No nursery...anyone else? whine

gr8fulaa · January 2012

When we bought our tiny house when I was 18, I never dreamed we'd be stuck in it this long...I had planned to move the new baby into DS's room, but I just feel guilty about that- I'd have to take out DS's train table and lots of toys out and there just isn't enough room in there...so now I've decided I'm just going to keep baby in my room and let DS keep his own room- baby will be sleeping next to us for the 1st few months anyway...But I feel so bad about not having a special place for this baby like I did for #1...And it's kind of snowballing-why buy a $200 bedding set thats mostly for decoration, we won't be using any of it anyway, why start buying lots of stuff without having somewhere to put it? anyone else bedding with baby? any suggestions on how to make a special space for baby without an actual space?

FinallyMrsBMW · January 2012

I personally would save the money and not buy a new bedding set. I sometimes feel badly that this baby isn't getting any of the "new" stuff and has to use all of DD#1's things, but it isn't worth the $ to me to buy everything all over again. We even bought our oldest daughter a new bedroom set with new bedding and she will be getting a newly remodeled bedroom.

If you are having the baby stay in your room, maybe you could add some special decorations on the wall above the baby's crib and buy some sheets that match your bedroom.

BabyD15 · January 2012

Your baby will not know if they had their own space or stuff when they were little so, unless it really bothers you...I wouldn't bother. You being close to your baby is what matters most.

Joie80 · January 2012

I don't have much advice, but I feel you on the whine part. I'm in a little different situation than you. DH is deployed and our initial plans were for me to stay put and carry on as usual. However, we had some issues that arose early in this pregnancy where we both weren't comfortable with me being alone for several months without a good support system. Then he got orders for relocating once he returns so it was almost like there would have been no need to completely set up a nursery to have to take it all down in the couple months between LO's arrival and his return. I'm living with my parents temporarily until DH returns, but in the mean time I'm very stuck on creating a space for LO. I get so majorly jealous of all of the nursery pics and progress because it's just impossible for me to make that happen right now. LO has a crib that'll pretty much go in the same room that I sleep in for now and that's about it. I have been buying a few things here and there, but its hard to plan a nursery blind without even knowing what our new place is going to look like once we get settled late this spring. I don't know what to tell you. But, the pp is right, your LO has no idea what's going on in that department. He or she is just going to want to be close to you. Good luck on finding a solution you're comfortable with.

Mrs_MBed · January 2012

We didn't really do anything for either girls - no nursery was created. DD2 just used everything DD1 did. And she still does. DH bought DD1 a bedding set and we only used the sheet out of it, so it was a total waste. Fortunately we were able to sell it, but still.

This time around, we don't have the space for a nursery for the boys and we're PCSing out of state in June, so it doesn't make sense for us to do one. We've really gone minimalist with the boys - clothes, diapers, crib, car seats and that's it. Everything else is just going to have to wait until after we move. FWIW, I think that we'd be doing the same thing even if we weren't moving.

kmhunt11 · January 2012

I don't feel guilty, because I know it's temporary. DD1 really wants to share a room with her sister, and I think DD2 is going to worship big sister, so they'll love the arrangement. I don't see us staying in this house for even another year either. As far as reusing everything, we had way way way too much stuff for DD1. I'm excited that we need nothing this time around because we can put our $ toward cloth diapers, and mainly request those at the shower/sprinkle my SIL is throwing me. All the stuff we had for DD1 was so stinkin' cute, I can't wait to reuse it. I bet I'll start feeling bad when DD2 is a little older- maybe 4/5, and knows she's not getting much new stuff.

lisaNDmike08 · January 2012

We won't have a nursery and I don't feel bad about that at all! We're moving across the country a few months after he's born and will be staying with family for a while until we can figure out permanent living arrangements. I'm thinking we'll be doing pretty well if our LO gets his own special room by the time he's one, but in the meantime he'll have all of the love, food, clothes and shelter he needs to thrive, just not in a designated nursery space.

kmiller1012 · January 2012

We are in the same boat. We have a two bedroom house so I plan to keep the baby in the room with us for at least the first few months. We will then move the DS#2 into DS#1 room once he is sleeping through the night. We aren't buying anything for the baby and I'm hoping to not have to buy a new crib. We will see if DS#1 is ready to transition into a big boy bed when we are ready to move DS#2.

I don't feel bad for the baby but I would love to be able to set up and decorate for this baby. I know he won't remember, but I will. So I can definitely relate to how you are feeling.

gomezmama · January 2012

me me me! I know how you feel... I just set up the pack&play in the corner of our bedroom. i hate that the new baby doesnt have his own room yet. i really want to be getting everything ready. the plan is, once we get income tax money back we can add on another bedroom to our house. and then i can make his room with all of his stuff. i dont even have much for him yet cuz i dont have anywhere to put it! and being on bed rest is NOT helping me get things done. Im just trying to make his little pack&play area as nice as possible. I'll pull it over to my side of the bed after hes born. im thinking about getting just a little storage place with shelves or drawers, something temporary until he gets his own room so i can keep his clothes and stuff nearby. Im really trying to keep everything out of our 2yr old sons room bcuz i feel like sharing mommy and daddy is hard enough, let alone having to share your room, closet, blankies, toys, bottles...

k8trz1024 · January 2012

Right now, mt DH and I are in a one bedroom apartment. We found out we were expecting right after we signed the lease and to switch, they want almost $1,000. We would rather use that money for LO... In the meantime, we'll be setting up a "nursery" area (crib/chaninging table) on one side of our bedroom. We'll be in this apartment until August, but we figure he'd pelrobably be in our room for that amount of time anyway. We'll give him his own space when we move.