Anyone watch Anderson today? SAHM vs. Working moms

KGF625 · January 2012

I watched it and I was so aggravated by that woman who said stay at home moms are lazy!!! I am a stay at home mom and I am totally not lazy! I consider it a sacrifice I made to take care of my son instead of opting to put him in daycare. Up until he was born, literally to the day, I always held 2 jobs, one full time one part time, and went to college, and completed my master's degree in teaching. I taught for 3 years before staying home. I am an educated and motivated woman but consider myself lucky to be able to stay home with the support of my husband, I don't think this makes me lazy!

On the same token, I hold nothing against working mothers. Whether it be because you don't feel like staying home is meant for you or you cannot financially do it, I respect you and your decision.

I just hated the way the show was bascially showing how judgemental and mean moms can be against eachother. I think it is a personal decision for everyone to make, there is no right answer, and no one should be judged for what they choose to do.

LAZY! I still cannot get over it.

gisa886 · January 2012

SAHMs are not any lazier than working moms. I feel like I work harder staying at home than I did when I worked outside of the house. That really sounds more like an episode of Tyra than what I would expect out of Anderson Cooper.

AshasaurusRex · January 2012

I think some SAHMs can be lazy if they choose to not do much all day, just like some people can be lazy at their jobs. I am definitely not a lazy SAHM though.

KGF625 · January 2012

AshasaurusRex:

I think some SAHMs can be lazy if they choose to not do much all day, just like some people can be lazy at their jobs. I am definitely not a lazy SAHM though.

Totally agree! I think that any person can be lazy but it isn't staying at home that automatically makes them that way. A person who would be a lazy stay at home mom was probably a lazy person at work too. One thing doesn't go with the other. This woman basically was saying all women who stay at home are lazy and that it is an excuse to avoid responsibility!!! If you go on andersoncooper.com you can see videos from the episode.

amykins1283 · January 2012

As a teacher, I kind of get to see both sides (since I'm basically a SAHM all summer).

Working and taking care of Liam is exhausting but staying home, doing all the housework, and taking care of Liam is also exhausting. There isn't one that is easier than the other, they are just different.

I think that a lot of women just like to try and find ways to one up one another. I really don't see the point. I am hoping to be a SAHM one day and I'm sure there will be times when I miss working. They are both equally easy/difficult in my experience.

TBLilyRose · January 2012

I'd love to have one day to just be lazy.

AmericanInOz · January 2012

yea just give whoever says that an 18 month old for a day!

my brother was watching dd recently for a few days while I worked and he was surprised how hard it is to get anything else done - that is was such a busy day!

the only way to be lazy as a SAHM IMO is to let the tv babysit all day - and I KNOW most SAHMs wouldn't do that

I work 3 days a week, but I sure don't think ALL SAHMs are lazy - I know how hard it is!! but there definitely are some

JJ1973 · January 2012

Silly, silly show. I only watched a couple clips just now, but I was offended by the SAHM who claims she has a much better bond with her children than working mothers. Seriously? That's just stupid. But I guess after being called "lazy" I'd probably say something mean, too. What a ridiculous topic.

KGF625 · January 2012

JJ1973:
Silly, silly show. I only watched a couple clips just now, but I was offended by the SAHM who claims she has a much better bond with her children than working mothers. Seriously? That's just stupid. But I guess after being called "lazy" I'd probably say something mean, too. What a ridiculous topic.

It was just a ridiculous show. It didn't show me that one was better than the other, it just made me feel ashamed to be part of a group of women who are called mothers that have no problem bashing eachother! I don't think women who stay home automatically have a better bond, I think that is completely up to the mother, working or not, to form the bond that they need and want with their child. But totally agree that if I was just called lazy I would want to come up with something to say back.

shakes · January 2012

Mommy wars are annoying.

I am not lazy but for sure my working mom friends are "happier" in the day to day. I'll be the first one to admit that there are days when the poop is flying that all I want to do is cry and wished I was working. But I am sure it's the exact opposite of working moms. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. It's not the first time I've heard people say that SAHM's are lazy. Nor was it the first time did I hear someone say that Working Mom's are neglecting their kids ( "I didn't have a baby to let someone else raise it", I effing hate that comment) BUT I do think throwing around insults about either side indicates maybe you wish you were on the other side of the fence.

