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Sigh- convincing DH that now is the time to try

Watergirl21Watergirl21 member
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So DH and I are both 35.  I will be 36 in a few months, we have one child 19 months old which I didn't have any trouble conceiving.   We both agree that we want to have at least one more child- but DH doesn't seem to understand why I want to do this sooner than later.    We both come from large familes- and my Mom had me in her early 40's.  I think he thinks it will be easy, but I am concerned that it might take some time to conceive.   Did anyone else have this problem...?
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Re: Sigh- convincing DH that now is the time to try

  • LlamamamaLlamamama member
    Don't wait.  If he doesn't see age being as issue, just read him some of the info off this board.  I personally have been trying for 29 months with no luck.  I am about to be 40.  You might get lucky again and have no trouble OR you might be trying for a long time like many women here.  If there is no reason to wait--don't!  Good luck and I hope you can get thru to him.  :)
    Me: 40 Dh: 41, TTC since August 2009, began Acupuncture and Herbs Sept 2011, began Temping and Charting Nov 2011. image
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  • brooklynesquebrooklynesque member
    Personally I wouldn't wait.  (I started TTC when I was 35, have no real diagnosable issues, and am now 38 and still not KU.)  If DH convinces you to wait a bit at least consider getting your hormone levels tested.  If your FSH is getting high or your AMH is getting low that's a sign you need to get it in gear faster.
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  • Mrs.McIrishMrs.McIrish member
    It could definitely be easy for you again. You don't know until you try.  I started TTC when I was 36 and you will see my history in my siggy. Still no baby 20 cycles later. But the ladies that get PG easily don't stick around this board for obvious reasons. If you ask on PG>35, you will find lots that had no trouble. Some are the lucky fertiles and some aren't.

    TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
    DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
    5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
    OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
    DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
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  • JennyP1JennyP1 member
    My story is kinda similar in that I didn't have trouble conceiving my first child when I was 34 (once we figured out our issues and moved on to IUI) but when we started TTC #2 at 36 I had expectations that it would be quick again. I did get KU on the first try but it ended with an ectopic, surgery, and a methotrexate injection (none of which I saw coming). Now I'm on the bench for 3 months because you can't TTC after methotrexate for at least 3 months for risk of MC. So if you can convince DH to start now, do it! Hopefully it will happen quick and your stay on this board will be short and sweet...good luck!
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  • KGS2003KGS2003 member
    If you don't have to wait don't. I had no trouble conceiving my DD I had her when I was 32. We waited until she was a little over 1 to try for the 2nd and that was almost 7 years ago.  
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  • kat1221kat1221 member

    YES!

    We have a son that is 3.5 and my husband FINALLY gave the green light to start trying for #2.  I turned 37 in December.  We got pregnant with DS very quickly he thinks it will be a snap again.  As we know, that may not be the case.  They don't get it.

     Good luck to you! 

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  • Temp556193750005695Temp556193750005695

    DOUBLE YES!

    Hubbs thought that because his mom had a child in her 40's that having a child in your 40's would be a snap.  I tried for two yrs to convince him that it's not a snap for anyone but especially for a 1st time mom.  When he finally agreed to get a SA during the time I was getting IF tests, he only did it to pacify me.  It was an uphill battle trying to get him onboard and from conversation online and IRL, it appears to be that way in most relationships.   It wasn't until he got the MFI dx, that he began to really engage around the issue.

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  • winidpuwinidpu
    Yes. I agree w/ the ladies. If you don't have to wait then I say go for it now. You just never know if you are going to have problems until you start and then it could be months if not years before it happens. Good luck.
    TTC #1 since 2/10 Me 38 FSH 12.9 & AMH 0.16 DH 47, low sperm count due to meds. 07/11 We have sperm! 28 million, 70% motility, morphology 1% normal. 08/14/11 1st IUI unmedicated BFN. 09/11/11 2nd IUI w/ Femara + trigger BFN 10/14/11 trigger & Final IUI 10/16/11 BFN 10/21/11 Started acupuncture and loving it! 01/21 ET one embryo 6 cell grade C. Beta 02/02. BFN. Taking a much needed break. image
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  • chitwngal2010chitwngal2010
    you should really try to sit down and have a heart to heart. i concieved DD at 37 without any issues not even trying! and now i have been trying for # 2 for 15mos! and there is no telling if or when it will happen for me again. My SO fought me a little too and now look where we are! every once in awhile he tells me we should just go back to the natural way, that's what worked in the past and he doesn't seem to understand my loud ticking time bomb inside. I will be 40 in June. i say go for it now.
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