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Naming your child without X
STBXH's friend came by last night to grab the rest of his stuff before I move in 2 weeks, he was on the phone with my ex. I don't know the sex of our second child yet but find out on Friday. For some reason I am feeling a girl this time and have picked a name I am super in love with. I casually mentioned it to X's friend and it turns out X absolutely hates the name. He is demanding we name the child a biblical name (which is a bit ironic for a man who claims to be Christian yet can't stay out of jail, is an alcoholic and beat his pregnant wife then lies about all of it).
I don't like any of the names he chose. I did let him name our son but I really loved the name as well so it was just fine with me.
Should I let X have a say in our unborn child's name or should I name the child what a feel comfortable with? I am a bit disappointed that he doesn't like my girl name as I have loved the name this entire time and was pretty set on it. I feel bad naming the baby something I know he doesn't like, but that's kind of his fault. I also will not be informing him of when and where I am having the baby as I do not want him there.
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Re: Naming your child without X
Well technically I could inform him of when and where but he still would not be able to attend due to the fact I have an Order For Protection against him, by law he wouldn't be allowed there. Due to the fact he IS the baby's father I thought it would be nice to try to agree on a name even if I can't stand him.
I suppose if he refuses to agree with me on any names and we just can't pick one I'll end up naming him or her what I want. I'm just trying to be 'nice' about it.
And the girl name I really like is Scarlett. Red heads run in our family and DS turned out a redhead so I thought it was a very fitting old classic name.
He likes Sky and Genesis. Sky was our girl choice for our first had he been a girl but now neither name really excites me in any way.
This!
And why are you trying to be nice to a guy who you have an order for protection against? Doesn't sound like he was so nice to you.
Haha thank you ladies. You do have excellent points. I do agree that Sky and Genesis sound like stripper names. I've always picture having a little girl named Scarlett so I think I'll stick with that if baby happens to be a girl.
And you are more than right turtle. He was horrid to me for a very long time so I shouldn't give in to his demands simply to be nice about it.
Maybe we can come to terms on a boy's name as I am clueless in that category. Perhaps he may come up with something I like.
I named my little guy the name I wanted and even gave him my maiden name as his last name. His dad and I are currently separated and in the process of a divorce. He expressed no interest in his child when I was pregnant until one week before my due date, he said he wanted to be in the delivery room. Well guess what? That wasn't going to happen since he was absent throughout my pregnancy. He sure didn't get a say in naming LO and if he hates it, who cares? They'll get over it.
It was liberating choosing what I want to name my child and I didn't have to deal with him bullying me into naming him something else.
I'm not letting Alien's father have anything to do with naming him. I tried at the beginning, but what was originally "we both have to agree" became "you will do what I say" (hence the end of our relationship. I don't obey very well) to the point of calling up my BFF and telling her, "Sarah wants to name the baby after you if it's a girl. Tell her not to do that." And, he was upset if the name was even the slightest bit white, he's Hispanic. In the end, turned out the only name that was acceptable was Jr. And, that ain't gonna happen. (Oddly, his name is super white, too.)
So, screw him. I'm the one who's carrying the baby to term. I'm the one who will go through labor. I'm the one who had to quit a well paying job because I couldn't meet the physical requirements. I'm the one paying for everything. I'm the one who will wake up for feedings. I'm the one who will hold him and soothe him for shots. All the X did was donate a little genetic material.