Would you go?

spincat9 · January 2012

I live a half hour from where SMS's son's wake is tomorrow in NH. I would like to go. But I feel a little awkward because I don't know Amye IRL, and don't want to intrude on a private family moment. Yet I want to pay my respects and feel like it's the right thing to do because I'm so close. DH asked me what I would want, if the tables were turned. I know the answer to that, but am wondering what you would do - do you think I'd be intruding? I wouldn't be going to the funeral portion, just the wake.

lkstor · January 2012

I think it would be wonderful to go and show your support.

xleslieraex · January 2012

If I lived that close, I would go. I would like it if you went and gave her hugs from all of us.

KCKSarah · January 2012

I think the wake or visitation is for anyone who wants to pay respects to the family. It's a way to go and let the family know you are thinking of them and to pay respects. Usually you stand in line and only talk to the family briefly, so I don't see harm in going.

I agree that the funeral is more for close friends and family.

KCKSarah · January 2012

xleslieraex:
If I lived that close, I would go. I would like it if you went and gave her hugs from all of us.

This. Please tell her how much we care about her.

martinimomma · January 2012

xleslieraex:
If I lived that close, I would go. I would like it if you went and gave her hugs from all of us.

This. Completely.

vlewis515 · January 2012

I think going is a wonderful idea but I personally would not want to go by myself, I'd want at least one other bumpie to go with me. Just because I'd feel awkward, not because I think it's weird.

And if it were me, I'd be incredibly touched that a bumpie would come.

EmKo0210 · January 2012

lkstor:
I think it would be wonderful to go and show your support.

This.

EricaK28 · January 2012

EmKo0210:
lkstor:
I think it would be wonderful to go and show your support.

This.

I also agree with this.

rock-elle · January 2012

vlewis515:

I think going is a wonderful idea but I personally would not want to go by myself, I'd want at least one other bumpie to go with me. Just because I'd feel awkward, not because I think it's weird.

And if it were me, I'd be incredibly touched that a bumpie would come.

This 1,000% times over

itsmegin · January 2012

I would want you there if it were me. IMO, the more people at a funeral the more comforting it is to the loved ones to know how many people cared and loved the deceased. Everyone mourns differently, but I'd assume given the service details were posted on FB that she isn't opposed to people she doesn't know intimately coming. So in short, I would go.