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June 2012 Moms
ncjulia12
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Waiting to reveal the gender? DH & I disagree.
ncjulia12
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Our anatomy u/s is schedule for Tuesday, so hopefully we'll find out pink/blue then! (Although if he/she is shy and we don't, I'll just be really happy to see the baby again and this whole argument below will be moot for a little while.)
We're not going to have a big gender reveal party, but we were thinking about making a cake and having DH's parents (mine are too far away) and a few friends over to announce. I would love to just have them over Tuesday night and not make a big deal about it, and then just feel free to tell whoever from there. I was even okay with waiting until the weekend if DH wanted to do it then.
Now that's it's almost here, we realized DH's parents will be out of town for a over a week starting this Friday and DH wants to wait until they get back to tell them or anyone. He wants to just keep it to ourselves for a while (almost two weeks) because "it's our baby and it should be special- not something we need to rush out and tell everyone."
Part of me thinks: It's no big deal- if he wants to wait, if it's important to him, fine.
And another, very frustrated part of me thinks: This is so ridiculously silly. All of our family, friends, and my co-workers know we are finding out this week and will be asking constantly. I'm excited to share our news and I think it's a little snobby to keep it a secret.
What do you think?
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Re: Waiting to reveal the gender? DH & I disagree.
I, personally, put finding out the sex up next to finding out I'm pregnant. I think my parents would be hurt to hear it from someone else if we're having a boy or girl - or knowing that someone else knew before they did.
DH and I discussed getting the tech to write it down and seal it so that we could find out at the same time as my parents in 2 weeks (our scan is on Monday). But we may peek and still tell my parents and a few friends together the next time we see them.
I think if it's important to your DH, then wait to share the news. Tell the others that you want to let DH's parents know first. If they don't understand, too bad for them.
At first I wasn't really interested in doing any big sex reveal, but since DH couldn't keep the baby a secret until Christmas Eve (he told ELEVEN days before), I asked if he wanted to do something fun to share the baby's sex. He asked what I was thinking. My ideas were to either send 6 cupcakes to my parents and his with either pink or blue icing. OR to have a cake made with pink or blue filling and have everyone for dinner. He nixed the cupcake idea because his mom THINKS she's super healthy and never indulges and wouldn't appreciate the cupcakes (that is totally true). So I think we're going with the cake idea.
The only issue is this... We're in Canada. Here, ultrasound techs are not allowed to tell you anything, you have to wait for the results from your doctor. We have a regular OB appointment on January 31st, then our 20 week ultrasound is February 2nd. So if the tech refuses to tell us (some will give you a disclaimer that they can't be sure but they think it's a boy or girl, but some are really strict with the rules), then I'm not going to wait another 4 weeks to our next appointment to find out what we're having. I'll probably just have to call the OB every day until she gets she results. Not very exciting for us, but... oh well.
It must be your province. We found out last time from our u/s tech and will find out this time as well. The ultrasounds reports that go to the doctor don't even have the sex indicated on them.
DH and I will be finding out the sex but not telling anyone until baby is born. That's what we did with DS, and that's what we're doing this time as well. As far as everyone else is concerned, we're going in for our a/s.
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