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covertxxamour
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PFA & Court Date
covertxxamour
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Well, DD's father got a PFA out on me. He took DD on Christmas Eve for a few hours, and was supposed to take her this past Saturday but I never heard from him. He wouldn't return my emails or anything. So I went to his work (where I used to work), and tried to talk to him. He forced me to leave, and called the cops. So he got a PFA (protection from abuse) order out on me. Now we have a court date for that on the 23rd of this month. Not looking forward to it. I have a lawyer, and I heard he is very good. I never realized how expensive they are. I'll be paying this guy $250/hr!
Which brings me to my next point. I still am so undecided as to what I should do. He wants a paternity test done (well, I think his wife does). Which is fine, I guess. I know my daughter is his, but he's just being a typical a**hole and trying to deny her now. I don't know whether to proceed with paternity & child support. I know she is entitled to any money, but I can truly tell he doesn't want to be a part of her life. And getting the PFA on me just proved that even more. If I do get support, I will let him proceed with the rest (custody/visitation). I am just so lost... I don't know what to do. There are pros and cons to everything. He's taking care of his other 2 children, but not my DD. Makes me wonder.
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Re: PFA & Court Date
You can't force him to be a part of your DD's life. If he chooses not to show up and take advantage of his visitation, that's up to him. I don't know what you thought you'd accomplish by going to his work.
Take the paternity test and get child support. Your child deserves it. If he chooses not to see your daughter, oh well. He doesn't get to choose whether or not he will pay child support. It's not optional.
I guess I should have made myself clear. I didn't go to his work with the intention of seeing him. We work on an ambulance, and since I had the baby, I've been staying at home. I had to turn my uniforms in and get my belongings out of my locker. He was there, so I figured I would try to talk to him.
I tried to get paternity done to get child support. But he didn't show up to the court date, and the court claims they couldn't do anything about it. So I'm not 100% sure where to go now. I will be talking to my lawyer after the PFA hearing.
Thanks ladies.