when are you telling?

DramaMama06 · January 2012

this is #2 and DH and I never really had our big reveal we wanted with DS b.c SIL was preggers too and blabbed right away lol! turns out we were only 2 days apart with our EDD.

So we're really looking fwd to having our moment as a family. but he wants to wait til EASTER! April 8th! i think he's nuts.

kelbel527 · January 2012

Ha! I would never make it until Easter. We already told one of our closest friends, they have a daughter close in age to our DS and they can keep a secret.

Then, I also told my boss because of a career discussion we were having and I wanted to be upfront that I'd be out for maternity leave. Plus, I'm having such a hard time waiting!!

I think I'm getting more confident because we were so lucky with our first to have no problems, so I hope that doesn't come back to haunt me.

Planning to tell BFF in the next couple of weeks, but waiting to tell family until after 1st OB appt (hopefully 1st HB or u/s at that appt), then the rest around 12ish weeks.

csquared426 · January 2012

For family, probably when I get into my 2nd tri since it will be the farthest along I've ever made it. For friends and co-workers, probably not until after my A/S.

linzeek44 · January 2012

I told my mom last week. Needed to tell someone, and figured she was my best bet for support. She's sworn to secrecy.

We'll tell our immediate family (my sisters, DH's parents) after our first dr.'s appointment on 2/7.

As for everyone else, we'll probably wait until 2nd tri.

DFWIndian · January 2012

We already told the immediate family. We will tell the rest of the family and friends after March 1.

GreyLove · January 2012

We told our immediate family (his parents, my parents, my sister) right before the 5 week mark. We told other family (my grandparents) this past weekend. A few of our very, very close friends know already, but we're not planning on telling anyone else until I'm out of first tri.

angelakh · January 2012

We aren't sharing the news until the 2nd tri. My ILs will be in town right at the 11 week mark, so I am not sure how we are going to keep it from them.

beginswithb · January 2012

DH wants to wait a month. Of course, I texted my BFF the minute I thought I saw a line. My mum also called and hassled me last night, saying she knew I was hiding something. I caved and told her this morning. So besides my DH, my mum, 2 BFFs and my sister know. I think I will tell DH's family after we hear or see the heartbeat, so probably around Valentine's Day. I already have an idea for an announcement.

Lisa_07032010 · January 2012

We'll proably start telling everyone around 12 weeks. The only people that know right now besides myself are DH and a close friend at work. I had to tell one other person so I had someone to talk to about it who's been through it before. I think that telling her really helped with my urge to tell everyone.

fadsmama · January 2012

I have told a few people already; very tough for me to keep to myself! My parents, sister, and several friends currently know. I will most likely tell the rest of my family after the first u/s (fingers crossed - the 23rd). I'll FB announce at 12 weeks. God forbid I did have a loss, I would truly appreciate all the support people could muster.

sadie+w · January 2012

We have told very close friends and some immediate family. Partially because it has been difficult to hide it (ie, we all went on a ski trip this last weekend, I am a huge skier, and nobody would believe me if I made up a different reason why I wasn't skiing. Especially since they know we were TTC because we had a miscarriage last year).

Also, I know none of these people will tell anyone, and what I am most afraid of with telling people is that word will spread, I'll have a miscarriage, and in 6 months I'll run into someone and they say 'Oh, I heard you were pregnant!' So, given I know that is not a possibility, I am not worried. Plus, having gone through a miscarriage last year, I found it incredibly encouraging to have close friends caring about me during that difficult time. So if I were to have another miscarriage, it's not something I mind if close friends know about.

As for the 'public' (ie, Facebook or coworkers other than my boss) I probably won't tell until I am either showing too much to hide it, or after the A/S.

kellelle01 · January 2012

I've started telling people slowly and now I'm worried that I'm going "out of order" with who I tell. For example, I told my mom and then last week told my dad because my mom said she couldn't keep it from him anymore. So, they both know, but we haven't told DH's parents yet. Our appointment with an ultrasound to check for a heartbeat is next Tuesday, so I'm planning to wait until then to tell the in-laws and rest of the families.

lildayzees · January 2012

We told at about 9 weeks last go-round. Barring a great u/s next week, we will prob do the same. I'm just bursting to announce, and it's almost slipped a few times already!

katiebug58 · January 2012

I told 2 friends and that has helped the urge to tell! I need to pick an OB so may tell another friend to get her recommendation. I will tell my immediate family soon and wait until 2nd tri for extended family and friends.

ydawg05 · January 2012

I think we will tell immediate family and a couple close friends after we hear the heartbeat. Other than that, I'm not sure yet, probably second tri.

mchupie · January 2012

We've already told our families and close friends. I'm probably going to announce it on my blog soon and some of our friends and acquaintances read it. I don't really care about keeping it a secret; I figure if God forbid something happen I would want the support, and to not have to keep it to myself.

MissIntentional · January 2012

i have told 5 people already. blabber mouth for sure. we plan to tell close family after us at 8 weeks.

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