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el_twirpo
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Nursing around family
el_twirpo
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this weekend was my FIL's 70th bday, and we had a party room at a restaurant for the occasion. the party was starting to wind down, and DS was getting fussy (hungry, didn't nap and was passed around by too many relatives). i wanted to wait until we got to the car but got pressured to nurse in the party room with all these people around. it was so uncomfortable!
1) DS doesn't like anything covering his head and kept trying to pull the blanket off that i was using.
2) i had a button up shirt on, so more skin was exposed up top than if i had a shirt that i could lift up from the bottom.
3) i'd rather accidentally flash a crowd of strangers than my in-laws, even if they and their friends were ok and understanding about it.
4) DS gets easily distracted these days, so he kept popping off and didn't really get a "full meal" anyway.
too much to ask that people leave me alone and let me nurse where/when i feel comfortable?
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Re: Nursing around family
Absolutely not too much to ask!!
I wouldn't have felt comfortable in that situation, either, FWIW. Maybe the second time around, I will, but when he and I were first learning, I would have felt the same way--esp when he got to the frequently popping off age where I felt like a lot of nipple was hanging out.
I think it's fantastic that your ILs tried to make you feel comfortable and encourage you BFing DS anywhere, but NIP only works if that's what you want to do! Next time, just insist on excusing yourself--blame it on his distractedness if you need to.
Nope, not at all. I refused to nurse around FIL when he'd stay for a week (or two) at a time and I'm sure he wondered what my deal was. (And for the record I adore my FIL and don't have any boundary issues with him.) But I wasn't comfortable and that was that. I'll stick to what I'm comfortable with this time too. ((((hugs)))) Next time do what you want and to hell with everyone else.
No way! That would have made me super uncomfortable too. I never nursed around my in-laws or my dad & brother, not because any of them would have cared (okay, well, my brother probably would have
), but because I didn't want any of them seeing more than they should.
If you're put in that situation again, I'd totally blame it on the baby and say how distracted he gets, then politely excuse yourself to the car.
I think instead of pressuring you, they just were trying to make you comfortable and support you by saying to just do it there.
I understand being uncomfy and would have hoped they'd drop it if you said that you would rather do it where there is less distraction.
Sorry you got stuck in that situation.