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MrsBeckO
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PS: Oh My Gaaaaah, I might kill my husband.
MrsBeckO
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Maybe its because its the end of a long week and I have to be back at work tomorrow for 3 hours (so its not really the end)... or maybe its because I am so torn up over the news about Evan that everything little thing is setting me off.. or both, but I am seriously about to throat-punch or ball-kick my husband.
For YEARS, I did everything around the house. Years... everything. Then he got ultra spoiled when I was a SAHM because while he was at work, we usually got the grocery runs completed, meals prepared, etc.. on top of the EVERYTHING I was still doing around the house. Well, since I've been working FT, he's had to step it up to help me out (naturally, right?!) and lately he complains about "doing everything" all. the. time.
Let me tell you what "everything" is -- cleaning the kitchen. While I am putting Camryn to bed, mind you.
His "everything" does not include the cleaning of the *whole REST* of the house.. living room, bedrooms, bathrooms, playroom. The laundry. The grocery shopping. The packing of the bags for school. The bathing of the child, or the putting to bed (which suuucks because she hates bed these days). The medications for the child (of which there are many). The waking the child up and getting her ready for school. The bills being paid. Etc.
So I totally just flipped my ever-loving flip on him about the EVERYTHING that he doesn't do.
Then what does he say, "Am I the only one worried about setting a good example for Camryn? Stop yelling."
Ohhhh. My. Gaaaaahhhh.
Yes, you are the ONLY one worried. Shut the eff up.
::deep breath:: not breathE, breath.
And, I feel a little bit better now.
Thank you.
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Re: PS: Oh My Gaaaaah, I might kill my husband.
And because I am 12 years old, I may or may not have just printed a Chore Chart so DH can see how much he DOESN'T do and quit his biitching about the 2 whole things he DOES do (he made me add "mow the lawn" to the list.. that's his second task).
This is ridiculous, I know.
But printing it out where he could actually see what all goes on in this house was oddly rewarding.
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Chore chart = brilliant. They really just have no idea sometimes.
:::ball kicks Mr.BeckO:::
*MrsBeckO* is my hero
I love the idea of the chore chart, so if that makes you 12, I'm 12 too. It's amazing how much a woman does vs. a man. Absolutely amazing. Makes it so hard to hear them complain. I'm sorry friend.
xH use to pull that kinda stuff all the time. Drove me INSANE! I started playing dirty though and stopped doing his laundry, cooking for him, cleaning "his bathroom" (yeah he had his own bathroom) and what almost killed me was not vacuuming. We had black cats and white carpet. I was bitter and 23 with no kids so I could do that.
Good luck. I hope you find a good glass of wine tonight and the patience to deal with him tomorrow.
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TTC #1 since February 2011
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July 2012- SA completely normal
I can relate. Not to working FT, but I work PT, 24 hours a week) and my DH STILL does absolutely nothing but bathe the kiddo. His only job duties, that we had a come-to-Jesus about at our anniversary dinner this summer, is washing DSs tray from dinner (since I make his meal), bathe him, take the trash out when it's needed, and pick up the living room every night before he comes to bed. And on nights I work, he's supposed to sweep up after dinner. He always bathes DS, but the rest? Nope. Not a single one. I had to yell his ass out of bed this morning to wash his tray because he didn't do it last night and we were going to be late to school. And then I'm the b1tch.
GAH.
I feel you.
And I'm probably 11.5 because I'm thinking of withholding privileges if he doesn't shape up and get some stickers in his chart. Where can I hide the xbox controller so he can't find it and I won't forget where I put it?
I'm so making him a chart. Right.this.second.
Holycrap I just snorted Coke through my nose.
I.Die.
Sounds like you need a weekend away where MrBeckO keeps Cammy and has to fend for himself as far as meals/ cleaning. DH shaped up quite a bit after my girls' weekend. I don't think he realized how much I did around here.
Oh, and if it's not in the budget, I have a guest room. We can drink copious amounts of wine on my back porch.
This is one of my big fears about eventually going back to work FT. Right now I'm PT from home, and DH constantly complains that the house isn't clean enough. He's generally pretty good about helping out with cleaning the kitchen, taking out the trash, etc., but it's all the OTHER stuff like doctor appointments and keeping track of medication, and homework and buying groceries and laundry and paying the bills, doing the rest of the cleaning, preparing the meals, etc.
I think a chore chart is a great idea if it helps him visualize what you do vs. what he does. You can give him a choice as to what additional tasks he wants to take on as his.
I've tried not doing his laundry, but that just ends up driving me crazy so I wash it anyway, but then he gripes because I didn't fold it.
Meredith, 6-1-06 and Alex, 11-5-09
They hurt more than, say, mandarin oranges.
I like this. I like it a lot.