NE1 else feel like a single mom??

Re: NE1 else feel like a single mom??

• Tasa_chan

  November 2008

  Couldn't he just go help out after church is over?  I'm not Greek Orthodox, but aren't masses usually only an hour? (Roman Catholic ones are)
  

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• Sept17.05Bride

  November 2008

  I sometimes feel like a single mom.  DH works Mon-Fri (and one Saturday a month), and his hours are supposed to be 8-5.  He has been so busy lately that he sometimes goes in early (as early as 6am) and works late (one day last week he didn't get home until 10pm).  There are days where DS doesn't seem him at all.  I love that I am a SAHM, but I sometimes need a break too!
  

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• Amy&Noah2007

  November 2008

  Yes...My DH and I work opposite schedules, and I'm home more often than him at night doing baby duty after working all day. Sunday is our only "real" day to be together - but, sometimes other things get in the way it sucks.

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• DesignerMama

  November 2008

  I hear ya! MH works 6 days a week, usually 12-15 hour days. He can go 3 or 4 days without seeing S. It sucks. I work part-time though, so I'm not cooped up in the house all week. It really helps!

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• Mama_v2.0

  November 2008

  I so feel your pain. We have been down this road sooooo many times. 
  

  Sounds like you need to talk to him and let him know how you feel and ask him why he choose to help friends over family time and come to a compromise.
  

  Mama to Z - 5.5 years, G - 3.5 years, & M - 1.5 years.

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• newporter

  November 2008

  WOW- I was just saying this the other day - I am totally feeling like a single mom too!  Luckily, Dh's job is great that it allows me to be a SAHM, but it's not without the drawbacks...he has to work sometimes 7 days a week, and during the week he doesn't come home until 9:30!  It is so sad for all of us...

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• lailak42

  November 2008

  I feel like a single mom all the time.  My DH works wacky hours, plus OT.  When he's home, it's almost impossible to get him to pitch in and help with the kiddo.  I ask him to give DS a bath and he's full of excuses; ask to change a diaper and get the same response.  I do EVERYTHING around the house and take care of DS alone.  And the few responsibilities that DH is supposed to have, like taking out the trash, usually don't get done until I do them as well.
  

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• Mrs.Hizzo member

  November 2008

  No, because if I was a single mom, I wouldn't be able to stay home the way I do now. I know how you feel, though. DH's work can prevent him from seeing DS for days at a time. I just try to remind myself that it's difficult for both of us in different ways

   I do get pissy about "family" time, though. I want DH to be able to relax and do things he wants to do with his time off, but if he hasn't seen our son in two days and he tells me he has an afternoon off and is planning to do something away from the house, I have no problem telling him to get his butt home to see his kid instead, which he always does. Downtime is great, but not when your child is forgetting that he has a father.
   

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• TheBrowns

  November 2008

  Usually DH is great, but he travels a lot and it gets really hard. I miss him, I need a break, I am tired (especially with this pregnancy).
  

  

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• ecoppins member

  November 2008

  Yep...

  Dh and I both work full time. I cram a full week into 4 days so I can have an extra day with dd on the weekends. Dh is also going to school at night. So I get into the office early, work all day commute home pick up dd during her fussy hours keep her happy while making dinner, eat, bathe dd, bed dd, clean up house and repeat. Dh comes home for dinner, then goes and studies. We see each other during the nightly teeth brushing.

  

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• katy75

  November 2008

  I used to!  DH and I both work FT with oncall weekends thrown in there.  We are gone from 7AM - 6PM.  We'd get home, he used to crash on the couch and I'd be taking care of DD, making dinner, cleaning up dinner, bathing her and put her to bed.  When she got to bed at 7:30 or 8, I'd do some light picking up/cleaning and I would finally crash around 8:30 or 9 at night after getting up at 5:30 - every freaking day.

  We had a long talk one day.  I explained to him that I was resentful and that I loved DD and taking care of her but i needed help.  He admitted being petrified to feed her and bathe her.  We have since worked out a plan where one night he feeds her dinner and I put her to bed and the next night we switch.  He also is very helpful while I am making dinner and we have a dinner schedule so I don't have to cook after work every night.  AND, I take at least 1 hour to myself every weekend and get out of the house - I either drive around, go to the grocery store or just go sit somewhere.  We've been happier lately both as a couple and as a family.

   

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• boolash

  November 2008

  We are in the exact situation.  I work nights/saturdays and DH works everyday but Sunday.  If I want to do ANYTHING with DH or without the kids it has to be on sunday....we always have this argument.

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• 121005bride

  November 2008

  Being that the Sunday mass is for your DD and her blessing.. my DH would be coming along end of story.  I know that seems controlling or whatever but if he was working 6 days a week and only had that day off, he would be coming.  You aren't asking him to go shoe shopping with you- this is for your DD.  He can go out and help his friend move after the blessing.  Seriously.. who moves in 1 hour?  No one I know unless you don't own a thing.  It took us 2 days to get out of our last house with non stop moving.. the guy can wait because family is FIRST.

   

   

  That being said.. I sometimes feel like a single mom.  DH has the flu right now and is always sleeping and whining.  DS and I are fine with no symptoms and this has been going on for 5 days now.. it's ticking me off I need help.

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