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Anyone deal with bipolar disorder?

Hi all, I don't post here but I do lurk quite a bit for some silent support I guess. I was wondering if anyone deals with any sort of bipolar disorder in their ex? I am pretty positive my boyfriend has some sort of rapid cycling disorder. I am at a loss because he refuses treatment. He is a great dad to our daughter, but I just don't know if I can take it much longer. Sometimes his moods cycle so quickly that he can change within 15 or 20 minutes. I find myself accepting him time after time like nothing happened because I am just so worn down... I'm just so tired to fight about things. I guess this post doesn't have much of a point, I just wondered if anyone out there has dealt with a similar situation... And if someone has some advice. Thanks so much.  

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Re: Anyone deal with bipolar disorder?

  • This isn't my "home" board, but thought I'd pop in when I saw the title.  

    I have a family member who has been diagnosed as bipolar-I believe bipolar II.  She also has rapid cycling,  but more recently the dr. is thinking its borderline personailty disorder.  The DSM descriptions of the two are very similar, but the treatments are diff.  Bipolars are generally treated with meds, while BPD is generally treated through therapy.

    Ive been doing alot of reading on the subjects, and found the information about the 2 interesting.  Another family member has recommended a book called Stop Walking on Eggshells (at least I think that's the title).

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  • Thank you, I will check out that book. I am truly willing to work with him and will do whatever I can, but I am also trying to prepare myself to leave. It's so hard :(
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  • Actually, I am the one with bipolar disorder. However, I have been attending therapy. I stopped my medication when I got pregnant and have been stable since.

    If your ex refuses therapy, and you feel that your child is in danger, then you need to collect any evidence of his bipolar. It will help you get custody and he may be ordered to attend counseling.

  • My Ex was never diagnosed with bipolar disorder, to my knowledge, but I swear he had something wrong.  I personally thought he might be boderline.  One minute our relationship was horrible and we were never going to make it, then a half hour later he would be talking about marriage and buying a house together.  Seriously, wtf?

    I couldn't take it so I finally ended it.  It was just too exhausting dealing with it and never knowing what person I was going to be facing.

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  • My ex has diagnosed bipolar disorder but doesn't take meds. He self medicates with drugs and alcohol. It was a very turbulent relationship and I finally got out for good when DD was about 5 months old. LO doesn't deserve to be raised around that.
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  • My ex was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. We were together for 10 years. It was a very stressful relationship. It was full of verbal abuse, to the point, when I left, I felt as if I was nothing. His mood swings were awful. He was fine one minute, then the next, he was all over me for not cleaning the house right, not picking up clothes right, not doing something right. We did have a child together. I will say he was a decent father, but I was the one who took care of her the majority of the time. He was VERY controlling. It was his way or the wrong way, and I learned to live this way. The ending to this relationship, was one night, we were argueing because he did not want to let DD CIO, she was 3 at the time, or it had something to do with her bed time or something, and the arguement just escalated to the point where I was going to call the police to have him removed from the house. He knocked the phone out of my hand and out of the wall. I ran outside to leave ( I know you must be thinking I was crazy to leave DD there, but my inlaws were right down the road and I knew he would not hurt her and I knew he would hurt me) and he stopped me at the car and got my keys and threw me against the car and started choking me. I was screaming. I finally got away and ran to the neighbors house.. I called his mom (reason being, his mothing had dealt with the exact same thing with his dad, except ALOT worse) and they came right over, along with the police, cause although the phone got busted, the call went throught and they had tried to call back and didnt get anyone and sent the police out. When they got there, there were not any marks on my neck, but he did get arrested for interferring with a 911 call. That was the end of our marriage. Although it took 1 year for the divorce cause he was so manipulating and I had lost all respect for myself, it took me this long to discover I was worth more than that.
  • XH was diagnosed with bipolar II but has decided that he doesn't have the disorder so therefore he doesn't need to take meds or get therapy. He is also a raging coholic and a sociopath, so everything sort of melds together as to what's causing his behavior. 

    No real advice other than to express how much more I love life now that I'm not abused and walking on eggshells daily. 

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