Is it poor etiquette to have a "sprinkle"??

Re: Is it poor etiquette to have a "sprinkle"??

• cj803kj411

  January 2012

  go for it! It's nice to get together and celebrate the baby etc. You could just get diapers and wipes and some newer clothes. My friend is doing the same thing for me. Just an excuse to get away from the guys have cake and relax... =]

  

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• iLoveblueberries member

  January 2012

  I think its totally acceptable to have a small shower!
  Personally, I wouldnt register anywhere and would use it more as a time to get some little things from people you may need (new pacifiers, diapers, onsies, bibs). But I think it is appropriate!

  
  

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• Jnkpnch80 member

  January 2012

  What about a diaper dinner? Everyone comes and eats and brings a pack of diapers for the raffle? (get a gift basket or card and raffle it off) People will bring gifts, but its not you asking for them so its okay. 

   I didn't want to have a shower, my best friend insisted. She just got married in April and I did a lot for her showers, parties etc (maid of honor) so I think she feels like she has to do this despite my frequent attempts at telling her I feel awkward. But we lost EVERYTHING to water damage so we are starting over. I am getting everything second hand, but I still feel so weird with this shower thing. So yes, I think a sprinkle is perfectly fine and I think second showers are not taboo anymore. 

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• cbee817 member

  January 2012

  I think it's totally fine and really nice of your friend- have fun!

  

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• FyreFlyeRush member

  January 2012

  I was told the other day that showers aren't given for women on a second child, and it was tacky for me to have one, even tho my kids are going to be 16 years apart. Now, I don't want a shower, but the comment ticked me off. So, I looked it up. Here's what I learned.

  Showers should be had for every baby, period. A shower is to welcome a new baby. If you have one child already, and are having another one of the same sex, then it should be a social gathering. Ask for donations to a charity of your choice in lieu of gifts. If you're having a different sex, put small items for a specific gender on your registry. If your kids are more than 10 years apart, a full shower is acceptable.

  So, yes, a "sprinkle" is not only acceptable, it's proper etiquette.

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• chellsii

  January 2012

  If someone is willing to throw you a sprinkle, then go for it. It's a good way to have support from people and doesnt necessarily mean you'll get anything big for baby.

  I had a sprinkle with DS and it was a good get together, and we didnt get any big items like we did with DD, that's the point of a sprinkle, its a smaller celebration than a baby shower.

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• shortpoole

  January 2012

  iLoveblueberries:

  I think its totally acceptable to have a small shower!
  Personally, I wouldnt register anywhere and would use it more as a time to get some little things from people you may need (new pacifiers, diapers, onsies, bibs). But I think it is appropriate!

  
  
  This.  Go for it, just don't register, it'll be nice to have a celebration in anticipation of baby #2  

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• winter-shock member

  January 2012

  I really don't see the point if you have everything.  Unless it is more of a unique shower. I read on here someone talking about a shower they went to where people brought a soup to be frozen with the recipe taped on it. Something like that would be neat. Where it is helping to set you up for the transition of a busy life with 2 kids instead of one. 

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• sweetsugarmama

  January 2012

  I say go for it. I wouldn't register anywhere, just let people buy the fun stuff they want (clothes, etc). If anyone asks let them know you have what you need but always appreciate ________ (diapers, clothes, burp clothes, whatever).

  

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• CC.to.be member

  January 2012

  This pops up all the time here on the Bump. It's def a regional thing. If its common in your area then by all means go for it. It is SUPER tacky around these parts to even throw a "mini shower" for a second or third child. What most people do around here is bring a present when they come visit the baby, so all in all, you still get more things you just don't register or have a party. I always give a gift when a friend or relative has a baby no matter what number child.

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• TBsquared member

  January 2012

  No i think its fine, your new baby will still need a few things

  
  

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• PurpleSnapDragons member

  January 2012

  For 2nd, 3rd, ect children in my area they have a diaper/wipes shower.  Even if you saved everything you still probably need diapers...

  
  
  

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• stemms8810 member

  January 2012

  It's prefectly fine.  My mom and sister are hosting one for me.  My kids will be 5 1/2 years apart and I am having a boy this time.  Regardless, they wanted my 2nd to be celebrated like my 1st was.  I talked to my mom about this and I am going to make a small registry (no big items) of things we will need like: diapers, wipes, baby wash, washcloths, burp cloths, pacifiers, bottles, etc.  Bigger items I already have and won't need.  Friends have also mentioned I should make one so they know what I need when they go shopping. 

  

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• Mamasaurus member

  January 2012

  I would use "mini shower" instead of "sprinkle!" To me, that's what happens when the baby is on my bladder.
  

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• smcgervey member

  January 2012

  I see no big problem with it.  I would just caution her to keep it small and intimate.  Maybe even sell it as a brunch out at a nice restaurant and a way for friends to honor your new little one and get a few new items.

  I had a friend throw a "sprinkle" for a friend of mine who was having baby #3 and it was a boy and her first two were girls.  We threw in some money for a nice gift card and she mentioned that she needed a new changing pad so we pitched in for that as well and had a wonderful dinner/desert party on her back porch.  I saw nothing wrong with it and it was small and fun.
  

  

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• JAP09-02 member

  January 2012

  I think it is perfectly fine.  I would love to have one, and my DD is only 2 years old.  I had a wonderful shower the first time around, but we lived far from our families, so not many family members attended.  That's why I'd like to have one this time, but highly doubt we will, and that's ok too.

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• lucylove619 member

  January 2012

  We threw one for my friend, even though she had her two daughters just a year and a half apart. We wanted to celebrate the second baby just as much as the first - it wasn't about gifts, but more about showing how excited we were for her. It was smaller and we did it at a tea house. She didn't register but we all got her a few small things for baby. I don't see anything wrong with celebrating each baby's arrival - they are no less special just because they're not born first! If your friends want to, I definitely think you should.
  

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• dunemonkey member

  January 2012

  A sprinkle is a great idea. People still want to celebrate the baby. Like others said, dont register. But have fun with it. And if other people dont like it, they dont have to attend.

  

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