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May 2012 Moms
Older women suck (longish)
Older women suck
(longish)
Jerkish statement I
know but I wish these older women I know would shut it. They have an old school
mentality about pregnancy and childbirth and it drives me nuts. I have been
pretty laid back during this pregnancy but I really focus on getting the proper
nutrients, exercise, not drinking, being around smoke and pre-natal care, me and
MH TTC for 2 years and had 2 m/c, we wanna be cautious.
Today my supervisor
asked me how I was feeling (took my first work from home day yesterday because I
was exhausted from popping bones all the night before) and I said "pretty good
actually, just have to talk to my doctor at my next appointment about these
popping bones, they kept me up all night long and it was painful. Her response
"oh your just worrisome, your going to worry yourself into pre-term Labour".
Really? Really? The one and only issue I have had in 5 months, that I wasn't
even going to talk about is me being "worrisome". Also, please do not say that
I am going to go into pre-term labour!!
And last night was
MH dreaded call with MIL and she was asking about me and he was so proud and
said something like "she's great, she looks as amazing as ever just with a bump
on the front of her, she has been continuing her excercise which makes her feel
good and taking really good care of herself and the baby. She has monthly
appointments and the boy looks to be doing very well". And she just responed
with "well when I was pregnant with you boys I was fat, dumb and happy, and it
was all good. Didn't need to quit smoking or drinking, ate whatever I wanted
and only went to the hospital when I went into labour, that's how we did it and
you ended up fine".
So lame. If you
read all of this you get a chocolate covered strawberry, or at least that is
what I am going to have 
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Re: Older women suck (longish)
I'm so sorry that woman said you were going to go into pre term labor. What is with people?! But I know what you mean about the older generation.
My mother in law is SOOOO old school. And I'm not exaggerating here. She lives in Croatia, in a tiny village and doesn't even have electricity. That's the level I'm talking.
Anyways, she told me that I should only gain 15 pounds the whole labor b/c that's all she gained (BTW, I am of normal weight). She told me any more would be irresponsible. She also told me that an epidural was "unnecessary and could kill me." Yep, she actually thinks if I get an epidural, there's a good chance I will die.
And recently she told me that I should, under no circumstance, get induced. Her exact words were "Doctors don't know anything, the baby will come when it comes. If you're a few weeks after your due date, that's okay." I wanted to punch her through the phone. I told her that I've already gained 15 pounds, I most likely will be getting an epidural and that there was no way that I was going to go "a few weeks past my due date" and that drs don't even let you do that now b/c of the risks. AHHHH she is maddening!!
So tired of the "it worked for me" advise, especially when I was minding my own business and not asking for it. ps - jpcvet, I pm'd you last week
Ashleydia - your MIL is nuts just like mine, can't believe she said gaining more that 15 lbs would be irresponsible, we are all different lady! Glad you stood up to her.
All of this. So sorry you're dealing with stupid people!
LOL, my mom said she only gained 17 pounds, and I was a 9 1/2 pound baby! I'm not sure that's even possible. While I don't think older women suck, I do think their memories of the pregnancy and baby stages are pretty cloudy.
Mmmm... I want a chocole covered strawberry!
)
There's an old lady at church who keeps asking me if we're having twins and I keep telling her no and that I make sure they double check every time we have an ultrasound (which for us has been every month for one reason or another) and she keeps saying, "When I was pregnant with my twins they swore I was only having one until I delivered the second one! You just never know!"
They didn't even have ultrasounds when she had her twins... Ugh...
Hmmm in this case, older is mid 50's and early 60's. Trust me, I know a lot of amazing middle age and old ladies that are totally cool, but there seem to be a lot out there that are so oblivious.
Everything I say my MIL is all about what she did... umm... my hubby is 30 and his brother is 27. That's how long it's been since you had your own kids. Things are different and I am not you. I have my own health to contend with and am doing just fine the way things are going.
What I hate most is that my hubby's aunt keeps telling me I am going to have a bit baby because I have Type 1 Diabetes. "All diabetics have big babies." umm, no. The extra sugar in the blood gives the baby extra calories and thus, bigger baby. If my sugars are in control (which they have been the best ever since becoming preggo!!), then I have no more chance of having a big baby than the next lady. I was 6lbs2oz when I was born and hubby was 8lb1oz. My brother was 7lb15oz. Nothing alarmingly huge there... sheesh!!