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Success after IF
Update to Claire's baby sister
So we went to the hospital last night, I spent about an hour with baby girl (she is nameless right now) she is the sweetest thing- she looks just like Claire! We are in love with her. We are 98% there in making our decision- we are going to take her. I think the regret of not taking her is far more than that of taking her. I think the last 2% is just the fear we have.
I wonder if this is the fear that many women have when they find out they are expecting a 2nd or 3rd or even 4th child, that maybe wasn't "planned". I guess I just wanted to feel like I did when I got called for Claire- I didn't think- I just said "when and where do I pick her up".
There are a lot of legal issues that will come into play- we let our license with the state lapse- we figured we would do it when we got back from vacation next month- and that there was no hurry- so legally she cannot come live with us until we are offically licesned. So we have to hurry up and get stuff done for that by the end of the month- then there is our 2 week cruise that is paid for and is with my entire family the first 2 weeks of Feb- we really need a vacation and don't not want to miss spending time with my family and my neice and newphew. So the plan right now is baby girl will be released tomorrow to our good friends (who are licensed foster parents) and happen to live down the street from us- they will keep her until we can take her- which should be right around Valentines day.
In the meantime we have to make room in our house for another baby, and get another crib and all that jazz- I just sold my bouncer and my swing- darn it!
So that's where we are- I'm in a fog today- I'm scared, and excited all at the same time. Thank you for your thoughts and prayers and please keep them coming we have a long way to go!
Our Journey from two to three!
3 IUI's, 2 IVF's, decided to move to foster/adopt.
12/24/2009 Baby C born, 2/1/2010 placed with us,
5/17/2011 Adoption final- we are finally a forever family!
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Re: Update to Claire's baby sister
I think the 2% is totally normal. My pregnancy was uber planned and sometimes I still feel scared sh1tless about having a 2nd. But I think you are right-- not taking her would probably haunt you down the road.
I'm really happy for you and for her-- she is lucky to have a safe, loving place to be.
I have been thinking about you all day! I was hoping you would update.
I think there is no way anyone would feel 100%, this came right out of the blue. You didnt get 9 months to prepare.
But this is so exciting!! Congrats and good luck!
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This exactly! Oh lady, I am so excited for you!!!! Best of luck with everything!
Because we're fancy like that.
All of this, glad it seems like things will workout for you to add this precious baby to your family!
yay!!!!!!!!! that small percent is normal!! even when you have wanted it! the night we got the call about aida (and i went to the hospital the next day with her bmom) i was freaked out! and it was the best decision ever!
yay yay yay!!!!!
So exciting!!! That 2% will melt away the minute you have her. Congrats and good luck with the transition.
Hi there. I am usually just a lurker, but I wanted to say you are doing an awesome thing. I read your post last night and have been waiting all day for an update.
MH is adopted. He has no blood relatives that he knows of and has never thought about looking for his biological parents. I know he always wished he had a blood sibling that he could relate to. You have made a great choice to take in this little angel so that she can be with her sister. I understand this is all unexpected, but give it a few months to settle in and you will never look back. God Bless you!
So exciting!
And a whirlwind, for sure. It sounds like you have a great plan in place. I'll keep you all in my thoughts!
Congrats!
I agree, the fear is totally normal!
what a whirlwind the last day must've been for you! So happy it seems to be falling into place!
That 2% is totally normal. And most people have 9 months to adjust to the idea, you have had a day.
How exciting!
-----Lisa-----
How exciting! For the record, your fears are completely normal. Shoot, I felt that way when making the RE appoint for baby #2.Keep us updated and have fun on your vacation!
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So happy for you! I have also been thinking about you all day.
That is amazing that your friends will do that. I agree with a PP that said that sometimes adopted kids might want a connection like a sibling. That would be amazing for her to have a bio sibling.
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Holy COW!! Late to the game here but CONGRATS on your new family member!!!
I can't even begin to imagine how overwhelming and shocking all of this is for you guys. I remember well bawling my eyes out when I found out we were expecting 2 under 2 but I had 9 months to adjust to the idea!
I know this must seem so overwhelming but I'm gonna give you a huge "You CAN do this" cheer!!
Trust me.... if I can do this.... anyone can. It may be rough at first but it's gonna sooo pay off down the road in so many ways.
Congrats again. I'm thrilled for you guys but honestly I'm over the MOON for this little girl that she's going to land with a family that's going to love and cherish her so very much after an uncertain beginning.
Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.