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Why am I in such a funk?
So today I am just feeling off my wagon and super emotional. DS has been in daycare over a year now why am I not over the fact that being a working mom is a MUST and that he is still a very happy kid? I feel like I can't get home fast enough to see him and I also feel like I am wishing my weeks away just so I can get to the weekend to be with him again. Am I just acting a fool and need to get it together? I just miss him so much...some days are worse than others and today seems to be one of THOSE days! Sorry to be Debbie Downer I was just hoping someone on here could relate..DH just doesn't understand and I do not want to make him feel bad that I am so sad about being a working mom. I knew before we had DS I would need to still work full time..i knew it would be hard but never imagined it would be this hard.I think I just need to kick myself in the A$$
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Re: Why am I in such a funk?
I'm sorry you're having a hard day. God, the hard days just feel like torture, don't they?
I've found that really loving what you're doing makes it a little easier to be a working mom. Being away from your child for a job you hate, or that doesn't fulfill you, is not worth the trade off. But being away from your child for a job that "does it" for you, that makes you feel accomplished and challenges you, makes it easier. So maybe, if you don't LOVE your job, you could start looking for something that would make you happier? I've also found that thinking about all the things my child gets from school that she wouldn't get from being stuck home with me all day helps me feel better.
(((hugs)))
I'm sorry you're feeling this way -- and I know exactly what it's like. DD was always totally fine -- it was me having a harder time! I will say this... I believe daycare was one of the best things for my child. She's not currently in any care but I do want to get her back in, even before she starts preschool. She is SO socially well-adjusted, she's flexible, she's easy-going, she loves to talk to and meet new people and make new friends, she's not afraid of new situations...the list goes on. She really thrived. It was hard for me to see those benefits until really after a year-old. If I had to do it over again, I would have loved to have her in a more part-time situation from the get-go, but that wasn't an option at the time. Even when I made a job change, it was really important to me that she still go to "school." I hope you find the same to be true in the future!
You're doing what is best for your family--which is the best you can do.
And more hugs!
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((Hugs))
You are definitely not alone. My DD is just over a year, and I still cry a few times a week about having to leave her. I have a lot of resentment as well for missing so much of her life. I know my daughter is SO happy, and has everything she needs in life, but that doesn't make leaving her any easier.
I know I'm not much help, but you're not alone. I hope that can be of some comfort for you.