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lots to process at work

owlprofowlprof member
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1.  I told my boss that I would be leaving my job at the end of the spring semester.  I feel just awful about it, because I have a really wonderful boss and I love my job.  But the distance is too much (those who know me know my husband lives 1500 miles away), especially as we pursue more complex TTC procedures.  I can't help but think how pissed I will be if we don't end up having success TTC and I have essentially flushed my career down the drain.

2.  My wonderful co-worker who has been commiserating with me about TTC told me that she was pregnant.  I am so, so happy for her and her husband!  And she was so sweet when she told me -- very sensitive and kind.

These two major things caused me to go straight to the cupcake shop, where I proceeded to eat two peanut butter chocolate cupcakes...I am considering going to the liquor store and getting a bottle of wine...or two for tonight.

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  • MelleTXMelleTX member

    Cupcakes and wine sound good to me!

    I know this is so tough on you right now with everything so unsettled. I hope that once you get to Austin and you and your husband get into a good routine that everything will fall in place for you.

    I have to ask a dumb question though. Maybe I missed this from before.... how is it that you and your husband live so far apart? 

    Single Mother by Choice. Life didn't work out the way I planned so I did it on my own. IUI #s 1-3, unmedicated = BFN, IUI #s 4-6, 50mg Clomid, Ovidrel = BFN IVF #1: 23R, 20M, 17F. 5 day transfer 2 blasts. 2 Snowbabies BFP 6dp5dt, Beta #1 7dp5dt = 58, Beta #2 9dp5dt = 114, Beta #3 10dp5dt = 187 1st Ultrasound = 5/3, not much to see yet. 2nd Ultrasound = 5/17, TWINS!!! Hospital Bed Rest at 32 weeks due to pre-ecclampsia and severe edema. Audrey Grace, 5lbs9oz, & Lydia Louise, 6lbs, born via emergency c-section on 12/6/12 at 36w1d My IVF Journey
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  • owlprofowlprof member
    imageMelleTX:

    Cupcakes and wine sound good to me!

    I know this is so tough on you right now with everything so unsettled. I hope that once you get to Austin and you and your husband get into a good routine that everything will fall in place for you.

    I have to ask a dumb question though. Maybe I missed this from before.... how is it that you and your husband live so far apart? 

    My husband was working in DC and I took my current job (in Philly) to be close to him.  He lost his job 4 months after I moved here. Then he moved to Austin (where I had moved away from -- very gift of the Magi).   Unfortunately, neither one of us has very transferable skills -- I am a university professor in a very niche subject, and he has worked in politics his whole career. 

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  • Mrs.McIrishMrs.McIrish member

    I am totally up for cupcakes and wine as well.  Waiting for a call with my current FSH numbers....  

    Maybe the universe is calling you back to Austin and you will find something in your field so you can have a fulfilling career as well as being with DH and of course KU'd...  No one tells you being an adult is this hard!

    TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
    DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
    5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
    OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
    DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
    DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
    CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
    DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

    DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
    First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!

    K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days

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  • Amyaggie97Amyaggie97
    imageMrs.McIrish:

    I am totally up for cupcakes and wine as well.  Waiting for a call with my current FSH numbers....  

    Maybe the universe is calling you back to Austin and you will find something in your field so you can have a fulfilling career as well as being with DH and of course KU'd...  No one tells you being an adult is this hard!

    Isn't that the truth!!!!!!

    Me- 37, DH- 32. TTC- June 2010- Adoption journey started April 2012 image
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  • LlamamamaLlamamama member

    I really truly believe all the cupcake shops in the world opened because of us TTC'ers. 

    It does sound like a lot of process but maybe a change or two is just what you need.  I wish you nothing but the best luck!

    Me: 40 Dh: 41, TTC since August 2009, began Acupuncture and Herbs Sept 2011, began Temping and Charting Nov 2011. image
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  • Country Girl in the CityCountry Girl in the City
    That is a lot in your life.  If you are in DC now, please share the cupcakes and wine.  It has been a long week and it is only Wednesday.
    BFP on IVF #2 6/29/2012. Beta #1 7/3 = 522; Beta #2 = 1180; Beta #3 = 6491 image BabyFruit Ticker
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  • brooklynesquebrooklynesque member
    Good luck on figuring out your work situation, owlprof!  So happy for you that you'll be living with your husband again, though.  I'm sure you'll find a way to have it all work out.  Any chance you can get hired at UT?
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  • MelleTXMelleTX member

    Owlprof, I have to tell you...every time I see your screen name, my mind reads owl proof instead of prof. Like you have now protected yourself against owls. It makes me giggle.

