling during the first weekend but it really took a month or so for her to be truly potty trained. She still had accidents sometimes. It just takes time for them to learn how to control those muscles and to feel ahead of time when they need to go. Thank goodness for my DCP who was awesome and let DD wear underwear to DC each day.
So, I'd say you are doing okay and to give yourself and the ILs a bit more time. I haven't read the 3-day potty training manual but I think it may make parents think that the whole process only takes 3 days. I think you can get a lot done in 3 days but I'm not sure if any kid is accident free after 3 days.