My point, it was childish.

nancy30005 · January 2012

I agree. Very frustrating show. Every mom has challenges and struggles; to have Anderson of all peeps host such a show was sad. (I almost thought the "who wins the battle" premise was ratings-driven.)

I didn't care for the working mom that said SAHM's didn't keep in shape.
I didn't care for the SAHM that said she had a better bond with her kids.

Why can't all moms just agree being a mom rocks and we all love our kids, no matter what?

AmericanInOz · January 2012

shakes:

Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

SO true - exactly why there's no point in doing shows about that subject - there IS no right answer!!

SoDoMojo · January 2012

Yeah... I watched it too. I knew I'd get all riled up about something someone said. One of the WMs said something along the lines of "you get up, get your kid fed and dressed, clean, but then what do you do?"... I was practically yelling at the TV "I DO IT ALL OVER AGAIN!" It was like she didn't understand the fact that kids kinda need more attention than just a once over in the morning.

I feel like on TB people seem to be cool with SAHMs vs. WMs. But whenever this topic gets brought up on TV all the WMs they bring in are complete b!tches that think SAHMs just lounge around all day. And the SAHMs spend the whole hour defending themselves. Why they gotta be hatin'?!

rodiesmum · January 2012

nancy30005:
Why can't all moms just agree being a mom rocks and we all love our kids, no matter what?

this. the show was just so disappointing.

pepomntpat · January 2012

mbenit4:
I didn't see the show but it sounds like it was stupid. I don't think either has it easy per say however I just spent 2 weeks home with the kids and it a bit easier when you don't have to get up, look presentable, and dress 2 of them to get them somewhere for a certain time and get yourself somewhere for a certain time.

There is more down time or maybe not down time but fun time at home doing stuff with the kids, etc. During the week I am on from 4am when I get up with SO, then from 6am-11pm I am pretty much non stop. When all I had to do was be home with the kids my time was like 7am (still had to bring DD to school), back home, nap time from 10-12pm, then DS would be up and I pretty much was non stop until 8pm when kids are in bed. I don't have to get us ready for the next day or prep anything or lay clothes out, etc.

For me, SAH is easier because of the whole being somewhere for a certain time. I was able to do more during the day which frees up night. For me, I never wanted to SAH. The times I have done it, I get bored, I feel isolated. JMO.

Well, see, that was a vacation for you.That was not being a SAHM. I SAH, but we get up and somewhere everyday. Otherwise I would be bored and isolated.

And I am lazy as far as house work goes. But I was lazy about that when I was a single working gal. I am not lazy as far as entertaining, educating, feeding, dressing DD. DD won't let me! LOL! Also my house is cleaner and more orderly than it ever was-for DD's sake.

Molluskwrangler · January 2012

I think a lot of that venom gets thrown around because it's a way to deal with guilt moms feel about not being home, not being at work making money so we push the guilt around. Mommy guilt is awesome.

None of it's easy and yeah you can be lazy at work or at home.

Ardmhs83 · January 2012

I would have been upset too. I am a school teacher so I get to SAH all summer long and during long breaks. I would LOVE to be a SAHM, but my DH is also a teacher and we can't afford for me to stay home. I will say this...my days are harder when I'm at home all day with Carter than what they are at work.

Lyssapee · January 2012

I work, and I KNOW that it is easier to work, that SAH.

I would love to stay home with DD, but I need to work, it makes me a better mom and wife.

BelleIsa · January 2012

I've been both, and for me working gives me more 'me' time but more general anxiety because the house is a mess. When I'm working I can take coffee breaks and lunches with friends. I can take my book and read in the sun over my lunch break without worrying that DD will run into traffic. When I was at home, there was no break until we hired a nanny two afternoons a week.

I had more time as a SAHM to stay on top of the laundry and housework. We had more homecooked meals because I had more energy to do that kind of thing. When I get home from work the last thing I want to do is spend time away from DD in the kitchen, whereas when I was home, I could do prep work while she took her afternoon nap and get a nice meal done while DH was playing with her when he got home from work.

It's a balancing act either way, and both involve a sacrifice of a different kind. Neither is better.

driveshorses · January 2012

I am far lazier at work than I am at home. I go to work to catch a break from the never ending stuff at home. I couldn't be a SAHM because I'd never get a break!

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