    Single Mother by Choice. Life didn't work out the way I planned so I did it on my own. IUI #s 1-3, unmedicated = BFN, IUI #s 4-6, 50mg Clomid, Ovidrel = BFN IVF #1: 23R, 20M, 17F. 5 day transfer 2 blasts. 2 Snowbabies BFP 6dp5dt, Beta #1 7dp5dt = 58, Beta #2 9dp5dt = 114, Beta #3 10dp5dt = 187 1st Ultrasound = 5/3, not much to see yet. 2nd Ultrasound = 5/17, TWINS!!! Hospital Bed Rest at 32 weeks due to pre-ecclampsia and severe edema. Audrey Grace, 5lbs9oz, & Lydia Louise, 6lbs, born via emergency c-section on 12/6/12 at 36w1d My IVF Journey
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  • Maybe JoleisaMaybe Joleisa member

    I definitely dig your coping mechanisms--yum!

    I can't imagine how difficult it has been being away from your DH.  Best of luck in finding an awesome University job in Texas!


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    IUIs # 1-5 = BFFN
    IVF # 1(July 2012) = BFN
    IVF # 2 (November 2012) = BFP (MIssed MC D&C @ 8w3d on 1/10/13)
    IVF # 3 (June 2013) = BFN 
    IVF # 4 (September 2013) = BFP Fraternal twin boys! (Loss at 21w6d due to IC on 1/26/14...devastated.)
    3/21/14--TAC (transabdominal cerclage) w/Dr. Davis in NJ
    IVF # 5 (May 2014) = BFN
    FET (August 2014) = BFN

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  • happywifemomofonehappywifemomofone member
    Cupcakes and wine sounds divine.....a virtual party.  Sorry to hear that you have to leave a job you love, but often things end up turning out as you had never previously imagined.  Hope that your move to Austin is just what your TTC efforts needs.
    TTC since 10/09 Me-43 DH-44 RE and testing 10/10-11/10, Recommending IVF 1/11 New RE AMA and DOR-DH low motility IVF #1.1 cancelled 3/11 due to poor response IVF #1.2 May 2011, one perfect 8-cell embryo, 3dt-BFN, IVF #2.1 Converted to IUI d/t poor response. New RE 9/2011. IVF 2.2 completed using HGH,EPP,DHEA, Q-10 and accupuncture. Transferred one 8-cell, grade one embryo on 10/19. BFP 10/31/11 Chemical pregancy on 11/2/11. Started stims for IVF #3, our final try, on 12-2-11. ET on 12/18. Transferred 3 Grade A embryos-BFFN Planning DE IVF, late March/early April- Donors ER expected to be 4/2-4/4. PAIF/SAIF welcome
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  • Bubs711Bubs711
    Praying that you're guided on the right path for you!
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  • ksmielitzksmielitz
    That is a lot to process!!  I hope your return to TX results in a very quick, H&H 9 month pregnancy!!
    Loving life with DH, DS (5), DD and Angel Baby DS watching down from Heaven! We are excited to be trying for our final LO! Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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  • pillowasspillowass member
    How bittersweet! I hope the cupcakes helped soothe the anxiety and I hope you are currently enjoying a nice wine buzz!
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    TTC #2 since July 2010
    FSH = 11 (20 on day 10 of CCCT)/ AMH = .98 / AFC=12ish
    5 IUI's with oral meds = all BFN
    March 2012 IVF (MDL Protocol) Started stims 3/3; ER 3/11 (9R, 8M, 7F) ET 3/16 (5dt of 2 blasts graded 3AB and 3BA, 3 frosties(!!) Beta 3/26 = 386; Beta 3/28 = 827; u/s 4/11 says TWINS! Boy/Girl Twins delivered at 36 weeks 6 days

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  • 10-4LilBuddy10-4LilBuddy member

    That is a very tough decision.  I think it is the right decision - you will have no regrets in giving your family your best effort. 

    The cupcakes sound delicious.  I wish I had them...

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  • MelleTXMelleTX member

    Because everyone deserves cupcakes and wine

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    Single Mother by Choice. Life didn't work out the way I planned so I did it on my own. IUI #s 1-3, unmedicated = BFN, IUI #s 4-6, 50mg Clomid, Ovidrel = BFN IVF #1: 23R, 20M, 17F. 5 day transfer 2 blasts. 2 Snowbabies BFP 6dp5dt, Beta #1 7dp5dt = 58, Beta #2 9dp5dt = 114, Beta #3 10dp5dt = 187 1st Ultrasound = 5/3, not much to see yet. 2nd Ultrasound = 5/17, TWINS!!! Hospital Bed Rest at 32 weeks due to pre-ecclampsia and severe edema. Audrey Grace, 5lbs9oz, & Lydia Louise, 6lbs, born via emergency c-section on 12/6/12 at 36w1d My IVF Journey
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