Does anyone else's mom

bangos13 · January 2012

act like they're completely flabbergasted that you have to "try" to get pregnant?

Any time I talk to my mom about TTC, all she says is, "Wow, I didn't have to do that with any of my babies!"

No, mom, you just got KTFU without even trying! Thanks a lot

bangos13 · January 2012

bdcram:
MINE!!!!
I can't tell you how many times she's said, "Wow, I always got pregnant the first month I tried. Why is it taking you so long?"
So annoying.

Yes, annoying to say the least! Sometimes I wish she knew how it felt.

KdgTeacher · January 2012

No. But then again, my mom has no idea that I've been TTC for the last 2 years either.

A good friend of mine is also dealing with IF and said her mom has made comments that she had no idea so much stuff had to work right in order to get KU. She has 4 children

Shayliz · January 2012

My mom doesn't understand a lot of the things I'm going though, but she's really understanding about all of it. My parents didn't "try" for any of us 5 kids, but my mom was also told multiple times she could never have kids so we were each a surprise.

runnergirl326 · January 2012

This is why I haven't said anything to my mom. I know I would be compared to my SIL who got pregnant in the first month with both my nieces. I would rather not go down this road right now, so my lips are sealed!

KNemo · January 2012

Nope, but then again, my mom had secondary IF and is super supportive and understanding. I think I would lose my cool if she did pull that sh!t with me!

ena724 · January 2012

I didn't tell my mom until we were at the year mark and were going in for testing. She's been very understanding but also "didn't know" how hard it really is to get pregnant!

Now, every time she sees me or talks me, she's like, "how are the meds making you feel?" or I get look of pity. Thanks goodness my DH's family doesn't know because my MIL would be driving me nuts!

MrsFobeyFobes · January 2012

Nope. My mom doesn't know we're TTC but she knows I'm not on the pill anymore. She doesn't ask questions at all. While my 2 older brothers were unplanned, once she tried ttc she had 3 miscarriages before finally having me. So she's sensitive to the journey.

kleigh926 · January 2012

My mom doesn't really know how hard we are TTC. She knows I stopped BCP back in April and that I'm seeing a doctor now for amenorrhea. Basically, I'm pretty sure she thinks we're not avoiding anymore, but not hard-core trying either. If we would get to the point where we'd have to start seeing an RE for infertility issues, then I would tell her to have her support and prayers. I know my mom well enough to know that she would not say insensitive things like that even if she didn't have trouble conceiving.

Twinkie0612 · January 2012

This is why my mom does not know thatwe are TTC. She would think that charting is crazy. We also just don't have that type of relationship where I would feel comfortable talking to her about TTC.

brachatzipora · January 2012

My mom is still having a hard time adjusting to the fact that I'm married. I don't discuss TTC because she has told us flat out that she thinks we should be married at least five years. My brother was born when she was 32 and I when she was 39...

JellyTwoPointO · January 2012

No, not with my mother. She had a ton of issues TTC and it took her 10 years. But with other people in my life? Yes, absolutely. I have some friends who have babies from men just glancing their way! (Or so it seems) And yeah, it kind of hurts and stings my heart, especially when their insensitive. Add that to the fact that I have trouble keeping my pregnancies and... well.... yeah.

NJMom050911 · January 2012

My mom suprised me. When I told her that I stopped taking the pill and we were trying ( 3 months before our wedding) she told me about charting! We're from Poland and she didn't move here until she was in her 40's (I was 12) so I guess I was just pleasantly surprised to hear that she was that aware. She knows all about shettles too. I have two sisters and they wanted me to be a boy. Didn't work. LOL

I would be hurt if my mom said that to me.

femmepink · January 2012

I'm sure she would act flabbergasted, that's why I wouldn't talk to her about it.

I think it would frustrate me if I had to explain to a women with 3 kids how conception works/doesn't work. For me, I'd rather leave that topic alone at this early point.

bridetobemo · January 2012

This is exactly why we're not telling the parents that we are TTC! The only person we've told is my sister!

TurtlesAndSand · January 2012

My mom said pretty much the same thing to me. When we hit the six month mark she told me I needed to go to the doctor to find out what was wrong. She has also told me I am trying too hard and I just need to relax. I explained charting and temping to her and told her that it is normal to take up to a year she still didn't stop with the insensitive comments. I just told her I wasn't going to talk to her about it anymore and I haven't. She hasn't mentioned it since.

I do plan on calling her later and telling her I am going to the dr. next week since it has now been 14 months. I hope that if I just ask her not to bring it up and tell her I will let her know when I want to talk about it she will just be supportive of that.

beckib353 · January 2012

My mom didn't have any trouble conceiving me or my two brothers. Considering she was only 19 when I was born, this isn't surprising! Even though she doesn't know what it feels like to really have to TRY, she's been very supportive. She first asked "Are you sure you want to start this already! You guys have so much fun without kids!" (I'm only 24). Now that she can see it is very much what I want and now that I know I have PCOS, she is all about talking about meds, etc...

Susana1990 · January 2012

Nope. Not my mom. but now that I think about it my mother in law hits me with the hints. like when are you going to have babies. what are you going to name your babies but I love talking to her about it because its fun.

My mom is does not want any grand children she thinks she to young to be a grandmother.

And My future mother in law wants more grand babies like tomorrow.

elizabethtaylor944 · January 2012

jessuhmarie:
I don't discuss TTC with my mom.

This. My mom had 7 kids, 8 pregnancies, none of which did she "try" for. I did tell my 3 sisters when we started TTC, but I've backed off on discussing it with them because they got pregnant on their first tries and think I'm nuts to start charting and using OPKs.

mrslaurah · January 2012

I try to avoid our ttc issues with my mother...she's extremely overbearing and opinionated and the last thing we need is for mom to start putting her two cents in every time we turn around.

kpowers982 · January 2012

My mom seems to treat the situation like it's all in my head and I just need to relax (vom). I tried to talk to her about my disappointment over my 7DPO bloodwork and she asked what the big deal was. I can't tell if she really doesn't "get" it or if the topic just makes her uncomfortable, so I gave up trying to talk to her about it.

sydsmom04 · January 2012

My mom knows I am not on BC anymore. She has also told me that I am crazy to have 3 kids. (She had 4) She told me back in November that I would HATE being pregnant in the summer (mind you she had a jan, aug, sept and oct baby) and I should reconsider when I started trying. Here we are in January not KU yet and I am NOT stopping TTC just because I might be huge and uncomfortable for a couple of months.

luciddreamer106 · January 2012

My mom knows we're ttc and is really supportive. Before me, she had a miscarriage and it took her "awhile" to get pregnant. My MIL doesn't and it will stay that way. She points out cute kids to me all the time and I don't think she would be understanding at all. She says that when MH was conceived, she "just knew".

She also told me that breast feeding is easy and doesn't understand how anyone would have trouble.

OneHotMama89 · January 2012

Nope (not that I've been trying long so far). My mom is very supportive, but she did say "Make sure you really want to be pregnant right now before you try, I got pregnant with you and your sister without ever trying!". Thanks, mom. Because clearly my intention with TTC is to NOT get pregnant. Moms are funny.

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