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QOTD
I may be in the very small minority working today so depending on how much traffic this Q gets, it may be the QOTD for both Monday & Tuesday.
Ideally, if age, health, and money were not an issue, how many kids would you have if:
a. you had (were expecting) the same kids you have today
b. purely theoretically
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Re: QOTD
a. 2 Our family is complete and we are done having kids! 2 is my ideal and we are lucky to have one of each, plus they are a real handful!
b. 2-3 If I was 10 years younger (mid-20s) and had 2 of the same gender, I may go for a third, especially if the 2 are girls. But regardless of the 3rd's gender, I would not have any more.
a. 4
b. 4
We always said we wanted 4. I'd still like 4. DH is holding out for hope on #3, but honestly, I don't see it happening. I've had such a terrible time getting pregnant, staying pregnant and this pregnancy has been so complicated and high risk I just don't see it happening. We don't have insurance coverage or the money for more ivf.
a. 4 - we started on the younger side so I still have a few years until I'd be AMA
b. 4
Financially I think we could swing four but I don't know if my health will allow it. I've had a lot complications this pregnancy so if my doctor says no more then I will follow her advice.
DD1 9.24.06
DS 7.1.08
twins due 9.7.11 lost twin A at
DD2 4.7.12
a. 3
b. 3 or 4
We have 2, a girl and a boy, and feel very blessed. But, we both would like our family to have one more dose of craziness. I am 1 of 3 kids, and always loved having 2 siblings. My husband was an only child, but also likes the idea of our kids having one more playmate. Now we just have to see if it's in the cards for us....
a. 2 - DD's first year was HARD, and I don't know if I could hack more than one more experience like that. I'm pretty sure there's no way I could convince DH to go through more than one more infant-period.
b. As an only child myself, I always liked the idea of 3.
a. Two only because, although I can pregnant easily, my body absolutely rebels when I'm pregnant (PUPPP, severe nauseau/vomitting/reflux throughout the pregnancies, extreme tiredness, etc.). That and financial reasons are pretty much why I don't want to have anymore. We could swing it financially, but it would be tight and I don't want to worry about money (is that selfish??). DH really, really, really wants a third child. Caveat: we have talked about potentially adopting a child, but I'm not sure if we will actually execute.
b. Theoretically...probably three or four. But I'd need a much bigger house and a nanny and would basically be bajillionaire. What? You said it was in theory, lol.
I may be in the very small minority working today so depending on how much traffic this Q gets, it may be the QOTD for both Monday & Tuesday.
Ideally, if age, health, and money were not an issue, how many kids would you have if:
a. you had (were expecting) the same kids you have today
b. purely theoretically
a. we only have 1 now and want 1 more....# 2 is not coming nearly as easy as #1
b. same as sofka I would have 3 of I had to of the same gender for sure and maybe even if i had one of each. But with all the issues I have had with 2 m/c, pregnancy induced thyroid issues and MTHFR, I am going to hope for one more soon and count our blessings no matter the gender.
a. 2 (what we have now)
b. 3
I always thought I wanted 3, and so did DH, but when I got to the end of my pregnancy with #2, I realized I was done. Pregnancy was good to me and I have 2 beautiful girls, but the financial implications of #3 and the fact that I am close to 40 and want to have our family life and my professional life focused on things other than babymaking make #3 fairly unlikely. DH has volunteered to do the "snip-snip," so that should make that decision fairly permanent.
a) I was actually pretty content w/ one but SURPRISE someone else had bigger plans.
b) again, probably the same answer. Me and pregnancy just don't get along all that well.
I'm not sure I get the distinction between a and b - but if money, age and health were no object, theoretically I would have 5 - especially if I could have a live-in nanny and a bigger house. I can totally see why the rich and famous have/adopt kid after kid. I mean why not, especially if you have lots of help. I have a lot of love to go around.
I'm not sure what you mean by question A. You mean if we were to add on to the family we already have? We'd get the same kids over again? Well, here's what I think my answers are:
A. If we knew what kind of kid DS was going to be, we would probably have stopped at one or waited until he was closer to 4 or 5 before having a second kid. He is just a tough, tough kid. I can't give DD the amount of time she deserves because of how much work he is. I love DD to pieces and am so happy to have her in our family, but sometimes I think we should have listened to our first instinct and chosen one and done after how difficult the first year was with DS. It's not really fair to either of them.
B. I hate being pregnant and am not a fan of babyhood, but let's pretend that I don't. Part of me thinks that a full, loud house would be fun, so 4 or 5 kids? That's assuming that all of the kids are neurotypical.
sorry I wasn't clear. I meant for (a) that you already have the kids you have now, while for (b) you may or may not have had any kids yet and you are just generizing about how many kids you would ideally have.
a) I could manage one more baby like the kind we make ("high need" and a lot of work) along with the three I already have. I do want a #4 but need to see how the next year goes and how overwhelmed and busy I feel - because in summer 2013, DH will be on a ship tour for two years and gone for two-month stretches. If we're not near family and friends, it wouldn't be fair to my existing kids to bring in a #4 and have their mom lose her patience, energy, and sanity (potentially for many years, since he almost always has jobs that are high-stress and long hours). And then by the time that job would be over, DS2 would be 3.5, and I don't know if I'd want to start all over with a newborn again.
DD is an all-around great kid - if I could have a dozen like her, I would. Her personality has been pretty consistent since Day One (well, after she got over her first six months as Angry Baby). DS1 is a sweet, funny, smart little guy...but he has hit the Terrible Twos full-force and is a challenge right now. I'm having more trouble anticipating what sort of child/teenager/adult he's going to be.
b) I've always wanted four. When we first hypothetically discussed kids while dating, DH said two. After having DS1, he agreed to a third. I think he's warming to the idea of a fourth (or is he just resigned to it?). I'll be honest: I'd love another little girl so DD could have a sister. But the idea of three boys in a row scares me
We are one and done. DH and I both only wanted one child, and we are thrilled that we were able to have Guinevere.
And surprisingly, this has been incredibly concerning to everyone that has met us, and family, friends, and acquaintances/co-workers are always trying to talk us into having more children, as if they get a say. This always amazes me. We are so happy with the size of our family.
a) 2
b) 2
a. 2. My first has been a very easy infant, a more challenging toddler but overall a pretty great girl! I am hoping my second can follow her sleeping habits as early as Hadley got them.
b. When I was younger I wanted 4. But I work with special needs children and I am scared of the various possibilities combined with my increasing age. We are still on the fence about a third. Since moving back to the midwest, it is much more financially doable. We can afford 2 and possibly 3 in daycare if need be. The other thought is that if this one is a boy, we are more likely to be done. (We are Team Green.) If this one is a girl, I think that my H is more open to a third.
(Sorry if I didn't answer correctly-- I still don't think I get the difference between a and b! Blaming pregnancy brain.)
we would love to have 4 kids.
sadly, age and money are issues for us, so we might just have our two and be happy!
a) 2 will be it for us
b) If space, money, and time/age were not an issue, I'd probably go for 3.